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11/11/2020

Someday you're going to meet a boy who says he likes you and it'll make you feel all gooey inside, especially because he's kind of cute and maybe you like him too. So you decide to give him a chance and you start spending more time with him and eventually you become "official". So how do you know if his intentions are true and he's the great guy you think you met in the beginning?...

You decide to give him a chance and you start spending more time with him and eventually you become “official”. So how do you know if his intentions are true and he’s the great gu…

09/20/2020

In the previous article I posted, it described the abusive form of Contempt that destroys not only a relationship but also tears down the self-esteem and dignity of the persons in it.

In this article by Ken Fremont-Smith, he describes what he calls "invisible" contempt. The kind you or your partner may be putting out there without realizing it. This is often disguised as...

"I'm just sticking up for myself" or "I'm just stating the facts"

Read on to find out why this might not be very accurate at all, how it can be hurting your relationship, and what you can do about it. Thanks ~ Cindy G

You may not even be aware of how you are acting or speaking out of contempt—often it can feel like you are being genuine. Dr. John Gottman realized there needs to be a path that leads to a culture of appreciation, and that is by expressing your feelings and longings.

09/17/2020

"...I stop short of the door and hold my hand against the frame. I just want to leave so bad. I know somewhere inside that I don’t have to take this. I am free to simply walk out of the door. But I am frozen..."

Another excellent article by Shantel Patu capturing the real experiences of real people living through it... Please read on.

Content warning: emotional violence, abuse

Sticks and stones may break my bones, but can words really hurt me?

01/20/2020

...Part 2 from Brandon Leuangpaseuth's description of the Gottman Method's approach to handling infidelity in a relationship. ~Thanks, Cindy

Read how one couple applied Gottman's Trust Revival Method of Atone, Attune, Attach to rebuild their relationship after an affair.

01/20/2020

You may have heard the saying, "Once a cheater, Always a cheater" ~ Well, statistics on affairs show this is not actually true, in fact, if a discovered affair is approached correctly, it does not have to happen again or end the relationship. Here is a 2 part article describing the Gottman Method for treating this problem in a relationship. Please read on... ~ Thanks, Cindy

My partner and I implemented the tips from "What Makes Love Last?" to heal from my mistake and after a great deal of time, our trust in each other started to rebuild.

05/12/2019

Date nights should be sacred times to honor your relationship.

03/29/2019

Good morning with Cynthia Germanotta ♡

10/30/2018

As National Domestic Violence Awareness month comes to a close, I'd like to share this article written by my colleague, Mary Beth George... While the statistics are alarming, I am fully confident that men and women together can make a difference for our future generations and halt the incidences of intimate partner violence. If you or someone you know is experiencing physical or emotional abuse from their partner, please reach out for help.

Let’s not forget the brave survivors of intimate partner violence. Their stories matter, too.

05/30/2018

04/12/2018

Great Article Dr. Hayes!

We might be able to help these people before they kill.