Healing Birth

30/03/2026

If you can’t talk about your birth without crying, this is for you.

Birth trauma doesn’t always look like what you’d expect. It doesn’t have to be dramatic or obvious. Sometimes it’s quiet… a feeling you can’t shake, a story you’ve never fully told, a nagging sense of failure.

Swipe through and see if any of these land.

If they do, I want you to know something. You are not overreacting. You are not broken. You didn’t fail at birth.

You either struck some really sh*tty bad luck, or you were failed (most likely the latter).

Healing is possible. And you are absolutely worthy of that healing.

Save this if it resonates. Share it with someone who needs it. And follow along. There’s a lot more where this came from
x Carla

30/03/2026

25/02/2026

🌼✨ New podcast episode out now ✨🌼

This podcast episode delves deep into the art of tuning into our bodies and trusting the messages we hear in response. Zarna’s story is a profound example of this. Her first birth was planned to be at home, but at 42 weeks of pregnancy her midwife was no longer willing to support her in a home birth. Zarna reluctantly agreed to a Misoprostol induction at the hospital. On entering her room, the obstetrician proclaimed, “What are you doing, your baby is not coming out this way!”, believing that Zarna’s uterine fibroids would be in the way of birthing her baby vaginally. A c section under GA ensued, along with the added threat of a potential hysterectomy should the fibroids cause extensive bleeding.

The OB advised Zarna against attempting a VBAC for any future pregnancies. But when pregnant with her next baby, her body told her otherwise. Zarna chose not to have any medical or midwifery care throughout her pregnancy, and despite her fibroids clearly taking up a good portion of space in her lower womb, she planned a home birth with just her man present, and a birth keeper in the wings.

Zarna’s is a remarkable story of tuning in, trust, and healing. She is eager to share her story of birthing with fibroids because she found there was such a lack of such stories for her to lean on in her own pregnancies.

“It is cool that now after this birth the fibroids no longer feel like obstacles - I have such acceptance and love for them and all they have brought me for calling me deeper into trust in my body.” (Zarna)

Also discussed in this podcast episode:
🌿 Microbiome seeding
🌿 Managing fears that came up in pregnancy
🌿 Women’s Circle support in Far North
🌿 Empathy Angels service
🌿 Meconium in the waters
🌿 Partner’s ecstasy
🌿 Vaginal tear - healed naturally with Manuka honey
🌿 Wonderful postpartum

🌼 Connect with Zarna via her Instagram page

🌼 Find out more about the far North Women’s Circle via Zarna or Hannah

🎧 Listen now on your favourite podcast platform. Here’s the link to listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4PyXDlxiy1TBGolSosSlhK?si=g9sZDkmHS-GDPKACzzXxsA
🌱 Or watch this episode on the Healing Birth YouTube channel: https://youtu.be/q00qpn7HDdE?si=QWVIPo3oLzR3Xahm

23/02/2026

Even though we may not fully grasp the meaning of life and the purpose of our existence, we have an innate sense that living life is not primarily focused on avoiding death.

We travel despite the risks of dying in an accident.

We lay in the sun despite the dangers of UV exposure.

We swim in the ocean despite the risks of drowning.

We occasionally indulge in things that we know are bad for our health.

We connect with others even though there’s a risk they pass a disease on to us… and so on.

We accept there is a degree of risk in everything we do partly because we know there is also inherent reward and importance tied up in these things; we know to avoid death at all costs, is in itself risky. As well, it surely defeats the purpose of our existence, even if we don’t know what that purpose is.

If only we applied the same understanding to birth and were more concerned with the meaning and purpose behind the process of giving birth and being born.

We forgo our homebirth to have our labour medically induced because we are 42 weeks pregnant and we are told our placenta might start failing and our chances of a stillbirth rise. What are we potentially risking by attempting to avoid that very small chance of stillbirth?

Could there be more to the process of giving birth and being born than we realise; a ‘higher purpose’ that serves the wellbeing of our entire planet?

Birth impacts our relationship with ourselves, our baby, our partner, our community, our environment and with life itself. When we embrace the lessons that the powerful process of birth affords us, we grow and learn and open up to new ways of being and of living life that we may not otherwise have discovered.

A big part of healing our earth begins with healing birth.

