12/19/2019
Make space for grief: Holidays can be a tough time for some of us, so it's important to give yourself permission to make time to feel all the feels.
Stick to your plans: We know that plans can change, but if you set an intention ahead of time that will truly bring you benefits, stick to it! However, you are the judge of whether this can be too much.
Reach out for help when needed: Call a friend. Send a message to your Facebook group. Make plans to visit your grandma. Whatever this looks like, it's okay to ask for help.
Self-care routine: There are crazy lines at the store, your bank account has almost diminished, your crazy in-laws are coming over, and the house is a mess... What do you do? Make time for yourself! This can look like waking up 10 minutes earlier and doing a breathing exercise or it can be dancing while doing dishes!
Give yourself permission: You're allowed to eat the cookies from the cookie exchange. You're allowed to go to bed early. Save that work assignment for tomorrow. Whatever this looks like for you, determine whether sulking in the decision-making process is actually making it worse than it already might be.
Learn to recognize your wins: This is tough, but it's so important to begin to recognize your successes, big or small.
Allow yourself to feel: Refer to "Make space for grief". It's okay to feel emotions.
Learn to say "no": The pressure is real here guys... Are you starting to recognize your people pleasing behavior? Is this interfering with your own life? You are allowed to say no. You don't even have to justify a reason! You can do it.
Listen to your stress cues: This can be feeling physically/emotionally exhausted, tension in your neck, sore thighs, etc. Whatever this may be for you, take care of 'yo self!
Set "realistic expectations": There is absolutely no way you can make a 5 course meal for 20, clean the house, drop off the kids at daycare, finish your workload, and continue holiday shopping. Take baby steps! Sometimes, you can't get to everything and that's okay.
Create your own tradition: This can be fun! Sometimes creating new traditions create new positive memories and can help with the grieving process.