31/10/2025
When our children fear the consequences of being real with us, they begin to hide.
They learn to say what we want to hear. They play the role that keeps the peace. They become careful. Polished. Selective. And little by little, we stop seeing them — and start seeing only the version they believe is safe to show.
But sometimes, they go further. They don’t just hide who they are… they stop being who they are.
They disconnect from their instincts, bury their feelings, and reshape themselves to fit the mold they think we need them to fill.
Not to lie. Not to manipulate.
But to survive.
And that’s how we lose them.
Not all at once. But slowly, quietly — until one day, we wonder why they no longer open up, why they seem distant, or why they’re struggling to know who they are.
This is why it matters.
Not because we expect perfection — but because our children should never have to choose between our love and their truth.
They should grow up knowing that being fully themselves is not a risk, but a right.
That their wholeness never puts our connection in jeopardy — it’s what makes it real. ❤️
