16/01/2026
Most of the suffering doesn’t come from the feeling itself.
It comes from what happens right after you notice it.
You feel it again and, without choosing it, you expect it to be less.
When it isn’t, you get disappointed.
You get annoyed with yourself.
You start pushing the feeling away.
From there, all your attention goes to it.
You think about it more.
You check it more.
You get tired of yourself for still having it.
That’s the part that adds weight.
The shift is simple, but not easy.
Notice the expectation when it appears.
Stop expecting the feeling to be different in that moment.
You don’t have to like the feeling.
You don’t have to agree with it.
You just stop fighting the fact that it’s here.
When the demand drops, the tension around it drops too.
And that gives the system space again.
