Lotus Counseling & Recovery Center

11/16/2025

I wish more women knew that losing your s*x drive, gaining weight in your belly and face, hair thinning & loss, rage, irritability, overstimulation, anxiety, fatigue, waking up at 2am, and insomnia are all signs that your body is stuck in fight or flight- and it's not Normal

It's not just "hormonal imbalance" or "getting older" - it's your body screaming for help, saying "I can't take it anymore!" Chronic stress, unresolved trauma, and lack of self-care can hijack your hormones, disrupt your nervous system, and leave you feeling like a shell of yourself. And it's not something to be ashamed of or swept under the rug. It's a wake-up call to prioritize yourself, to heal, to nourish your body and mind.

Let's break the silence and normalize talking about this. Let's support each other in taking back control of our health, our hormones, and our lives. You deserve to feel alive, vibrant, and at peace. Not just "getting by" or "surviving" - thriving.

11/16/2025

The evolved woman refuses to settle for an ordinary relationship with a partner who lacks clarity of purpose. She desires ecstasy.

There is no single act that has more impact on shifting the consciousness of the planet than the woman who stands in the truth of her intuition and refuses to settle for less than she knows is possible.

Whilst most women have a natural urge to be nurturing and supportive, relationships are not the place for a man's therapy. Rescuing a man, even supporting a man who's struggling to find himself or move beyond feelings of insecurity and insignificance, will almost certainly set you up to be seen in a motherly role, rather than the one he adores and desires to ravish.

No matter how exceptional his gifts, no matter what his potential, if a man hasn't completed his personal work before the relationship it's hard to win his passion once you've allowed yourself to take on the role of his healer and confidant.

Wait for a man who chooses you, rather than the man who needs you.

The right man will love you for all the things the wrong ones wanted to change about you.

༺♥༻ Graham R White {Wait for a Man who has Done the Work}

11/15/2025

11/15/2025

11/15/2025

Every relationship is two nervous systems and two children trying to feel safe together. What most people don’t realize is that beneath the surface of every adult interaction lies the echo of childhood—shy, fearful, hopeful, and sometimes wounded. Each partner carries their own history, their own insecurities, their own patterns of survival, and these often show up as tension, miscommunication, or overreaction. Love isn’t just about shared laughter, intimacy, or romantic gestures; it’s about noticing when your partner’s inner child feels scared, when their nervous system is triggered, and choosing to respond with patience, empathy, and understanding rather than frustration or blame.

A healthy relationship requires conscious effort to co-regulate—learning to soothe each other’s nervous systems, to offer safety when fear arises, and to listen when old pain resurfaces. It’s about creating a container where both people feel seen and accepted, where vulnerability isn’t punished but welcomed. It’s about understanding that moments of conflict often aren’t attacks but cries from the inner child seeking comfort, connection, and reassurance.

In this way, love becomes a practice of healing together, of holding space for the unhealed parts of ourselves and each other. It’s messy, sometimes uncomfortable, and rarely perfect—but when two people commit to nurturing both the adult and the child within, they create a bond that isn’t just based on attraction, but on deep, resilient safety, trust, and mutual growth. This is the essence of a relationship that truly lasts: two people learning to feel safe, not just in each other’s arms, but in each other’s hearts.

11/15/2025

A good relationship is just two people saying, "Hey, life is hard, but I want to do it with you." That's it. It’s not about perfection. It’s not about having picture-perfect moments or a highlight reel to show the world. It’s not always about romantic dinners, flowers, or grand gestures that take your breath away. Sometimes it’s in the quiet moments—the little things that go unnoticed but mean everything. It’s folding laundry together after a long day, sending each other silly memes when words feel too heavy, or simply sitting in comfortable silence without needing to fill it with noise.

Love isn’t always loud or dramatic. Sometimes it’s soft, steady, and subtle. Sometimes it’s choosing each other again and again, even when the world feels overwhelming or when life gets messy. It’s being patient when the other person falters, forgiving when mistakes are made, and holding space for one another without judgment. It’s knowing that real partnership isn’t about perfection—it’s about showing up, day after day, for someone who chooses you as much as you choose them. That’s what makes a relationship truly beautiful.

11/15/2025

There comes a point where a woman stops matching your words and starts matching your behavior. She mirrors the energy you give because effort speaks louder than anything you say. If she is cold now, it is not attitude. It is exhaustion. She spent too long being warm to someone who kept giving her mixed signals, half effort, and almost energy.

A woman does not just switch up. She adjusts. She pays attention. She learns. When you teach her that your tone changes, your timing shifts, and your interest comes in waves, she stops pouring into you the way she used to. She protects herself. She saves her softness for the place it is valued, not drained.

If she is colder now, it is because she finally realized she deserves a man who is consistent, present, and intentional. Someone who makes her feel safe, not confused. Someone who meets her where she is, not where it is convenient. Her distance is not punishment. It is self respect.

⭐ Save this if you have ever felt yourself shutting down to protect your heart.
🔁 Share it with someone who needs to understand your shift.
❤️ Like this if it spoke to you.
👤 Follow for truth that helps you stop overgiving and start choosing yourself.

11/14/2025

✨If you're an LMSW considering a step into the world of clinical practice, I’d be happy to walk alongside you on the journey✨

Bringing nearly 15 years of experience my approach is one that emphasizes ethics and evidenced based practices, while incorporating real world practices and strategies to help you grow!

Reach out to me today or please share!!! Thank you!