28/09/2025
Trandafirii si dragostea romantica in Homeopatie / Roses and romantic love in Homeopathy.
Rozaceele sau Familia Trandafirilor, apartin unui ordin mult mai mare numit Rosales. Pe langa trandafirii obisnuiti de gradina, familia contine multe fructe si bace, precum mere, mere padurete, pere, capsuni, zmeura, mure si multe fructe cu samburi precum: piersici, cirese si caise. Ca si trandafirii de gradina, acestea sunt adesea (desi nu intotdeauna) plante cu spini, protejandu-se pe ele insele si fructele lor prin spinii care zgarie .
Fiecare dintre plantele membre ale acestei familii se ocupa de problemele de dragoste romantica si posibilele sale capcane, in mod diferit, pe stadii diferite, asa cm va voi explica, rand pe rand pe fiecare. Fiecare etapa din viata sentimentala a fiecaruia este regasita si reprezentata de catre o planta din familia Rozacee. Fiecare din voi, va veti regasi intr-o anumita etapa de manifestari fizice si psihice, simptome, boli, ca o consecinta a modului si nivelului trairilor dragostei romantice cu partenerul, fie buna fie rea. Deşi acest aspect de "iubire" este în general asociat cu dragostea romantica, aceste remedii pot fi de folos si pentru cei care pun toata pasiunea in munca lor sau in alt domeniu si sfarsesc cu senzatia de dezamagire, daca aceasta nu este regasita.
Multe dintre aceste plante contin precursorii acidului cianhidric, una dintre cele mai letale otravuri cunoscute de om. Mancand fructul, acesta se transforma in acid cianhidric in stomac. Astfel, observam deja mai multe teme ale acestei familii largi: dulceata fructului impreuna cu spinozitatea lui, calitatea intepatoare a protectiei lui, calitatea asfixianta - lipsa de aer si sufocarea - provocate toate de cianurile acestor plante.
Homeopatia foloseste cateva din aceste plante, desi pana de curand, multe dintre ele nu au fost bine-cunoscute ca remedii. Intelegand temele acestei familii si senzatiile care o insotesc, a devenit mult mai usor de recunoscut si prescris bolnavilor. Bine-cunoscutul remediu ’’Crataegus oxyacantha’’ ( Păducelul ) - de exemplu, a fost mult timp folosit pentru problemele cardiace, caracterul sau tepos fiind evident. Pana de curand insa, nu l-am vazut in contextul sau mai larg, care corespunde tuturor Rosaceelor : afectiuni cardiace cauzate de probleme in relatiile romantice de dragoste.
Tema generala a Rosaceelor este descrisa ca "durerea unei inimi frante "; inima si circulatia sunt in general partile corpului unde problemele se manifesta cel mai clar.
Trandafirul este un simbol al iubirii romantice, cu mirosul sau dulce si florile sale frumoase. Acesta este adesea daruit iubitei si utilizat in buchete de mireasa. Marul, de asemenea, este un simbol al iubirii si al sexualitatii. Problemele legate de dragoste se pot reflecta si in sfera sexuala, manifestarile fiind regasite in rubrici ca: agravare ( a simptomelor ) prin actul sexual, plans, tristete si iritabilitate.
Oamenii care au nevoie de un remediu homeopat din familia trandafirilor, au tendinta de a idealiza dragostea – ei viseaza romantic la "Printul pe cal alb" sau "Printesa de neatins". Odata ce acestia se afla intr-o relatie, au tendinta de a da tot ce au. Ei pot fi foarte dulci, dulci ca o piersica sau o cireasa.
Ca sa aduca fericire, sunt adesea foarte veseli, dar au tendinta de a da mai mult decat primesc. Ei traiesc pentru dragostea lor atat de mult incat nu au nici un spatiu pentru ei, nici un loc sa respire. Aerul este acolo, dar acestia nu-l pot respira, deoarece se daruiesc pe ei insisi complet. Cer ca dragostea sa fie perfecta si exclusivista si nu este loc de aventuri. E posibil sa se fi indragostit de cineva care este inaccesibil sau care nu ii iubeste la fel si ajung sa creada ca sunt de neiubit. In cele din urma, se pot simti goliti pentru ca s-au dat pe ei insisi in zadar. Daca dragostea lor este neimplinita, sau si mai rau, daca aceasta este inselata, ei se pot imbolnavi, atat fizic cat si emotional. Apoi, ei pot deveni iritabili, facand remarci urate sau exprimandu-si iritarea in mod constant, aratandu-si latura spinoasa.
