05/09/2025
Post partum 'me time' .secret.sauna.nz
Why is it so important? Read below
After 3 kids and a little self discovery. I truly feel the meaning of 'mothers need to fill their cups'. When we are parenting on an empty cup, we can often feel guilt and shame for the way we are parenting. Being easy to snap or maybe dissatisfied with our time with our kids. I used to be able to envision the parent I wanted to be, but could never make my vision a reality because I was parenting on empty. I would also try my best to get some 'me time' by going out and doing things I loved on my own. This was great, but after 5 minutes of being home in the chaos and a tantrum or two later, I was feeling empty again. Now, I realise filling your cup truly extends to everything you do throughout your day, whether you're spending time with the kids or out getting some well-deserved 'me time.'
So, how do we fill our cup whilst parenting? It is so simple yet may at first seem impossible when I say it. The secret is to only spend time with your kids that you enjoy. If something is happening that you are not enjoying, then you have the power to change it. Our kids are so adaptable they work well with boundaries and they will learn to behave the way we behave. If we are constantly sacrificing our time for them, then when they grow up, rest assured they will be sacrificing themselves for others.
So I encourage you always, put yourself first, let your love and light shine bright at your core, and then watch as it spreads to those you love.
Mitra xx
