02/21/2026
During our 28 day challenge, I’ve shared a lot of the good, the foundations in our marriage.
Not every day is what social media shows. But seriously, I thank the Lord that almost over day actually is (and that is because of the foundation our marriage is built upon. We agreed upon some things early on)
Today, a minor hiccup. Could’ve turned into a much bigger ordeal if we didn’t deal with it appropriately
We decided to go to a coffee shop to work on a marriage retreat that we will be speaking at in less than a month. We were both excited to do so!
As we got started, some tension and frustration grew (although we expect that now, realizing when the enemy tries to get in the way… When you’re trying to do the Lords work).
Tom is very quick with decisions and thought processes. I gather information and move slower.
He was wanting to jump in and get started. I wanted to make an outline.
As tension grew, he said you can just message the Pastor and I’ll sit here and wait. Tell me when you’re ready. I put my phone down and said you can just go ahead and make it and then tell me what we’re going to do.
He said I’m not going to plunge forward and you’re not going to shut down. Let’s talk.
We did. He explained he was plunging forward because he’s excited. Once he said that it opened my mind and I was very thankful for him doing these things with me.!!! and he thanked me for being methodical, making sure we have the right amount of content for the sessions we’re supposed to provide information for.
Once upon a time, it wouldn’t have went this way. Because we don’t argue often, we really didn’t know how to. So if any thing came up, that was uncomfortable, we could go days without talking (the enemy loved that, getting right there in the middle, creating more conflict and division). Not anymore! Thank you, Jesus.
When we work with couples, we work with premarital, maintenance, or crisis. And we strongly believe if those first two are solid the latter will be rare.
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