Tema dragostei neimpartasite este de asemenea cunoscuta si in remediile de tip NATRIUM. Insa, în cazul Rosacee-lor, persoana este in general dulce si deschisa, spre deosebire de caracterul mineral inchis al Natrium-ului. Remediile de Sulf, de asemenea, au legatura cu problemele legate de "partener", dar cei care au nevoie de un remediu de sulf, sunt in general mai putin idealisti, folosind imbracamintea si machiajul ca mijloace de seductie. Ei tind sa fie infocati si calzi, cu buzele rosii si fara probleme specifice de inima si sufocare, pe cand Rozaceele tind sa fie cianotice si au buzele vinetii.
Generalitati:
Dorinte: dulciuri, capsuni, piersici, prune, mere, pere, caise, mure, zmeura
Aversiuni: ca mai sus
Alimente: fructele samburoase agraveaza simptomele
Uneori este posibil sa recunosti un remediu Rosacee ( adica un bolnav tip Rozacee ) chiar prin dorintele lui pronuntate, aversiune sau alergie la un anumit fruct.
Menstruatii: dureroase, neregulate.
Fizice ( manifestari, simptome):
Vertij, slabiciune
Neurologice: convulsii, epilepsie, ticuri, spasme, inclestarea gurii, coma
Cap; cefalee
Gura: ardere
Pulmonar: respiratie obstrucţionata, astm, dispnee
Inima: aritmie, infarct, esec, decompensare, dilatare, hipertensiune, hipotensiune, angina pectorala
Puls: rapid, lent, greu, moale, puternic, slab, neregulat
Artere: obstructie, arterioscleroza
Stomac: greata
Organele genitale: vaginita, leucoree
Piele: decolorarea in albastru a buzelor, unghiilor, fetei, bratelor.
In sistemul Scholten, remediile sunt asezate pe etape ( stadii, faze ), similar tabelului periodic al lui Mendeleev. Dar acum, aici, sunt prezentate numai temele generale ale fiecarui remediu.
STADIUL 1; ACID CIANHIDRIC
- stadiul acut al familiei Rosaceelor. Cea mai letala otrava cunoscuta de catre om, acest gaz a fost utilizat în cea mai inalta forma a lipsei de dragoste: Holocaustul - cu gazul Zyclon B.
STADIUL 1.1: QUILLAJA SAPONARIA (SAPUNARITA)
- naivi, impulsivi in relatii.
STADIUL 2: GEUM URBANUM ( CERENTEL )
Ei cred ca trebuie sa se adapteze la partenerul lor, ca nu li se permite sa aiba ceva pentru ei insisi, uneori chiar nimic. Cred ca trebuie sa dea totul intr-o relatie. Se pot adapta cu usurinta si astfel pot indeplini cu usurinta rolul lor, dar pot simti ca nu este bine sa se adapteze totusi atat de mult. Simt ca ar trebui sa aiba spatiu pentru ei insisi, dar acest lucru poate duce la vinovatie: "Daca faci asta, dragostea ta nu este reala." Aceasta dualitate le da sentimentul ca nu au spatiu sa traiasca sau aer sa respire si poate duce la astm.
Fizice: astm, tulburari ale vezicii urinare, dureri ale p***sului, dureri acute in abdomen
STADIUL 3: POTENTILLA TORMENTILLA (SCLIPETI SAU SCANTEIOARA)
Sunt intr-o relatie care este in faza ei de inceput . Au sentimentul ca relatia nu s-a stabilit inca, si ca ei nu pot conta pe partenerul lor. Acest fapt duce la tristete, iritare, lupta sau indiferenta. Ei pot fi foarte iritabili, incercand sa-si forteze partenerul sa faca o alegere pentru ei; dar, ca o reacţie, (ea)el devine mult mai reticent in a face aceasta alegere, vazand relatia ca pe o capcana din care nu poate scapa. Rezultatul poate fi ca relatia este mereu in criza.
Poate fi, deasemenea, ca ei insisi nu pot face o alegere, si ca indoielile lor privind partenerul ii face sa evite casatoria. Ei se pot deasemenea indragosti de cineva care nu este cu adevarat disponibil, o persoana casatorita, un preot sau un homosexual. Acest fapt poate duce la relatii in triunghi.
