03/14/2026
From the desk of Dr. Shen:
My mom moved in with us just over 2 years ago due to health reasons. It was an unplanned move, and suddenly extracting her from her home, neighbors, friends, and relatives in California was a huge adjustment for her that she took in stride despite her age. It had been 43 years since we lived under the same roof. We’ve had a lot of reacquainting and catching up to do but it’s been a blessing to reminisce and make memories together again.
My mom is 91. She has lived through war, under foreign occupation, and has been uprooted from her “home” several times. Her remarkable ability to remain positive has carried her through multiple life changes. She has always adjusted, embraced new challenges, and thrived.
Living with her, I now appreciate her spirit and tenacity even more. The world is fascinating to her and she is determined to be part of all things new. Technology is an example. She still confuses Facebook and FaceTime, e-mail and texting, bluetooth and wifi, and somehow ends up with ten Mahjong and a dozen Solitaire apps on her phone (“I didn’t put them there!”). She is enthralled with CGI and AI and now shows me her phone and asks “Is this real?”
Despite her fascination with the new, some old beliefs and practices are so ingrained in her that nothing I say will ever change her mind. She told me when I was little (and she still insists that it’s true) that I shouldn’t run or exercise after eating or else I would get appendicitis. Imagine my surprise when I found out during pathology class in medical school that this was not true.
Babies should sleep on their stomachs. Don’t take a bath when you are sick. Wet hair will destroy your brain. “Ay-yah, wear more clothes, you will get pneumonia”. Don’t drink ice water (but Coke has to have ice). There are “yin” foods and “yang” foods - “need to balance”. Use the same napkin for an entire day (“don’t waste”). She is trying to withhold judgment on tattoos and piercing, only asking “But doesn’t it hurt?”
Mom is still sharp as a tack. Her wit and sense of humor have not dulled. She is interested in everything and everyone and still believes life is a blessing. After so many years in pediatrics, I have a new found appreciation for the wisdom and richness of the geriatric population and am grateful for the time my mom and I have together.