12/23/2025
Let’s face it, there’s often at least one family member that can make holiday gatherings more challenging. Maybe it’s that uncle who drinks too much and loses his filter, that parent with the passive-aggressive remarks, the nosey in-law, or the judgmental sibling.
Family can bring out amplified emotional responses and uproot unresolved feelings. Here are a few tips for how to navigate family gatherings, making your mental health a priority:
👉Be okay with setting boundaries- If there is an activity that you don’t want to participate in or a situation in which you will feel uncomfortable, be okay with sitting something out. You can be present and part of the family gathering without having to be in the middle of everything. Choose a one-on-one conversation with someone you enjoy, step outside for a few minutes to re-energize, or decide on a time you plan to gracefully leave before you arrive.
👉Prepare yourself- Approach gatherings knowing what your limits are and with realistic expectations. How much time will you give that super challenging family member? What things have been difficult for you in the past? How will you stay calm and focused if those situations arise?
👉Redirect with confidence- Be comfortable re-directing conversations that are going downhill fast. It could be politics, parenting issues, or something from years ago that suddenly pops into the conversation! Feel confident gently redirecting family members or conversations that are emotionally-charged or not productive. Some responses are, “This is not something I’m comfortable discussing right now” or “let’s plan to talk about this at another time, outside of the holidays”
👉Holiday Spirit- The term “Holiday spirit” wasn’t created because people are in great spirits all year long. Holiday gatherings are a great opportunity to practice extra positivity, kindness, and compassion. Attend the family gathering with your mind set on seeing each family member for their strengths and prepare to be understanding of others’ shortcomings. Extra grace this time of year is absolutely holiday spirit!