Fizice:
Nasul: sinuzita
Gura: inflamatii, sangerarea gingiilor, gingivite provocate de mercur
Faringe: inflamatie
Stomac: ulcer, voma, sangerare
Ficat: icter ; diabet
Rect: prolaps, diaree sangeroase, enterite, dizenterie
Menstruaţie: menoragie (cresterea abundentei si duratei menstruatiei)
Membre: guta
Piele: rani, eczeme umede, craparea mainilor si buzelor, contuzii
STADIUL 4: SORBUS DOMESTICA (SCORUS)
Persoana reprezentata de Scorus, nu poate sta langa partener, simtindu-se ca si inchisa. In spatele acestui fapt este frica de tradare. El/ea are indoielile sale despre casatorie si daca partenerul intr-adevar il/o iubeste. Se intreaba daca a facut alegerea corecta, daca dragostea este adevarata, si daca, chiar ar trebui sa nu se casatoreasca deloc. Se poate ca partenerul sa fie silentios si sa nu vorbeasca despre problemele importante. "Dragostea ar trebui sa fie deschisa, dragostea poate accepta totul de la celalalt" - spune Scorusul.
Fizice;
Probleme cardiace, durere, palpitatii, puls rapid, agravarea simptomelor intinzandu-se pe partea stanga.
STADIUL 5: MALUS COMMUNIS (MARUL)
Relaţia a inceput dar ei se intreaba daca ar trebui sa mearga mai departe cu ea. Exista indoieli cu privire la relatie: este o alegere buna? Partenerul il/o iubeste de fapt ? Sunt ei suficient de puternici pentru a merge mai departe? Il iubesc ei pe celalalt ? Idealurile lor despre o relatie sunt atat de inalte incat au indoieli daca pot face fata imensei datorii. Poate fi ca intr-o situatie în care acestia au fost sedusi intr-o relatie pe care nu au vrut-o cu adevarat. Ei se intreaba daca ar putea exista un partener mai bun pentru ei, sau daca ei pot fi un partener mai bun pentru un alt sot.
STADIUL 5.1: MALUS PUMILA (MAR PADURET)
Iluzii: murdar, totul, mancare, el insusi
iluzii: abuzat, molestat, victima, fiind murdar sau injosit
Un sentiment de murdarire este frecvent la cei care au suferit de abuz sexual sau inadegvat.
STADIUL 6; SANGUISORBA (SORBESTREA )
Aici, sentimentul este ca relatia nu merge bine; partenerul a ales pentru ei, dar chiar nu li se dedica. Aceasta ii supara asa incat incearca sa forteze partenerul sa-si ia angajamentul. Partenerul trebuie sa dovedeasca ca i iubesc cu adevarat. Pe de alta parte, si ei trebuie sa dovedeasca faptul ca isi iubesc partenerul, dar simt asta ca fiind dificil. Deci, au tendinţa sa aleaga pe cineva care nu este intr-adevar disponibil, o persoana casatorita, cineva din strainatate. Pacientii sunt sensibili, iritabili.
Fizice:
Cap: congestie
Plamani: sangerare
Intestin: dizenterie
Organele genitale: menstruatii indelungate, abundente, climacterium, metrita cronica
Picioare: congestionate, venele varicoase, ulcere
STADIUL 7: ALCHEMILLA VULGARIS (CRETISOARA )
Ei au calitati de a fi iubitori si de a ajuta. Greselile sunt adesea acoperite cu mantia iubirii. Ei doresc sa raspandeasca dragoste in lume, sa aduca armonie intre oamenii din jurul ei. Pot fi perfectionisti in munca si actiunile lor, aducand adesea multa critica fata de ei insisi. Au sentimentul ca ar putea face mai bine. Au o casatorie in care ei fac cel mai mult, dar le place asta. Chiar si atunci cand partenerul nu este prietenos sau este chiar violent, ei se mentin in dragoste si ajutor.
Fizice:
Ochii: inflamati
Gura: inflamata
Sistemul respirator: tuse
Digestie: gastrite, enterite
Rinichi: urinare deficitara, edem
Organele genitale: menstruatii abundente, leucoree, menarha, probleme in menopauza
Piele: eczeme umede, taieturi, vanatai, rani supurative
Vise: lucrand prea mult, intr-o instituţie de ingrijire, refuzand recompensa, ofera cadouri, fiind criticat pentru munca.
