Live the Change

11/04/2026

CONTROLLING EATING TO CONTROL PEOPLE

And to control the situations you find (found) yourself in

Restricting, controlling, and manipulating your eating works splendidly as a coping strategy to keep your anxiety about people and their doings in check. It very fast makes you not care about what they do or do not do. And you are in a place, a world — a mental space, where you are feeling like you are in control of something. Something is in your power to decide over, and there is finally some predictability in your life, and something to hold on to.

Food — and how you control your food intake — becomes both your best friend and your worst enemy. You do not need anyone else. Or at least, that is what you tell yourself. If you can only stay with and keep yourself to your own restrictive eating rules, then it will all be fine. Then nobody, or what they do, can really touch you, not psychically, not mentally, especially not mentally.

All of a sudden, you have super-powers, secret super-powers. They, other people, ask you if you want something to eat — and you smile (outwardly a small smile— inwardly a big smile) — and they do not know that you are in control, secretly. Even if they demand you to eat, they can’t make you. They can’t make you chew and swallow. Unless they put a gun to your head. Most of the time, they don’t do that.

Read my piece on Medium on why we cannot support people with eating/not-eating as a coping strategy without addressing their stress and trauma.

And to control the situations you find (found) yourself in

08/04/2026

JOIN ME FOR AN INTRODUCTION TO REWILDING!

I believe the path to a lot of healing (or wholing as I prefer to call it) goes through rewilding - of ourselves, our fellow human and non-human animals, of the earth...

We need to let ourselves and others grow into becoming who we are - not who we wish to be, or wish others to be.

Growth needs to be free. Not controlled. Not turned into profit. Not directed by greed, recognition, a need to fit in...

Does it sound strange and complicated? It really is not - it is learning respect for ourselves and others, as they/we are. No matter if it is a human, a dog, a horse, a bird, a river, a desert, the earth...

Welcome to both down to earth discussions about human, equine, dog, earth welfare as well as to philosphicsl and ethical ponderings!

A Science-Based AND Open Minded Online Course on Rewild(ing) of Humans, Horses and their Environments

08/04/2026

TRAUMA INDUCED DISSOCIATION AND THE WHEEL OF WHOLENESS (TOLERANCE) - A NEW DESCRIPTION

In 2019 I developed an alternative model to the Window of Tolerance and the Polyvagal Ladder. Because neither of them really helped someone like me, with "parts" and lots of dissociation (I write that even if I think everyone have parts and use dissociation), What I address here I call Trauma Induced Dissociation (TID) and I have reworked my original writing in how I describe the model now called the wheel of Wholeness, what it is, how you use it, but also my thinking around some aspects of dissociation, and as usual, I ask some critical questions...

Dowland it and give me some feedback? It costs 7 USD, at least. If you want to pay more and in that way support my work, you are very welcome!

And to learn more - join me on my webinar May 12! You find it on my Buy Me a Coffee page as well!

Dissociation is by nature elusive. It is like a mist you have to reach out from, or reach into. Depending on perspective. I developed the model "The Wheel of Tolerance" in 2019. Now I have renamed it

23/03/2026

REWILDING YOUR HEART IS ABOUT FINDING WAY BACK TO YOURSELF AND YOUR CONNECTION WITH WHAT IS AROUND YOU

We get conditioned, trained, formed, shaped, in different ways through the contexts we are in and the people we meet in our life (and we do this to others as well).

Some ways are brutal, other ways are more subtle, even insidious.
We grow up and are taught not to question this. But what if you actually have more choices you can make in your life?

Are you ready to explore that?

Rewilding your heart - is about letting yourself grow into the person you are. But it is also about letting others to the same.

The interesting part is that this leads you to connect or re-connect with parts of yourself you have pushed away or just locked up inside, because they don't fit well into society (or that is our fear).

When you stop judging yourself and become more curious abut yourself - that opens up for curiosity towards others as well, other people, beings, entities, ecosystems...

But it goes two way, when you start being curious at others - you can find a way to be curious about yourself.

Join me for an intro course into "Rewilding your Heart"
You sign up and you can read more about it here:

A Science-Based AND Open Minded Online Course on Rewild(ing) of Humans, Horses and their Environments

23/03/2026

Hi everyone!

