Psiholog Kocsis Andreea

01/11/2025

24/10/2025

🤭 Just sayin', no offense!

11/09/2025

De ce nu ne putem schimba, chiar daca ne înțelegem rănile?

Ranile psihice, asemenea ranilor fizice, au nevoie sa fie oblojite si vindecate. Atat ranile fizice cat si ranile psihice au tendinta naturala de a se vindeca singure. Cu cat insa creste compexitatea lor, cu cat creste gradul de disconfort pe care le produc asupra propriului organism si asupra relatiilor importante, cu atat ele pierd din capacitatea de autovindecare si necesita o interventie exterioara tamaduitoare.

In procesul de vindecare al ranilor emotionale este necesara intelegerea lor. Ma refer aici la intelegerea intelectuala, rationala a originii lor, a dinamicii si a scopului lor. Aceasta este situatia in care lectura unei carti, a unui articol aduce uneori lumina in propriile tenebre ale psihicului si ne ajuta sa intelegem mai bine propria suferinta afectiva. In acest caz, ne identificam cu un anumit continut pe care l-am citit sau pe care l-am vazut, identificare ce ne ajuta sa ne apropiem de propriul continut psihic si sa-i dam, intr-o masura, un sens. In acelasi fel, atunci cand intalnim oameni cu experiente similare noua, oameni cu rani emotionale care seamana cu ale nostre, identificarea in acest aspect cu ei si cu experienta lor ne aduce mai aproape de intelegerea rationala a propriei noastre experiente afective.

Intelegerea intelectuala, rationala a suferintei psihice este un aspect important in procesul de vindecare. E necesar sa intelegem cm s-au cristalizat ranile psihice, care e rolul si semnificatia lor. Constientizarea rationala a adevarului e necesara pentru vindecarea suferintei psihice, insa nu e suficienta. Cineva poate sa fi ajuns singur la intelegerea unor aspecte din istoria personala, din dinamica relatiilor familiale, din propria contributie la crearea si intretinerea unor rani emotionale. Aceste adevaruri ii aduc o eliberare, insa rana, desi inteleasa rational, continua sa doara. Probabil ca aceasta persoana, foarte inteligenta si foarte capabila intelectual, si-a folosit mintea, inca din copilarie, intr-un mod in care s-o ajute sa faca fata presiunilor interne si externe. Mintea, capacitatea de a rationa, de a cunoaste din punct de vedere intelectual adevarul, a fost ca un far calauzitor. Adesea, aceasta persoana cunoaste cu precizie cauzele suferintei sale psihice. Gaseste raspunsuri satisfacatoarea la intrebarea “de ce”, insa aceasta intelegere intelectuala nu compenseaza durerea afectiva. Stie de ce, insa nu poate opri suferinta.

Vindecarea implica nu doar cunoasterea rationala, ci si intelegerea afectiva si, mai ales, elaborarea afectiva. Iata de ce, de pilda, cineva poate consulta un psihoterapeut pentru ca un anume simptom psihic, sa zicem o fobie de avion, il deranjeaza. Impreuna cu terapeutul descopera, d**a un timp, ca fobia sa de zbor are legatura cu relatia lui de cuplu si ca fobia reprezinta o deplasare, o deghizare a problemelor traite in relatia de cuplu. D**a aceasta constientizare importanta, pacientul se simte usurat si se asteapta ca simptomul sa dispara. Dar constata cu surprindere ca, la urmatorul zbor, fobia este inca prezenta. Din punct de vedere intelectual, el intelege originea si sensul suferintei sale. Din punct de vedere afectiv, probabil ca e nevoie de o elaborare care sa necesite mult mai mult timp.

11/09/2025

27/06/2025

Somebody really likes this book! 😅📖📙

11/05/2025

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17/04/2025

"Autistic brains produce 42% more information at rest (than neurotypicals). Our brains have LOTS more neurons, SEE IMAGE.

When we say we See More, Hear More, Smell More, Taste More, and Feel More, it's NOT an exaggeration or figure of speech!

We get MORE of ALL the senses. THIS is why we get Overloaded. This is why we have MELTDOWNS.

To you, it's a grocery store. To us, it's: VISUAL Overload (from the sheer number of items we see); COLOR overload (all the labels, plus all the colors of clothing people wear); MOVEMENT Overload (the people moving, the baskets, the forklifts, the cart returns), at All Times, Every Second We're In The Building;

SOUND overload (people talking, wheels squeaking, babies crying, boxes being sliced open, scales moving, forklifts beeping, beep goes the checkout scanners 100's of times a minute), and we HEAR IT ALL, at all times, at dozens or hundreds of times LOUDER than You hear it;

SMELL Overload (we smell every shampoo, conditioner, lotion, shaving cream, soap, deodorant, spice, fruit, vegetable, laundry detergent, and cleaning supply for sale- plus all of that for every individual person in the store!), and we Smell it dozens if not hundreds of times stronger than you smell it;

LIGHTS Overload, aka Photosensitivity. The lights are LITERALLY dozens, if not Hundreds, of times Brighter for US. Some lights are worse than others- and those long tube lights in grocery stores are Number One for Photosensitivity Overload.

DECISION PARALYSIS- Which way to go to start, what item was I getting again? What aisle was that on? How much money do I have to spend today? Oh that person is coming at me, should I slow down or speed up, are they turning, am I blocking what they're getting? Did I want chips? Wait- I have a list. Where's the list? What was I getting again?

Only ALL OF THAT hits in the FIRST TEN SECONDS of entering the building, leaving us FROZEN and UNABLE to proceed. Think of it like LAG, when you ask your electronic to DO TOO MUCH, TOO FAST. That is Decision Paralysis, and it's often brought on, not Just by all those questions (and more) listed, it's brought on because those thoughts are happening WHILE all the OTHER SENSORY items are Overloading our circuits!

This SHUTS DOWN our Executive Function- which is the ability to do things (like drive, get dressed, follow a recipe- grocery shop), and also causes Task Paralysis, the inability to START.

There's going to be a period of Nothing Happening, just Leave Us Alone during this time, and If Left Alone, we'll "catch up" in our brain and be Able to proceed. We may need to Stim during this time, or move our body to calm down- rocking, wringing our hands, twiddling fingers, twirling hair- leave us alone to stim, it's how we self regulate and are able to navigate the Drastic Changes we just experienced."

-Michelle Mason