Iluzii: oamenii sunt mai asemanatori decat diferiti
Iluzii: distantare de lume
STADIUL 7.1: AGRIMONIA EUPATORIA (TURITA MARE)
Ei au un partener care nu este bine; deranjat fie emotional, fie fizic, sau ambele. Partenerul nu ofera mult si se plange de problemele sale. Ei simt relatia ca pe o povara grea de dus. La inceput o fac cu dragoste, dar d**a ceva timp povara devine prea mare pentru ei. Dintr-un sentiment de responsabilitate, nu pot parasi partenerul, si continua (relatia) cu tristete in inima lor. Exista tendinta de a evita problemele in loc de a le confrunta, de a aluneca peste dificultati, cu incercari sa fie veseli, gasind diversiune sau cauta stimulente cm ar fi alcoolul sau drogurile. Exista o veselie externa fortata; ei ascund suferinta lor, chiar daca sufera o tortura interna.
Fizice:
Slabiciune
Rinichii: durere, adanca, colici in regiunea lombara, extindere in uretera, urina plina de noroi, miros urat,
Organe genitale: durere in uter
ETAPA 8: PRUNUS SPINOSA (PORUMBARUL)
Ei au o relatie grea. Au sentimentul ca au de muncit din greu pentru a o pastra, ca trebuie sa se daruiasca complet relatiei. Acest lucru le da sentimentul ca sunt mereu ocupati pentru sotul/sotia lor. Nu este niciodata suficient, sotul nu este niciodata multumit. El spune mereu ca iubirea lor nu este reala, altfel ei ar fi facut mai mult. Mai poate fi, de asemenea, ca ei sa ceara dragoste completa de la sotul/sotia lor. Dovada dragostei lor este ca fac totul pentru ei , ca si cuplu, ca viata lor este complet dedicata dragostei si casatoriei. Aceasta duce la multa suparare, tristete, iritatie si acreala.
Fizice:
Afectiuni; din abuz sexual
Generalitati: transpiratii nocturne
Senzatie: durere acuta, apasand spre exterior, electrizare, ratacire
Timp: noaptea
Aversiune: alimente
Agravare; mancare calda
STADIUL 9: CYDONIA VULGARIS (GUTUI)
Ei au iluzia ca relatia lor este aproape implinita, aproape completa, dar este inca nevoie de unele adaptari minore, corectii sau aprobari.
Fizice:
Afectiuni; pornite d**a otravuri mortale; ex; Spanz alb (trandafir de iarna s/ trandafirul Craciunului ), diaree, dizenterie
STADIUL 10: ROSA
10.1 ROSA CANINA (MACESUL )
Ei simt dragostea ca fiind ideala si nobila. Nu exista nici un secret. In cultura occidentala, idealul in dragostea romantica ar trebui sa fie o daruire totala. Sa scrii poezii celui iubit.
10.2 ROSA DAMASCENA (TRANDAFIRUL DE DULCEATA SAU TRANDAFIRUL DE DAMASC )
Un foarte vechi simbol al iubirii, tema prezenta la toti membrii Rosacee-lor. Dragostea este idealizata in forma sa cea mai romantica, ca pe timpul trubadurilor, idealul medieval al dragostei, o dragoste care nu prinde forma pentru ca este prea ideala si prea idealizata. Locas de ganduri si sentimente romantice.
STADIUL 11: AMIGDALA AMARA (MIGDALA AMARE)
Au ochii excesiv de stralucitori, ras ironic, chipul plin de bucurie, ochi scanteietori.
STADIUL 12: CRATAEGUS (PADUCEL )
Este o reactie exagerata in materie de dragoste. Doresc sa o faca prea bine si au tendinta de a da prea mult, dar au sentimentul ca oamenii sau circumstantele actioneaza impotriva lor. Aceasta poate duce la incercarea de a controla imprejurarile sau partenerul. Poate duce la supra-control sau chiar tiranie. Ei devin foarte autoritari si iritabili la cel mai mic lucru care ii opun rezistenta. Pot fi deasemenea controlati si ei, prea mult, de catre partenerul lor, daca au un partener tiran.
"Razboiul trandafirilor "- lupta si nu cedeaza un centimetru.
Generalitati: vremea: mai bine la aer curat, mai rau in camera incalzita, mai rau prin odihna si liniste.
Fizice:
Slabit, epuizat, iritabil, nervos, grabit
Melancolie, disperare, se simte slab si fragil
Mental - mohoreala; confuz, calm , nervos.
