12/04/2025
Helping a baby (and your family) get better sleep doesn’t mean following a one-size-fits-all program. What really matters is finding the approach that fits your baby’s needs and your parenting values — so you can all feel rested, safe, and supported.
💜 What the research says:
• Sleep-training methods (like graduated “go-in at intervals” or teaching self-settling) can reduce the number of night-wakes and improve parental sleep and mood.
• But: “Sleep training” does not mean forcing a newborn to keep going when they clearly still need care. Newborns have short sleep cycles and need frequent feeds.
• The best method is the one you and your baby can consistently use. Consistency, patience and a calm environment matter.
🌸 What effective sleep training looks like:
• Create a calm bedtime routine. Whatever you choose – dim lights, quiet music, a gentle lullaby, cuddles – help your baby wind down. Routine signals: it’s time to rest.
• Put baby down drowsy but awake. This helps them learn how to fall asleep without always needing you to rock or feed them into deep sleep.
• Pick an approach that fits you. Some families choose a method with timed check-ins (for example: put baby down awake, wait 3-5 minutes, check, leave), others choose gentler fading methods where you stay nearby and slowly increase distance or time.
• Safe sleep environment matters. Make sure the baby’s sleep space is safe (on back, firm mattress, no loose blankets) and comfortable (room temperature, minimal disturbances). This supports any sleep-training effort.
🕊️ Important reminders:
• Sleep training isn’t about perfection. There will be bumps. Illnesses, teeth, big changes—all may disrupt sleep even when you’ve done the best you can.
• Don’t shame yourself. If a method doesn’t feel right, you can pause, adjust, or pick another path. What matters is safety, connection, and what works for your family.
• If your baby has ongoing sleep issues, medical conditions, or you’re feeling overwhelmed, reach out for professional support (pediatrician, sleep consultant, doula).
✨ You’re not just teaching baby to sleep — you’re helping your whole family find more rest, connection, and rhythm.