The webinar is to tomorrow! I would love to see more people there - we have a good group already - so come and join us for some great discussions!

And, if you cannot make it, sign up and I will send you the recording afterwards

Much love! ❤
Felicia

In June 2025 I delivered a presentation with this title at the 7th EAOF Conference in Copenhagen. EAOF number 7 was a “conference on community mental health care and assertive outreach”. And its theme

16/03/2026

TO SET YOURSELF FREE FROM PATHOLOGIZING & MEDICALIZING OF YOUR STRESS AND TRAUMA – USE ME AS YOUR REWILDING GUIDE, THERAPIST, OR MENTOR

There is nothing wrong with you. You do not have any “mental” or “neurodevelopmental” “disorders”. Your suffering and pain, or your struggles are not strange or abnormal. Most often they come from too much stress and/or trauma.

We have been taught by all societal systems throughout our lives that when we struggle there is something wrong with us. There is not, but there is something wrong with a society that lets us believe that.

For me, the way out of believing what these systems taught me about myself was to rewild myself. To let myself grow as I needed to. To set myself free from conditioning, people pleasing, fears of different sorts (like fear of not being enough but also fear of being too much). And then to develop my self-compassion. To learn to love my own wild heart.

I believe we all need to un-tame and un-domesticate ourselves. We need to stop saying yes when we mean no, and no when we mean yes.

The way out of the cage we often feel trapped in is not through more diagnoses, medications, traditional therapies, or wellness advice.

When you rewild yourself, your own inner compass gets a chance to recalibrate itself. And you get a chance to find your bearings. Then when you start to walk your own path, you will find your courage to take one step at a time. And for each step you will become wilder, more authentic, less constricted – it is a way to liberate yourself.

It won’t perhaps make your life easier, but it will make it your life. And that is worth a lot.

Does this sound interesting to you? Read more about me and book me on: https://livethechange-learning.teachable.com/p/rewilding-your-heart-guidance-mentoring

Or on my Buy me a Coffee page: https://buymeacoffee.com/katarinat/e/501683

Welcome!

27/02/2026

REWILD YOUR HEART WORKSHOP IN FINLAND!

This is a wonderful opportunity to meet me and Sonja Lairila, my friend and colleague in Finland, at her place, for a long weekend workshop on everything rewilding related.

This is a weekend where you can think about more traditional rewilding ideas, how do we take care of our remaining wilderness? And all “the more than human” beings and entities that call it their home? But there is also ample time for relaxing, for being mindful out in the woods, with the horses that live at Sonja’s place. And – we will facilitate experiential learning and reflections – good for practicing your own observational skills, your own awareness of yourself and what is around you, and in general – very good for your own personal development.

We talk about horses as much as you want to, or we end up focusing on your own growth journey. We never know with these workshops, they take us where we all need to go. Usually, it becomes a mix.

Sonja is a fantastic human being (doing, thinking) who have for a few years now worked on rewilding her own small horse farm in Finland. Both I and Sonja have a lot of experience with running farms, taking care of horses, minding their environment, horse welfare, EAP/L, rewilding, educating, and facilitating groups.

Last summer we co-presented on the “Equine Cultures in Transition” conference in Manchester, UK on the topic “Rewilding Equine Assisted Interventions - Integrating Ecodynamics and Ecosocial Thinking into EAI”. And we have for many years been working side by side and educated on equines in therapy and learning programs and well as developing those educations.

This was our presentation: https://www.academia.edu/129892634/Rewilding_Equine_Assisted_Interventions_Integrating_Ecodynamics_and_Ecosocial_Thinking_into_EAI

It will be great fun, thought provoking, and growth promoting – for all of us! Join us!

https://livethechange-learning.teachable.com/p/rewilding-your-heart-finland-2026

A 2,5-day experiential workshop to the Rewilding of your own Heart, in Kouvola, Finland. We encourage you to take our online intro course "Rewild your Heart" before you come here, but it is not a prerequisite.