Somn; insomnia pacientilor aortici
STADIUL 13: RUBUS FRUTICOSUS (MUR)
Relaţia este neimplinita. Ei simt ca nu primesc multa dragoste desi ei ofera prea mult. Partenerul lor este solicitant, iritabil, auto-centrat sau egoist. Acest lucru duce la sentimentul ca nu doresc sa continuie relatia. Dar pe de alta parte raman in relatie, simtindu-se responsabili pentru celalalt, sau pentru ca spera ca relatia se va imbunatati. Simt ca nu pot pleca, este prea dureros. Aceasta aminteste de spinii murelor care se intorc spre interior; se poate intra destul de usor printre mure, dar nu se poate iesi fara a fi zgariati peste tot. Deasemenea, ei pot fi intr-o relatie cu cineva care gandeste intotdeauna sa plece. Se simt ca si cm jumatate din dragoste este plecata. Se simt ca intr-o detentie datorita grijii pentru partener si copii. Nu mai pot face ce vor.
Fizice: probleme de inima, palpitaţii, plangeri de prostate
ETAPA 14: SPIRAEA ULMARIA (CRETUSCA)
Relaţia este una formala, nu mai are nici un continut real. Constiinciozitate morbida.
ETAPA 16: FRAGARIA (CAPSUNI)
Ei stiu ca relatia este, de fapt, terminata, dar continua sa-si astepte iubitul/iubita sa se intoarca intr-o zi, recunoscand ca relatia a fost o iubire adevarata. Pot astepta ani de zile, chiar si cand prietenii sau rudele sau chiar ei insisi vad ca “ iluzia” este ireala. Continua sa fantazeze si sa speculeze idea cm sau cand fostul iubit va veni inapoi. Atat timp cat sunt plini de dragostea lor veche, nu se pot deschide catre o noua dragoste. Asa ca raman singuri si sfarsesc ca fete batrane ( burlaci)
Generalitati:
Sudoare: exagerata, vascoasa
Fizice: leşin, sufocare, accident vascular cerebral, convulsii, anascara( edem generalizat )
Plamani: dispnee, sarcoidoza si mai ales umflarea limbii.
Limba tip capsune
Cutanate: urticarie, degeraturi
Indicatii: Rosacee, Arsenicum, Apis
ETAPA 17: PRUNUS LAUROCERASUS (ARBUST ORNAMENTAL
Ei au iluzia ca nimeni nu ii iubeste si ca nimeni nu ii poate iubi. Cred ca au pierdut toata dragostea, ca sunt de neiubit, asa ca nici macar nu incearca sa-si gaseasca dragostea. Acest fapt poate fi o consecinta a unui abuz sexual, a unor certuri cu parintii, a unei frici, spaime, Este usor de inteles ca cineva nascut cu o asemenea atitudine nu vrea sa traiasca, ca si copii vinetii d**a nastere. Se retrag din viata ceea ce se poate exprima astfel :
Fizice; lesin, boli de inima, accidente vasculare sau coma
Iluzii: vede batrani cu fetele distorsionate si barbi lungi
Vise: hidoase, nenorociri, cadavre, oameni morti
Mental; frica, anxietate despre nenorociri imaginare
Memorie; pierdere, provocata de frica, durere.
Dobitocia simturilor
Simptome provin din: pierderea dragostei, fiecare emotie, spaima.
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The Rosaceae, or rose family, belongs to the much larger order of Rosales. As well as the familiar garden roses, the family also contains many fruits and berries, such as apple, crab apple, pear, strawberry, raspberry, blackberry, and many stone fruits such as peach, cherry and apricot. Like the garden roses, these are often (though not always) thorny plants, protecting themselves and their fruits by flesh-tearing thorns along the branches.
Each of the various members of this family deals differently with issues of romantic love and its possible pitfalls, on different stages, as I will explain, one by one each. Each step of everyone's love life is retrievable and represented by a plant from the Rosacea family. Each of you, will find in a certain stage of physical and mental symptoms, diseases as a consequence of the way and feelings level of your romantic love with your parten, either good or bad. Although this “love” aspect is generally associated with romantic love, these remedies can also be of use for those who put all their passion into their work, or another field, and end up feeling disappointed if it is not returned.
Many of these plants also contain the precursors to hydrocyanic acid, one of the most lethal poisons known to man – only on eating the fruit is it turned into hydrocyanic acid in the stomach. So, here we already see several of the themes of this large family: the sweetness of the fruit, together with the thorniness of its protection, and a stifling quality, breathlessness and suffocation, brought on by the cyanides within the plants.
Homeopathy makes use of several of these plants, although until recently, many of them have not been well-known as remedies. By understanding the themes of this family, and the sensations that accompany it, it has become much easier to recognize and prescribe them. The well-known remedy Crataegus oxyacantha or hawthorn, for example, has long been used to deal with heart problems, and its thorny character is obvious. Until recently, however, we have not seen it in its larger context, which pertains to all the Rosaceae: heart complaints due to problems in (romantic) love relationships.
