31/10/2025
She’s not crazy!
She’s reacting to years of abuse, mistreatment, gaslighting, and silence.
She’s reacting to a home where apologies never come, accountability doesn’t exact, where her pain and dignity is ignored, and her anger is used against her.
When a woman finally screams — that’s not madness. That’s the sound of decades of disrespect, invalidation, and emotional neglect catching fire.
And yet… everyone rushes to label her “crazy,” instead of asking what was done to her!
Her reaction is NOT the problem!
The problem is what she’s reacting to —
the mistreatment, the manipulation, the invalidation, the denial, the pretending.
This was shared by a client and it broke my heart into millions of tiny pieces as she watched it with me in the session with tears of exhaustion running down her face…. I sat for a long time in silence after she left… thinking not everyone has access to knowledge or therapy. And even knowledge and therapy can fail at times in the face of persistent, decades-long maltreatment. That’s not weakness - that’s “being human”.
So if you’re falling apart, if you’re exhausted, if you’re holding pain that no one sees or understands —
I wish you compassion SO incredibly deep that it helps you firmly believe: you were NEVER the problem! ❤️🩹
