Alaska Marriage & Family Therapy Associates LLC

Alaska Marriage & Family Therapy Associates LLC Transforming lives by creating secure relationships everywhere through quality care! Providing marriage and family therapy is our passion. Each couple is unique.

We recognize the central importance of relationships in the well-being of individuals, couples, families, and communities. We focus on people's strengths and possibilities, while addressing their real life problems. We want to help you break the negative cycles in your relationship and discover a deeper, more fulfilling connection with your partner or family members. We seek to engage the best in you, your partner, your family, and your life. From that place, we address the frustrations, stress, pain, and/or difficulties that you are experiencing. Couples describe our style as warm, open and engaging. Our approach allows each of you the space to express your concerns while maintaining emotional safety. We work together to address real life issues, and we are open to feedback throughout the therapy process. Some people need to go deeply into past hurts while others want to deal with more immediate problems. We will discover together the best approach to improve your relationships and life. We build on couple's research, and the work of Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT). We then work together collaboratively based on your goals and situation.

02/10/2026

For the ones who can relate
You are not alone!

02/04/2026

Fear of self-sacrifice lurks deep in every ego.

01/31/2026

There is a difference between being personally hurt by someones behavior vs their behavior is not an expression of love.

01/31/2026

Love is the recognition of shared being

Thanks social workers!
01/25/2026

Thanks social workers!

Deep sleep is powerfulCall us if you’re not getting this deep sleep.
01/25/2026

Deep sleep is powerful
Call us if you’re not getting this deep sleep.

We help children by helping adults
01/24/2026

We help children by helping adults

01/23/2026
01/15/2026

We are all fighting for connection

01/13/2026

Many men come into the therapy room saying something like, “I do everything she asks. I’m trying so hard to be a good partner.”

And it’s confusing—deeply painful, even—when those efforts are met not with appreciation, but with anger, distance, or a kind of emotional exhaustion that feels like indifference.

But here’s an important truth:
Doing what you’re told is not the same as being emotionally or relationally connected.

When you wait for instructions—when the household, the planning, the noticing, and the emotional climate all fall to your partner—you may think you’re being respectful or accommodating. But what often happens on the other side is very different.

It doesn’t feel like partnership.
It feels like responsibility.
It places her in a position where she has to manage not just the tasks of the home, but the mental load of remembering, anticipating, and leading everything. And when one person ends up carrying the architecture of the relationship, the home, and the emotional environment, they don’t just get tired—they get overwhelmed.
This is where desire often fades—not because they don’t care, but because their nervous system is on constant alert.

They’re scanning for what still needs to be done, what might fall through the cracks, and what they alone are holding.

In that state, the body doesn’t relax. It doesn’t play. It doesn’t open.
It can’t.

Connection in a relationship isn’t just about tasks—it’s about shared ownership of the life you’re building together.

A humanistic approach to partnership looks like this:
• You notice what needs care before someone has to name it.
• You participate in the emotional and practical ecosystem of your home.
• You carry part of the invisible load—thinking, anticipating, planning—not because you’re told to, but because you see yourselves as a team.

This isn’t about doing chores to earn favor.
It’s about creating trust—trust that you’re with each other, thinking together, moving together, making the world you share feel safe and balanced.

So instead of asking, “What do you need me to do?”
Try asking yourself:
“What’s happening here, and how can I take responsibility for part of it?”
When both partners feel supported—truly supported—they can soften, open, and reconnect from a place of mutual care, not obligation.

That’s where intimacy lives.
Not in compliance, but in partnership.

01/10/2026

Nurture your relationship like your health. Schedule regular check-ups for it to thrive.

We can help for those wanting to reach Stage 5
09/07/2025

We can help for those wanting to reach Stage 5

Address

1205 E International Airport Road, Suite 100
Anchorage, AK
99518

Opening Hours

Monday 9am - 6:30pm
Tuesday 9am - 6:30pm
Wednesday 9am - 6:30pm
Thursday 9am - 6:30pm
Friday 9am - 6:30pm

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Our Story

We recognize the central importance of relationships in the well-being of individuals, couples, families, and communities. We focus on people's strengths and possibilities, while addressing their real life problems. We want to help you break the negative cycles in your relationship and discover a deeper, more fulfilling connection with your partner or family members. We seek to engage the best in you, your partner, your family, and your life. From that place, we address the frustrations, stress, pain, and/or difficulties that you are experiencing. Providing marriage and family therapy is our passion. Couples describe our style as warm, open and engaging. Our approach allows each of you the space to express your concerns while maintaining emotional safety. We work together to address real life issues, and we are open to feedback throughout the therapy process. Each couple is unique. Some people need to go deeply into past hurts while others want to deal with more immediate problems. We will discover together the best approach to improve your relationships and life. We build on couple's research, and the work of Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT). We then work together collaboratively based on your goals and situation.

This all began as this following story share the essence of Alaska Marriage & Family Therapy Associates:

Our Origin Story

What was meant for adversity has become our talent. As a result of two scientists coming incredibly close to divorce, a unique company grew. Both Shawnmarie and Douglas developed successful careers as a Medical Science High School Teacher and a Computer Programmer. Then the heartache of disconnection led to this very powerful couple thinking divorce was the answer. As scientists they knew that in the Professional Journals and Periodicals must lay the answer to repair their marriage. The two set out to find the answer, and what they found not only saved their own marriage but lead them to this journey of saving other Alaskan marriages as well. As members of the small town of Ketchikan, Alaska their lives were in full view of the community. After they learned how to save their own marriage the small-town friends and families wanted what they had found.