28/11/2025
# salamatDOH
KUMUSTA KA?!
After earthquake and typoon hit, and other personal struggles I/ we/ you have encountered, have you ever ask that question to your selves or to those dear to you/us?💭🤔🧐😔
Filipinos are known for being resilient! Overly resilient!?! We often tell ourselves LABAN LANG!💪, cge padayon lang ta ug kasikas, kudkud kalabaw ug kabayo... But we never ask ourselves if we are truly ok. A famous line from a comercial "Para saan tayo bumabangon?" But never asked if taking one's self , self centered act or self preservation?! Or shall we say, g kapoy ka?! Pero padayon ghapon?, a Filipino culture?! Does it mean we are truely effective and logical to have , or ok not to have self care? Cge laban lang! We tolerate it! Thats why we deserve it! As a doctor, and first doctor in the family, i have often experinced high pressure environment where constant decision making, leadership responsibilities and emotional demands takes a significant impact. Based on my experiences ( sickness and death of my father where all my siblings ask and wait for my decision, sick in the family even not my specialty, they think i know it all and obligated to have answers). Maayo nalang i am rooted to my core values( which is instilled by my parents by the way), if ever i am at lost I call on to the most powerful to give me answer. Does this mean i am less of a person or less of a doctor?!
Sometimes too much pressure can cause us fatigue, stigma, stress or burnout or culture related. Are you able to handle it?! Is dealing with IT a tough call? This is where good communication comes. Wether we like it or yes, we need to experience and learn, we need to keep exposing ourselves to constant strain and opportunities. We dont have to run with it! We must be grounded by our core values. They say we cannot teach what we dont know or give what we dont have. So if your stressed out, burn out, in doubt or lost. Leave those problem behind and find your passion and what motivates you!
If you are family oriented then turn to your family and have quality time. They said we have plenty of time when we die! But no time for family.😔 We have different backgrounds, different upbringing, different culture but we find common grounds our core values!
I think i learn this somewhere, or maybe one of my conversation with my late grandfather. " Leave your crown with those papers" it means whatever achievements we have made or how many additions we have on our last name, in the house i am not a doctor, i am a child of my parents, i do chores, i do things what's being said by my parents for they are superior than me?! No because I am not what I am today if not for them! So, basically thats my core value, and maybe i dont have the kind of stress younger generation have because i know where i belong, i know where i can run to, i know my safe place even without asking and speaking🤔( my thoughts though). As my sister would say " its your choice!" Striking?! But true! its not true that we dont have a choice! We have a choice! But the effects of our choices, the chances that we are given in that specific choice, is the reflection of our responsibility! We do the right things for the right time! If choosing YOU is choosing for the better ?! Then choose you!
Do i make some sense? Or just rattling ( kay nka me time?!)
KUMUSTA KA?!👋🐕🦮💭