COYL Life Counseling

11/03/2024

How belief affects our health and resilience:

Experiencing stimulus will have different effects on people's bodies based largely on their beliefs and bias about the stimulus. For example, if we are taught that inhaling exhaust is deadly and can take years off of our life, our subconscious mind will create fear-induced reactions in the body every time we recognize (or simply decide) that we are inhaling exhaust. Those fear-induced reactions create an effect that is the opposite of relaxation. It can create a blockage of energy running through the body, which can result in swelling, a tightening of muscles, weakened breathing, and disruptions to certain bodily systems.

Funny thing is, the same thing bodily reactions could come about from inhaling someone's fart, if the fearful beliefs exist. What results from the experience of either inhaling exhaust or inhaling a fart can be similar detriments to the health; but they are largely based on our reactions.

Take my personal story with COVID:
Speaking from personal experience about COVID, I have stuck to the belief that COVID will never affect me and I will never catch it. I was once living in the apartment of my friend and her husband. They both caught COVID around the same time, and given how in close proximity we are to each other on a daily basis, she was certain I would get it. The night she tested positive and I began to sleep, I felt a sickness coming on me. It sparked a fear response, and I thought "Oh no, it's coming into me". I then decided to stick to my faith and proclamation, "I'll never get it." I chose faith, and immediately felt it leave my body. Much to the confusion and amazement of my friend.

Believing in the power of faith, I've never gotten the sickness. Now with what I know, I realize that every time I get sick (which is rare), I can attribute it to some negative thinking or misguided belief. Sickness really does start from the mind, and if we think it starts with an outside influence coming in, we must remember that the mind is what allows or prohibits its entry, and determines how our bodies will react.

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11/03/2024

How belief affects our health and resilience:

Experiencing stimulus will have different effects on people's bodies based largely on their beliefs and bias about the stimulus. For example, if we are taught that inhaling exhaust is deadly and can take years off of our life, our subconscious mind will create fear-induced reactions in the body every time we recognize (or simply decide) that we are inhaling exhaust. Those fear-induced reactions create an effect that is the opposite of relaxation. It can create a blockage of energy running through the body, which can result in swelling, a tightening of muscles, weakened breathing, and disruptions to certain bodily systems.

Funny thing is, the same thing bodily reactions could come about from inhaling someone's fart, if the fearful beliefs exist. What results from the experience of either inhaling exhaust or inhaling a fart can be similar detriments to the health; but they are largely based on our reactions.

Take my personal story with COVID:
Speaking from personal experience about COVID, I have stuck to the belief that COVID will never affect me and I will never catch it. I was once living in the apartment of my friend and her husband. They both caught COVID around the same time, and given how in close proximity we are to each other on a daily basis, she was certain I would get it. The night she tested positive and I began to sleep, I felt a sickness coming on me. It sparked a fear response, and I thought "Oh no, it's coming into me". I then decided to stick to my faith and proclamation, "I'll never get it." I chose faith, and immediately felt it leave my body. Much to the confusion and amazement of my friend.

Believing in the power of faith, I've never gotten the sickness. Now with what I know, I realize that every time I get sick (which is rare), I can attribute it to some negative thinking or misguided belief. Sickness really does start from the mind, and if we think it starts with an outside influence coming in, we must remember that the mind is what allows or prohibits its entry, and determines how our bodies will react.

When one declares an interest in self-development, they are making a life choice to stop letting the outside voices develop them, and start letting a voice of their choosing do so instead. In an attempt to heal from a decade-long, undiagnosed sickness and improve the quality of his life, the auth...

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30/12/2023

Freedom of Knowing One's Value

"A true man's character is revealed when he is behind the wheel."

When we are driving, we are attempting to get close to something. That something often represents a step to completing some kind of goal, and that goal relates to a deep desire. When someone else, like another driver, gets in the way of that goal or slows us down, that's when anger or hostility can arise. It can manifest in something as little as a tap of the horn to something as drastic as yelling a curse, giving the middle finger, or worse.

The belief that people are getting in the way of our desires is linked to deep-seeded insecurities which manifest the very moment someone steps into our paths. When we meet someone new, we subconsciously judge whether this person's influence will negatively or positively affect our attainment of those deep desires. A man who is insecure about money may immediately look down upon someone who wears cheap clothing, and resist the notion of connecting with them. A high school teen who longs to be in the "cool crowd" wouldn't be caught dead associating with "nerds".

We see this all the time in Western media, and if we look closely, we see it manifest in our daily lives. It comes out not only when people get heated, but when they begin making statements that appear unnecessary or unnatural. For example, people feel the need to let others around them know that everyone is their equal. They'll often vocalize, "I'm no better than anyone else". While this seems like a good statement on the surface, we realize that the motive is actually fear-based. Ironically, this is a reaction to their deep-seeded fear, which says, "They're better than me".

The simple answer to this problem is a genuine belief in the falsity of the above statement. People around you are not better or more important than you based on age, appearance, attention they receive, or whatever else society teaches. Let's face it, people around the world, little or big, young or old, male or female, normal or deformed, have proved their capability of achieving great feats. Examining our foundational beliefs about what makes us equal is essential in ridding ourselves of insecurities that may cause us to react in aggression during moments of testing. Belief systems which place more value on people based on conditions always lead to insecurities, which then creates societal dysfunction.

Once the foundational beliefs about what constitutes value is challenged, we can adapt a belief system that intrinsically values every man and woman the same. Then, when we come across someone who seems to be blocking the path to our desires, we are then faced with this reality: if I'm actually just as valuable as this person, then my desire doesn't matter any more than theirs.

Then we realize that, if all of us and our desires matter the same,
selfishness has no place in our lives. People actually matter more, just as we matter. This brings us to the Golden Rule. The priority of people over selfish gain puts us in a place of freedom from the frustration that plagues a very self-conscious, insecure society.

So the next time someone crosses your path, and you feel the need to avoid them, disconnect from them somehow, or even honk the horn, you may be experiencing symptoms that come from believing the ideas of an increasingly dysfunctional society!

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