07/15/2021
Six weeks into motherhood, I diligently brought my bleeding ni***es and anxiety along for a routine visit to the doctor’s office.
The doctor checked my baby thoroughly, asked a million questions about her development, and proceeded to hand me a pamphlet about birth control.
I’ll be honest, birth control was the last thing on my mind at the time, and yet it seemed to be the only thing on my doctor’s agenda.
I didn’t mention my ni***es at that appointment, nor did I give voice to the anxiety coursing through my veins.
I was too busy listening to the pros and cons of the pill, versus the IUD.
I was too distracted by my rooting baby.
I was too scared to admit to my worry and overwhelm.
I wrongly assumed that I was one of only a handful of moms to be feeling so depleted, so scattered and shattered. And so I didn’t breathe a word of it. I smiled, sweated somewhat profusely (they never warned us about this aspect of postpartum, right?! 😅) and dashed out of there to feed my baby in the sanctuary of my car, shredded ni***es and all.
Moms, we are slipping through the cracks of the system all too often. A system designed to monitor every last inch of us during pregnancy, before the free-fall of postpartum sets in.
Because for myself, and for so many others, postpartum can feel like we’re free-falling. Falling in love with our babies, of course, but also falling out of step with the rest of the world, and falling without support into the uncharted waters of new motherhood.
We deserve more.
Breastfeeding support, mental health support, pelvic floor phsyio, birth debriefs, access to holistic postpartum practitioners…these things surely top a birth control script in terms of necessity.
Imagine if postpartum checks focused on maternal wellbeing and mental health to the same degree they focus on our choice of birth control…what a difference such a simple change could make to so many new and free-falling moms.
You’ve got this.
With love,
Louise 💓
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