Thrive and Strive Therapy Center

02/02/2026

Neat pincer skills are a fine motor skill used in daily tasks like picking up small objects, turning the page of a book, threading a needle, picking up lint from your shirt, etc.

When we work on these skills in OT sessions, we should emphasize precision, control, and finger isolation, not speed. Quality of movement is more important than quantity.

MORE information and activity ideas: https://www.theottoolbox.com/neat-pincer-grasp-activities

01/02/2026

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Be careful not to become a parent your child only experiences during discipline.

Parenting is exhausting. Some days, correction feels like the only place we have energy left to show up. But children don’t remember us by how often we corrected them, they remember how we made them feel when we entered the room.

Kids grow up. Emotional memory doesn’t.

Imagine if the only time someone spoke to you was to point out what you did wrong. No curiosity. No laughter. No warmth. Just correction. That’s how it can feel for a child when a parent shows up mostly to manage behavior.

Children crave connection long before they understand consequences.
They need to know they’re seen when they’re happy, bored, excited, unsure, and struggling, not just when they’ve messed up.

Presence in the good moments builds trust.
And trust is what makes discipline land as guidance instead of rejection.

When a child mostly experiences you as the voice of correction, they start to brace themselves when you walk in. Your footsteps signal trouble instead of safety. They stop running toward you with excitement and start preparing for judgment.

Over time, kids may learn to hide mistakes instead of asking for help.
To fear your reaction instead of trusting your support.
To believe love shows up most clearly when they’ve failed.

Presence isn’t just about correcting, it’s about showing up for the ordinary moments too. The laughter. The curiosity. The small wins. The quiet conversations no one posts about.

Discipline without presence may create compliance.
But presence with discipline creates trust.

And trust is what keeps your child coming back to you long after they no longer have to.

Children need consistent guidance, but they need consistent warmth even more.
When connection comes first, correction feels less like rejection and more like care.

Relationship first. Discipline second.
Because kids listen best to the people they feel closest to.

28/01/2026

What does a safe learning environment look like for you?

If you could set up the optimal learning environment for yourself, what would that include? How would it feel?

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28/01/2026

“A listening ear creates space for trust to grow.”🩵

28/01/2026

“What we speak today becomes the voice they carry tomorrow.”❤️‍🩹

28/01/2026

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21/01/2026

Behind every outburst is a child needing understanding, not fixing.🤎

21/01/2026

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When a child is mid-meltdown, they’re not choosing chaos.
They’re in distress.

A meltdown isn’t “bad behaviour” — it’s a nervous system overload. And in that moment, your child doesn’t need a lecture, a consequence, or a power struggle.

They need safety.
They need you to be their calm when their brain can’t find it.

This is the bit that’s hardest for adults (because we’re human too): the words they shout in overwhelm aren’t the truth of who they are. They’re the spill-over of a brain that’s flooded.

So if you’re in the thick of it right now, here’s your reminder:
Less talking. Softer voice. Lower demands. Stay close enough to feel safe.
We don’t calm children down — we calm with them. 💜

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21/01/2026

Attention and focus in the classroom...there's a lot going on! Here's a resource: https://www.theottoolbox.com/how-to-help-kids-pay-attention-sensory-movement/

Attention and focus are strongly influenced by sensory regulation, especially proprioceptive input.

Heavy work activities provide deep pressure through muscles and joints, helping organize the nervous system so students can attend, follow directions, and persist with tasks.

Try Wall Push Ups as a quick brain break:
1. Place hands on the wall
2. Step feet back
3 Bend elbows and push the wall away
4. Complete 10 slow repetitions

This activity supports:
✅Sustained attention
✅Impulse control
✅Body awareness
✅Task readiness

Clinical takeaway:
When attention is low, adding movement can be more effective than repeating verbal cues.

This strategy is appropriate for:
✅ Classrooms
✅Therapy sessions
✅Homework routines
✅Transitions between tasks

21/01/2026

Kids need a good sense of balance for many areas of learning, behavioral and emotional development...https://ilslearningcorner.com/balance-milestones-development/

03/01/2026

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Co-regulation equals connection.

But sometimes, even with the best intentions, we accidentally send mixed signals.

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03/01/2026

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