22/02/2026

IF YOU ONLY TALK IN THERAPY WITH ONE OTHER HUMAN – YOU WILL GET VERY LIMITED INPUT

Ecotherapy is “talk therapy”
with more than another
human. It is inviting deep
conversations with both
your inner and outer context.

When you engage in ecotherapy you will get so many other opportunities to input, exchange and interaction that you can ever get from one human in a traditional talk therapy set up.

In ecotherapy you engage also with your surroundings, and often an ecotherapist will meet you outdoors, in a more natural setting, like out in “nature” or in a park. I always put “nature” in quotation marks, because to me “nature” is not a place, it is all that we are – all of us. You, as a human, are “nature” too.

Ecotherapy is not only about “nature” as a place or as an experience, but also equally much about context. We are all part of an ecological context, an eco-system. And while we might feel disconnected from it, which often happens when we feel disconnected from ourselves, we are still a part of it.

Ecotherapy helps you find your way back to those connections. It helps you dare to open up, both to what is around you and what is inside of you.

The human animal is getting increasingly more fearful. We fear each other, we fear ourselves, we fear the future, we fear the past, we fear staying in the now, we fear all “what ifs”, we fear our emotions and the constant message coming from all kinds of directions that we are not enough, and not okay.

Ecotherapy does not only engage with your emotions, or your mind, but also your body, and how you extend into the world, and equally much, how the world extends into you.

You are a system, an eco-system that is part of a larger eco-system, that itself is part of a larger eco-system – and so it goes on, until you know you are connected to earth. We are all part of the same kind of life web and in different phases of our life it feels right to either expand or contract, to make our world larger, or smaller, to focus inwards or to focus outwards.

Ecotherapy is great because it allows for all of this. For expansion and retraction, for relaxation and activity, for observing and taking part, for thinking and feeling, for depth and breadth, for integrating and for letting go…

Ecotherapy is life therapy. It is an (w)holistic therapy. It is even a therapy and a non-therapy.

And it is a therapy where the therapist is not particularly important, at least not more important than anyone being or entity that you meet engaging with it.

Ecotherapy is not the therapist’s therapy – it is equally much everyone’s therapy.

If you want to try it out, learn more about it, get supervision, contact me.

You can read more on www.livethechange.se

–The Shameless Unmasker of “Mental Health Care” Myths and the Enthusiastic Proponent of Alternative Ways to Support and Care.

11/02/2026

WHAT DO I OFFER INSTEAD OF “TRADITIONAL THERAPY?

Ecotherapy, rewilding & peer therapy
centers you. You as an equal individual,
but also, you, as a
contextual being.

Most traditional therapies put too much of what is not working for an individual inside of them, making it about how they are lacking, how they are defected, disordered, not competent, not mature, resistant and problematic.

Ecotherapy sees an individual as part of a larger ecosystem. Where the individual’s internal ecosystem overlaps with the external. There is no definite boundary between the outer world and the inner world of anyone. The outer world impacts and exists within an individual as much as an individual’s inner world exists in the outer world (if we don’t silence or gag them with e.g. psychotropic drugs, or through other acts of violence and coercion).

In Ecotherapy we explore both worlds and how they are connected.
In most traditional therapies there is also a huge power imbalance between the therapist and the person seeking support. I work actively to equalize the relationship. That does not mean there are no boundaries. It means I don’t pretend to be a medical expert on someone else’s “conditions”. This is what I mean with peer therapy.

Peer therapy also means I use my own lived experience as a source of knowledge and skills and that I share more of me, at the level the support seeking person is interested in and is comfortable with. True and supportive relationships cannot be built on unequal grounds. And it is not enough that we as therapists acknowledge that, we must work against this power imbalance, especially since it often mimics other prior unequal relationships in the support seeking person’s life.

The rewilding part is about moving away from following directions and assumptions about what is “normal” and “right” according to “other people”, society and its institutions and instead listen to what is right for the support seeking person.

The rewilding part is also about moving away from only talking. I work with experiential learning, which is a form of “learning by doing”, in combination with reflecting and conceptualizing. I often work with expressive arts, movement based invitations, and with mindfulness (not traditional mindfulness, but an adapted version that works with severe trauma and dissociation but works also for those who seek support because they feel stressed and feel they have not experienced severe trauma, but trauma nevertheless).

