Psychotherapy Lisbon

31/01/2026

True vs false self

Your attempt to be who I need you to be is the false self. And the
pathologies labeled “narcissistic” are simply the result of your
being who you were needed to be rather than who you really were.

- Stephen Johnson

28/01/2026

on narcissistic injury:

The individual can be as magnificent as she was born to be and
as weak and vulnerable as she was born to be. When the environment lets her be, she is, and there is no disorder of the self.

But, when what you are is too much or too little, too energetic or not energetic enough, too sexual or not sexual enough, too stimulating or not stimulating enough, too precocious or too slow, too independent or not independent enough . . . , you cannot freely realize yourself.

That is the narcissistic injury.

- Stephen Johnson

19/01/2026

New Anxiety Symptoms article on our website! Link in the comments:

18/01/2026

"Dopamine is a bet on inevitable future change. Evolution favours the restless, the unsatisfied, the novelty cravers tormented by visions of more, because that keeps them from settling into place and, in the end, ensures their greater success."

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15/11/2025

When we say, 'You would feel much better if you woke up earlier,' what we often really mean is, 'I would feel much better if you weren't yourself, but instead transformed into the embodiment of my wishes.'

Unfortunately, a spouse doesn't change as if by magic. So, we start to complain, whine, and grumble. We look for guides and articles that will teach us how to push our agenda in marriage.

We arm ourselves for a fight with reality, deluding ourselves with the hope that the real spouse will disappear and be replaced by an ideal being, straight out of our dreams

27/09/2025

13/06/2025

Assertiveness workshop in Lisbon! Details in the comments.

14/08/2024

Are we forced into relationships?

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