23/10/2025
What if “don’t hold back your tears, let them flow is bad advice?”
😳 Here’s a pattern - check if it’s yours...
As a child you were praised for being a good girl, for being compliant, for doing what you were told. You got in trouble when you were too loud, demanded too much attention, or got angry.
Very early on you learned:
😭❤️ crying = love and connection
🤬❤️🩹 anger = isolation and disconnection
Now as an adult you identify as a people pleaser, you push your own needs aside in favor of others, you often say yes when you mean no, holding a boundary feels scary, seeing other people angry feels scary, and anytime you get frustrated tears are never far behind, you do not express your anger openly, but afterwards seethe quietly and alone.
Sound familiar? 🙋♀️
Crying has become recognizable to your nervous system as being safe, anger has become recognizable as dangerous.
So you suppress your anger, often unwittingly, and cry instead. Everytime you cry. Even when you’re furious, you collapse into tears, unable to hold the charge of the anger in your body.
Unexpressed anger turns inwards and slowly over time it dampens your life force, you start to feel helpless, stuck, lacking in motivation, procrastination, depressed, low energy and burn out symptoms.
Comment “❤️“ below if this is you.
DM me to work with me on finding access to your life force, on shifting the old patterns, and finding joy, motivation and coming home to your true self again.
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