The overall theme of the Rosaceae is describet as “the pain of a broken heart”; the heart and circulation are generally where the problems manifest most clearly..
The rose is a symbol of romantic love, with its sweet smell and beautiful blossoms. It is often gifted to one’s lover, and is often used in bridal bouquets. The apple, too, is a symbol of love and sexuality. Problems relating to love can be reflected in the sexual sphere as well, as seen in the rubrics: coition aggravates, weeping, sadness and irritability.
People needing a remedy from the Rose Family can have a tendency to idealize love – they romantically dream of “the prince on the white horse” or “the unattainable princess”. Once they are in a relationship, they have the tendency to give all that they have. They can be very sweet, as sweet as a peach or a cherry. They are often very cheerful in order to bring happiness, but they tend to give more than they receive. They live for their love so much that there is no space for them, no room to breathe. The air is there, but they cannot breathe it in because they give themselves away completely. They demand that love be perfect and exclusive, there is no room for affairs. They might have fallen in love with someone who is unattainable or who does not love them in the same way, and they get the idea that they are unlovable. In the end, they can feel empty, having given themselves away in vain. If their love is unfulfilled, or even worse, if it is deceived, they can become ill, both physically and emotionally. Then, they can become irritable, making nasty remarks, or expressing their irritation constantly, showing their thorny side.
The theme of unrequited love is also known for remedies such as the Natriums. But in Rosaceae cases, the person is generally sweet and open, unlike the closed-off mineral aspect of Natrium. Sulphur remedies also deal with issues pertaining to “partner”, but those needing a Sulphur remedy are generally less idealistic, using clothing and make-up as a means of seduction. They tend to be full-blooded and warm, with red lips, and no specific issues with heart and suffocation, whereas the Rosaceae tend to be cyanotic and have blue lips.
General:
Desires: sweets, strawberry, peach, prune, apple, pear, apricot, blackberry, raspberry
Aversions: as above
Food: < stone fruits
It is sometimes possible to recognize a Rosaceae remedy by their pronounced desires, aversion, aversions or allergies to a particular fruit.
Me**es: painful, irregular.
Physical:
Vertigo, faintness
Neurological: convulsions, epilepsy, tics, twitching, trismus, opisthotonus, coma
Headache
Mouth: burning
Lung: respiration obstructed, asthma, dyspnea
Heart: arrhythmia, infarction, failure, decompensation, dilatation, hypertension, hypotension, angina pectoris
Pulse: fast, slow, hard, soft, strong, weak, irregular
Arteries: obstruction, arteriosclerosis
Stomach: nausea
Ge****ls: vaginitis, fluor albus
Skin: blue discoloration of lips, nails, face, arms
In Scholten’s system, the remedies can be placed in stages, according to the periodic table of elements. Here only the general themes are given.
STAGE 1: HYDROCYANIC ACID
The acute of the rose family. The most lethal poison known to man, this gas has been used in the ultimate form of lovelessness: extermination, as in Zyklon-B of the holocaust gas chambers.
STAGE 1.1: QUILLAJA (CHILE SOAP BARK TREE)
Naive, impulsive in relationships
STAGE 2: GEUM URBANUM (AVENS)
They have the idea that they have to adapt (stage 2) to their partner, that they are not allowed to have something for themselves, sometimes nothing at all. They think that they have to give everything in a relationship. They can adapt easily and so they can easily fulfill their role, but they can also feel that it is not good to adapt so much. They feel that they should also have space for themselves, but this can lead to guilt: “If you do that, your love is not real.” This duality can give the feeling that they do not have the space to live or the air to breathe, and it can lead to asthma.
Physical: see Clarke for a full description
Asthma; bladder disorders; pains in p***s; shooting pains in abdomen
STAGE 3: POTENTILLA TORMENTILLA (TORMENTIL)
They are in a relationship that is in its starting phase (stage 3). They have the feeling that it is not established yet, and that they cannot count on their partner. This can lead to sadness, irritation, fighting or indifference. They can be very irritable, trying to force their partner to make a choice for them but, as a reaction, (s)he becomes more and more reluctant to make that choice, seeing the relationship as a trap that cannot be escaped. The result can be that the relationship is always in turmoil.
It can also be that they themselves cannot make a choice, and that their doubts concerning their partner makes them avoid marriage. They could also fall in love with someone who is not really available, a married person, a priest or a homosexual. This can also lead to triangle relationships.
