01/17/2026
“How will I feel when my mom dies?” is a question I’m often asked by adult children in my work as a therapist who specializes in the mother wound.
The honest answer is that there is no single answer. Some people feel relief or contentment when a harmful or abusive mother dies. Others feel deep grief for the mother they never had. Many experience both simultaneously. While none of us can know exactly what that moment will bring, I do know this: however you feel will be valid.