20/02/2026

It is often said that fear causes the labouring body to stop or slow down so as to protect the baby from being born into an unsafe environment - our labouring bodies read our fear as meaning 'this is an unsafe time to give birth to a very dependent newborn'. Indeed, this is information I share with others I work with. However, this only really applies when the fear is excessive, such as during a disempowering or scary birth experience.
This is an important piece of information for those who, despite their best efforts at healing, are still left feeling some fear going into their next birth. When we have done the work to process and heal from our traumatic birth, more often than not we still hold onto a degree of fear surrounding how our next birth will play out.
This is COMPLETELY NORMAL. This is the body's way of trying to protect us from experiencing a repeat traumatic birth. I talk with my clients about 'befriending their fear'. I encourage them to imagine their fear as a slightly overprotective friend, and to picture their fear sitting on their shoulder rather than consuming their mind or body. When that fear, doubt or anxiety starts talking to them, I suggest they say, "I hear you fear, thank you for trying to protect me but it's okay, I've got this." Feel the fear and give birth anyway. Your body is made for this!

If you want help to unpack your birth trauma, and support to plan for a positive and healing next birth, please send me a DM or head to my website. Or if it's training you're after, don't delay... Learn the art & science of holistic birth trauma support... the Healing Birth Practitioner Training course starts next week! Reach out now!
https://www.healingbirth.co.nz/hb-practitioner-training

18/02/2026

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16/02/2026

At a birth I attended a few years ago, one of the other ‘birth support team’ people was distressed that the labouring woman wasn’t having any vaginal exams to check progress. When the labouring woman was in the thick of transition, though of course we didn’t know with any certainty that she was at ‘that stage’ at the time, her Mother in Law said to her, “Love, we need to get you checked. We need to know that everything is progressing as it should.” The birthing woman turned to her midwife and asked if she did need an examination. The midwife responded “No, I don’t need to examine you, but if you want one, we can talk about it.” Perfect. That reassurance was enough for the birthing woman to ignore her MIL’s pleas. I took the MIL aside and explained some of the things that I shared in this post with her. It was either that or tell her that she needed to go and be elsewhere for the rest of the birth, as I was requested to do by the birthing woman during the birth planning process. The MIL was much better after that, though she replaced her please with “You’re doing great. Baby will be here soon.” Hmm… might need another post on unhelpful birth/time predictions in labour. I’ve given birth 3 times. I haven’t had one vaginal exam in labour.
How about you? What was your experience of VE’s in labour?
If you want help to unpack your birth trauma, and support to plan for a positive and healing next birth, or if you're someone who is interested in learning the art and science of holistic birth trauma support so you can assist others to find healing, please send me a DM or head to my website. If it's training you're after, don't delay... the Healing Birth Practitioner Training course starts next week!
Reach out now!

https://www.healingbirth.co.nz/hb-practitioner-training

16/02/2026

“I started pushing with contractions, but I wasn’t fully dilated so I was told to stop pushing”
“They examined me and said I was 10cm so they told me to start pushing with contractions. I didn’t have any real urge to though.”
“They were telling me to take a deep breath, put my chin to my chest and push with all my might. I had to do this through the whole contraction. It was really hard and exhausting.”
…these are the sorts of things that I hear repeatedly in my work. Such actions and instructions often completely disrupt an otherwise perfectly normal birth. Pushing before we are physiologically ready (which a 10cm dilated cervix does NOT necessarily tell us) is a recipe for exhaustion and the consequent need for other interventions – forceps/ventouse, CS. It can also lead to a higher chance of fetal distress, baby getting stuck and PPH, not to mention the fallout from any ensuing trauma.
I worked with a woman a few years ago who shared the following…
She was labouring well. Her midwife did a VE and discovered she was 10cm dilated. She told the woman to start pushing even though she had no urge to push whatsoever. This woman pushed in vain for 2 hours because, despite feeling that she was pushing against a brick wall and feeling that the baby was stuck, she trusted her midwife was telling her to push for good reason. At this point the Dr was asked to come and access things and found she was only 3cm dilated. That completely ‘undid’ this poor woman. She gave up, exhausted, as you would and caved to the epidural that she desperately had wanted to avoid. Her birth went from good to traumatic, and it was completely unnecessary.
Just as our bodies almost invariably know how to grow a healthy baby without the need for instruction or interference, so they know how to birth the baby. Other mammals don’t need to be told when and how to push during birth. We are mammals, too. As women, we are designed for birth. We innately know how to do this very normal, healthy thing.
It is, quite honestly, ridiculous to assume otherwise.

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14/02/2026

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