Physical:
Nose: sinusitis
Mouth: inflamed, bleeding gums, gingivitis provoked by mercury
Pharynx: inflamed
Stomach: ulcer, vomiting, blood
Liver: icterus, diabetes
Re**um: prolapse, diarrhea, bloody, enteritis, dysentery
Me**es: menorrhagia
Limbs: gout
Skin: wounds, weeping eczemas, cracked hands and lips, contusions
STAGE 4: SORBUS DOMESTICA (ROWAN TREE, MOUNTAIN ASH TREE)
This person cannot stand his partner being closed; behind this is the fear of betrayal. He has his doubts about the marriage and whether the partner really loves him. He asks himself if he has made the right choice and if there is real love, and even whether he should be married at all. It can be that the partner is silent and does not speak about important issues. “Love should be open, love can accept everything from the other.”
Physical: Heart problems, pain, palpitations, fast pulse, lying left side <
STAGE 5: MALUS COMMUNIS (APPLE)
The relationship has started but they ask themselves if they should go on with it. There are doubts about the relationship: is it a good choice? Does the partner really love them? Are they strong enough to go on? Do they really love the other? Their ideals of relationship are so high that they doubt if they can live up to the huge task.
It can be from a situation where they have been seduced into a relationship that they did not really want. They wonder if there might be a better partner for them, or if they might be a better partner for another spouse.
STAGE 5.1: MALUS PUMILA (CRAB APPLE)
Delusion: dirty, everything, food, himself
Delusion: abused, molested, victim, being soiled or abased
A feeling of dirtiness is common in those who have suffered sexual abuse or inappropriateness
STAGE 6: SANGUISORBA (GREAT BURNET)
Here, the feeling is that the relationship is not working well; the partner has chosen for them but doesn’t really go for it. This makes them angry so they try to force their partner to really make the commitment. The partner has to prove that he really loves them. On the other side they have to prove that they really love their partner, but that feels just as difficult. So they have the tendency to choose someone who is not really available, a married person, someone from abroad.
Sensitive, irritable patients
Physical:
Head: congestion
Lungs: bleeding
Intestins: dysentery
Ge****ls: me**es long, profuse, climacterium, chronic metritis
Legs: congested, varicoses veins, ulcers
STAGE 7: ALCHEMILLA VULGARIS (LADY’S CLOAK)
They have a very loving and helping quality. Mistakes are often covered with the cloak of love. They want to spread love in the world, bring harmony in the people around them. They can be very perfectionistic in their work and actions. This often results in much criticism toward themselves. They have the feeling that they should do better. They have a marriage in which they do the most, but they like that. Even when the partner is not friendly or is even violent, they keep on helping and loving.
Physical:
Eyes: inflamed
Mouth: inflamed
Respiratory system: cough
Digestion: gastritis, enteritis
Kidneys: urine scanty, edema
Ge****ls: me**es copious, leucorrhea, menarche late, menopause problems
Skin: wet eczema, cuts, bruises, wounds suppurating
Dream: Working too much, in a caring institution, refusing the reward for it, giving gifts, being criticized for the work.
Delusion: people are more alike than different
Delusion: distance from the world
STAGE 7.1: AGRIMONIA EUPATORIA (AGRIMONY)
They have a partner who is not well, either emotionally or physically disturbed, or both. He is not giving much and he laments about his problems. It feels like a heavy burden to carry. In the beginning they do it with love, but after some time the burden becomes too much for them. Out of a feeling of responsibility they cannot leave the partner, and they continue with sorrow in their heart.
There is a tendency to avoid the problems instead of facing them, to glide over difficulties, with attempts to stay cheerful, find diversion, or reach for stimulants like alcohol or drugs. There is a forced cheerfulness externally; they hide their suffering, even though suffering internal torment.
Physical:
Weakness
Kidneys: pain, deep, colicky pointing in the lumbar region, extending down the ureters; urine muddy, foul smelling
Ge****ls: pain in uterus
STAGE 8: PRUNUS SPINOSA (BLACKTHORN, SLOE, BULLACE)
They have a relationship that is hard. They have the feeling that they have to work hard to keep it going, that they have to give themselves completely. This gives them the feeling that they are constantly busy for their spouse. It is never enough, the husband is never satisfied. He always says that their love isn’t real, otherwise they would have done more.It can also be that they demand complete love from their spouse. The proof of their love is that they do everything for them, that their life is completely for love and the marriage. This leads to much grief, sadness, irritation and sourness.