And I prefer to work in nature and with "the more than human" – but there is always some kind of nature around. To rewild oneself is a stepwise process.

I sometimes say I am “another kind of therapist, in another kind of room”. I know many think I am arrogant for trying to update and change how therapy should be done. I have decided to do it anyways. For those like me, who did/do not benefit from “traditional therapy”.

All that I offer I have tried out on myself, but also now for many years, invited other people to try out, and the feedback I get is overwhelmingly good.

I offer my services in individual sessions, group/pair sessions, workshops and courses, on and offline, in Swedish and English.
I also offer supervision and mentoring.

Welcome to contact me – you find more info on
www.livethechange.se

26/01/2026

WALK THE LAND - REWILD YOUR HEART!

Join me for an online intro course to “Rewild your Heart! Meet with me and the group 4 Tuesdays and get loads of information and reflection practice on what it is to rewild oneself, other beings, other humans, the world…

We start tomorrow!

https://livethechange-learning.teachable.com/p/rewild-your-heart-winter-2026

From the article:

Every living being has a mind of its own

Matthews suggested that the western concept of panpsychism perhaps is the closest we come to the aboriginal concept of Liyan.

“Panpsychism is the view that all things have a mind or a mind-like quality”.

Meaning it ascribes a mind to all living beings, but also to the world itself, as if the world is a being too. And if every living being has a mind of its own, we can have relationships with them and there will be an exchange between that being and ourselves, in a more embodied and worldless way, at least in a less traditional way of understanding the concept of words and language.

Liyan is partly described as a cognitive way of feeling — that is a visceral, body-based, intuitive way of knowing. That you learn from Land and “the more than human” world. And one way of learning it is to “walk the land,” seek a relationship with Land, as an entity of its own.

https://open.substack.com/pub/livethechange/p/walk-the-land?r=2onhr8&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=true

25/01/2026

REWILDING YOUR HEART IS ABOUT CARING

Online intro course starts on Tuesday, January 27. Cost – 145 euro – and for that you get a lot!

Caring for yourself, your “animals”, your human family and friends, colleagues and strangers, your surroundings, environment, “nature” and the earth.

I am putting “animals” in brackets, because we humans are an animal too. And I am also putting “nature” in brackets – because we are nature too.

Disconnection, dissociation, numbness, withdrawal, egocentrism, anthropocentrism – is the opposite to connection, association, alertness/awareness/being awake to, presence, altruism and ecocentrism.

We Think progress is only about doing better science. I don’t believe that. While I think science is important, the western kind, I think there is so much else we need to pay attention to and learn from. That includes indigenous sciences, but also practices, knowledge, experience, that comes from living, thinking and doing outside of an academy or school at all.

When I decided on a name on what I both am about, work with and try to pass on in different ways, I read a book by Marc Bekoff called “Rewilding Our Hearts: Building Pathways of Compassion and Coexistence and it inspired me

“We do not need more science. We need a new mind-set and social movement that is transformational and centers on empathy, compassion, and being proactive. By rewilding our hearts, we focus on building strong and intimate connections with nature, and these experiences are essential for effective social change. This is deep work."
— Marc Bekoff

I am running our online intro course to “Rewild your Heart” in its current form for the last time now, starting on Tuesday, January 27 with our first zoom meeting.

You can still join us!

https://livethechange-learning.teachable.com/p/rewild-your-heart-winter-2026

Pictures: Out in the Polish woods, observing and "meeting" feral-living Konik horses.

12/01/2026

JANUARY NEWSLETTER!

I just sent out my own first newsletter since 2018 I think... Have been sending them in the name of other organizations in the meantime - but it feels good to be back to deciding for myself what to send out!

As usual I am about mixing passions and interests - my newsletter will contain all that I work with - which spans from ecotherapy - rewilding - trauma & dissociation - writing, photography and art, advocacy and activism - and some more :-)

I hope you find something interesting to read about, or to sign up for.

https://preview.mailerlite.io/preview/1986465/emails/176199050317530397

Warm regards,

Felicia Katarina