BeYourSelfKids

17/01/2023

Indeed!

Am discutat în acest episod cu Diana Vasile, psihoterapeut și președintele Institutului pentru Studiul și Tratamentul Traumei, despre cm și de ce se produce...

12/09/2022

Limitele in relatia cu un copil sunt pentru siguranta si indrumarea llui,nu pentru controlul(,de fapt,iluzia controlului) parintelui/parintilor.

16/07/2022

Indeed.

Studies show that when a child’s is being affected by or any strong emotion, the area of their brain responsible for logical thought and cognition (as well as memory!) is compromised as a result.

This is why we ‘can’t think straight’ when we’re upset, worried or under pressure. The frontal cortex or ‘higher thinking brain’ quite literally isn’t as accessible as it would be if your child was emotionally regulated.

If you want your child to start a nerve-wracking situation with their best foot forward, you need to be intentional in helping your child feel emotionally grounded. The process of helping your child work through their big emotions is not as overwhelming as it may sound. There are a few basic things you can do:

🎈 Stay connected— Having a safe landing place (not just physically but emotionally!) is crucial for your child to feel supported and confident in school. Finding at least a small amount of time each day to set down your phone to be present with your child will help to meet their need for love and attunement.

🎈Establish a ritual— Creating rituals to help ease separation anxiety is another wonderful way to keep the parent-child bond strong and provide a relational buffer for your child. Some ideas for rituals that establish connection and bonding:
• Special handshake to use right before and after reconnecting
• Your child gets to pick a special meal for the night before the event
• Giving your child something of yours they can bring with them and use as a physical comfort (ie scarf, bracelet, hair tie etc)
• Create a mantra your child can repeat to give them confidence
• Go on a shopping date to prepare together
• Leave lunchbox notes for them to help them feel loved at lunch.

🎈 Give them a safe place to talk— As parents, we all fall into that the trap of talking way more than we listen when it comes to interacting with our child. Being listened to and feeling understood is deeply therapeutic for your child and plants essential seeds for raising an emotionally intelligent child.

🎈 Being intentional with preparation— Kids are concrete thinkers and need a little help when it comes to grasping complex subjects like schedules and timelines. There are lots of ways to make preparing fun and more concrete:
• Making a countdown calendar or paper chain
• Bring your child to get clothing, lunch groceries, supplies etc
• Role-playing scenarios such as lunchtime for younger kiddos
• Visiting the place, such as a classroom, ahead of time
• Reading books about the event to your child
and making a list of questions your child has about it
• Write a story with your child about the day.

🎈 Allow your child some control— A very powerful component of managing stress for humans is feeling some degree of agency or control over your life. Allowing your child to help with simple decisions such as outfits, backpack designs or what they want for lunch will go far to help them feel more secure in an overwhelming situation.

🎈 Be an encourager— Listen to your child’s concerns but seize opportunities to breathe confidence and excitement into conversations. Find out what their favorite parts of their day is and tell them the strengths you see developing in them as time passes.

The secret to an awesome time in independent situations starts with you. With a foundation of emotional intelligence and a strong parent-child relationship, you’ll be setting up your child for an excellent experience.

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12/07/2022

Therapy.Story.Creativity.
Cand un schelet devine un clovn amuzant.
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10/05/2022

Despre Huggy Wuggy si alti capcauni.

In ultima vreme,mai ales din perspectiva de psihoterapeut/psiholog ,am facut cunostiita cu Huggy Wuggy.
De cele mai multe ori,sub imperiul fricii copilului.O frica paralizanta!
Unii dintre ei, chiar primisera in dar si dormeau(de fapt,incercau sa doarma!) cu plusuri Huggy Wuggy.
Si erau atat de inspaimantati....dar,asigurati de adultii din preajma lor ca acesti capcauni sunt simpatici,ca scrie pe eticheta ca sunt"draguti",chiar daca au ranjetul hofos.
Pe diverse canale social-medis, copiii gasesc filmulete/melodii despre Huggy Wuggy.

"Numele meu este Huggy Wuggy

Corp neclar și drăgălaș
Nu vii să mă îmbrățișezi?
Nu vrei să vii să mă îmbrățișezi?

Îmbrățișează-mă zi și noapte
Numele meu este Huggy Wuggy

Dinții ascuțiți te lasă să sângerezi
Dinții ascuțiți te lasă însângerat

Niciodată să nu-mi spui urât.
Să nu-mi spui niciodată urâtă

Ține-mă până mori.
Îmbrățișează-mă până mori.
Știu unde te ascunzi.
Știu unde te ascunzi."...

Si cm ar putea sa nu se teama un copil(in special intre 2-7 ani!) , daca nu e prezent un adult care sa normalizeze oarecum arhetipul capcaunului?!Si sa-l aseze pe Huggy Wuggy acolo unde-I locul...

02/05/2022

ArtTherapy.
Kids are the best teachears❤💛💙

26/04/2022

Hristos a inviat!
🌈Copiii sunt cei mai buni profesori ai bucuriei si acceseaza,instant,copilul liber din fiecare!🦋
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17/01/2022

🐛Despre simplitatea si forta terapiei prin joc si povesti.
Despre cea mai frumoasa resursa a" copilului lumina"-,iubirea- pentru a imbratisa rana "copilului umbra".
O adevarata calatorie in lumea Copilului, in care magia este data de insasi parcurgerea cu sens a acestei calatorii.🦋

19/10/2021

Cam asa...🌈🪂🌸🦋🦄

11/10/2021

🐛Copiii sunt cei mai buni profesori🦋
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02/08/2021

Recomand "Emotiile Sarei": povesti terapeutice despre emotii:firescul,recunoasterea, acceptarea si gestionarea lor.
Unele dontre cele mai indragite de catre copiii pana la 10 ani.
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22/07/2021

Copiii vin prin noi,nu pentru noi!
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