03/26/2026
Grief isn’t linear.
Today, a friend shared that it’s her mom’s birthday…
her mom who passed just a few months ago.
And it made me think about how often, when someone we love is grieving or going through something hard, we don’t know what to do.
We want to help.
We want to say the right thing.
We want to be there…
But we don’t always know how.
I’ve seen this in many spaces working with organizations like and , supporting people through loss and grief.
But I didn’t fully understand it… until I lived it.
After the car accident, during the very long season of healing and not being able to work, I could feel how much people cared but really didn’t know how to be supportive. And I didn’t know how to communicate what I needed. Really, the truth is, when you’re in it, you often don’t know what you need until the moment arrives.
So today, instead of trying to find the “right” words… I chose something simple.
Something fun.
Something that might bring a smile.
This video was my way of showing up for her from afar. Support doesn’t have to be perfect. It just has to be felt.
If you want to see the full moment, you can watch the video on my YouTube :
https://youtube.com/?si=nPKtlrlHFtpXHN5U
And if you know someone who’s grieving…
this is your reminder:
You don’t have to have the right words.
Just don’t disappear.
Much love.
