11/05/2025
We recently lost our horse, Jesse, whom we all loved so deeply. Those of us lucky to know Jesse knew what a gentle, loving soul he was. As I’m continuing to sit with my heart wide open in grief, I can’t help but be grateful to Jesse for all he has taught me, our herd, our barncrew and clients in both his life and death. I let every tear fall in honor of him because I know the heartbreak we all feel is just reflective of the love we have for him. He deserves to be felt for.
I wish everyone could understand the gifts Jesse brought to all who knew him. One of the greatest gifts was how so many people felt so deeply seen and loved in Jesse’s presence. Jesse really saw you with his deep brown, kind and gentle eyes. He could see your soul and let you know that you were worthy of love for the simple fact of existing. Per one of my clients: “It’s the first time I felt in my body that I am enough just because I am here. That it’s safe to be me and that I can truly be loved for me.”
I know there’s also deep medicine in grief. We’ve all had to hold space for ourselves, our team, the horses and clients in goodbyes and sadness. It’s been beautiful in how we’ve all had to learn how to lean in to the heartbreak and loss fully without numbing or checking out. Our clients have had to learn to be present even more deeply in their experience with life and death. They have even chosen to hold space for Jesse as he prepared for his departure and our herd in their grief. How powerful it has been to have witnessed this.
One of the most beautiful goodbyes I witnessed was a young teenage girl who sat with Jesse, and as she did so, her dad went over and sat with her, fully present and holding space for her goodbye. I still keep thinking about the deep medicine of that moment.
I think Jesse knew what he was doing by choosing us as his herd in the final couple years of his life. I know he left feeling loved and seen by us too, barncrew and clients both. And what a beautiful way to end life- giving and receiving love; showing others what true reciprocal partnership looks and feels like in both life and death.
I know Jesse will always remain connected to us all in our hearts, and I’m grateful we will always be able to meet him there.
There’s so much more to share on all the deep lessons I’m learning about grief through this experience and how it has expanded me, our herd and clients in ways I never expected. But for now, my heart and words quiet so my grief can continue to be felt and fully integrated.
Thank you, Jesse, for being part of my therapy team, but most importantly, for being my friend and teacher ❤️