12/29/2025
Absolutely yes! Learning trust
They say I’m spoiling my baby because they sleep on me.
Because I hold them.
Because I respond.
Because I do not put distance between us when they clearly need closeness.
Let me be clear.
This is not spoiling.
This is biology.
A baby who sleeps best on their parent is not manipulative.
They are regulated.
They are safe.
They are doing exactly what human babies have done for thousands of years.
Their nervous system is still under construction.
Their sense of safety is borrowed from my body.
My heartbeat, my warmth, my smell.
That is not a bad habit. That is survival.
You see dependency.
I see a baby whose needs are being met.
You see a mom who should put the baby down more.
I see a mom who understands that independence is built on security, not separation.
And no, I will not apologize for resting while my baby rests.
I will not rush this season away to make others more comfortable.
I will not ignore instinct to satisfy outdated opinions.
One day, this baby will sleep without me.
They will walk away confidently.
They will not need my arms in this way anymore.
But today, this is where they feel safest.
And I am exactly where I am supposed to be.
If holding your baby feels right, you are not spoiling them.
You are parenting them.
And that needs no apology. 🤱