Physical:
Ailments from sexual abuse
Generals: night sweats
Sensation: shooting, pressing outwards, lightning, wandering
Time: night
Aversion: food; < warm food
STAGE 9: CYDONIA VULGARIS (QUINCE)
They have the delusion that their relationship is almost fulfilling, almost complete, but it still requires some minor adaptations, corrections or approval.
Physical:
see Culpepper
Ailments started after deadly poisons, white hellebore
Diarrhea, dysentery
STAGE 10:
a) ROSA CANINA (DOG ROSE)
They feel love as ideal and noble. There’s no cover. In Western culture, there is the ideal that love should be all giving, the ideal of romantic love for the partner. Writing poems to loved ones.
b) ROSA DAMASCENA (DAMAS ROSE)
A very old symbol of love, the theme of which is present in all members of the Rosaceae. Love is idealised in its most romantic form, as in the time of the troubadours, the medieval ideal of love, a love that will never come into form because it is too ideal and too idealised. Dwelling in romantic thoughts and feelings.
STAGE 11: AMYGDALA AMARA (BITTER ALMOND)
Excessively brilliant eyes, sardonic laughter, joyful countenance, sparkling eyes
STAGE 12: CRATAEGUS (COMMON HAWTHORN)
There is an overreaction in love matters. They want to do it too well and tend to give too much but they have the feeling that people or circumstances are acting against them. This can lead to trying to control the circumstances or the partner. It can lead to over-control or even tyranny. They become very bossy and irritable from the least thing that they see as resistance.
They can also be controlled too much by their partner, if they have a partner who is a tyrant. “The war of the roses” – fighting and not giving an inch.
Physical:
Weak, exhausted; irritable, cross, hurried
Melancholy, despair, feels weak and fragile
Mental dullness; confused
Calmness; nervous
General: weather: > fresh air, < warm room. < rest, quiet
Sleep: insomnia of aortic patients
STAGE 13: RUBUS FRUTICOSUS (BRAMBLE)
The relationship is unfulfilling. They feel that they do not receive much love, although they themselves give too much. Their partner is often demanding, irritable, self-centered or egotistical. This leads to the feeling that they don’t want to continue with the relationship. But on the other hand they stay on because of feeling responsible for the other, or because they hope that it will improve. They feel that they cannot leave, it’s too painful. It reminds one of the thorns of the blackberry that point inwards; one can go quite easily into the brambles but cannot come out without getting scratched everywhere.
They can also be in a relationship with someone who is always thinking of leaving. It feels as if only half of the love is left.
Circumstances can also give them the feeling of being locked in a marriage. They can feel imprisoned by the care for the partner and children. They can no longer do what they want.
Physical: heart problems, palpitations
Prostate complaints
STAGE 14: SPIRAEA ULMARIA (MEADOWSWEET, QUEEN OF THE MEADOWS, HARDHACK)
A relationship where the relationship is a formal one, it has no real content anymore.
Morbid conscientiousness
STAGE 16: FRAGARIA (WOOD-STRAWBERRY)
They know that the relationship is in fact over, but they keep waiting for their lover to come the back one day, recognizing that the relationship had been true love. They can keep on waiting for years, even when their friends and relatives, and they themselves see their “delusion” as unreal. They continue to fantasize and speculate on how and when their ex-lover will come back. Since they are still full of their old love, they cannot open for a new love, so they remain alone and end up as old spinsters.
Generals:
Sweat: profuse, viscid sweat
Physical:
Faintness. Suffocation, stroke, convulsions, anascara
Lungs: dyspnea, sarcoidosis and especially swollen tongue. Strawberry tongue
Skin: urticaria, chilblains
DD: rosaceae, Arsenicum, Apis
STAGE 17: LAUROCERASUS (COMMON LAUREL, CHERRY LAUREL)
SEE BOERICKE, CLARKE
They have the delusion that no one loves them and that no one can love them. They think that they have lost all the love there is and are not lovable at all, so they don’t even try to find love. This can be the consequence of sexual abuse, fighting parents, fright and shock. It is understandable that someone born with such an attitude does not want to live, like the blue baby after birth. They retire from life, which can be physically expressed in fainting, heart disease, strokes and coma.
Delusions: sees old men with distorted faces and long beards
Dreams: hideous, misfortune, dead bodies, dead people
Fear and anxiety about imaginary evils
Memory loss provoked by fright, pain, etc.
Dullness of special senses
Ailments from loss of love, every excitement, fright
bibliography; Jan Scholten & Deborah Collins
