That Clay Couple

11/30/2025

The person may not want to lose you, but they also don’t want to grow into what it takes to keep you.
They love access to you. And you keep offering it.
They just don’t love the accountability that comes with having authentic reciprocity requests in their life.
You can’t build with someone who only shows up when it’s comfortable. -Auntie Ny

11/28/2025

This isn’t another self-care chat. It’s your breakthrough. You’ve been carrying what’s not serving you for too long. It’s time to let it go. Accepting new clients in NC. Many insurances accepted.

11/22/2025

11/15/2025

Way too many folks think this stuff is a part “normal relationship problems.” Nah… When you get multiples of this, in addition to other stuff, it’s exhausting.
And once you name it, you can’t unsee it.

If you felt any of these in your stomach, don’t ignore that. That’s your body giving you a cue. Listen cause it’s trying to get your attention.

Drop a ❤️ if this opened your eyes and share it so another person can stop normalizing harm.-Auntie Ny

11/14/2025

Some moms and dad’s grieve in silence. Not because they don’t love their child, but because the life they thought they were stepping into changed on them.

And the judgement. Folks will shame you for speaking this way. The grief sits heavy and makes you question yourself and for having the thought. Nothing is wrong with you. You’re human.

Here’s something to do when grief kicks in. Sit with one truth at a time. Don’t overwhelm yourself.

Repeat after me, “My love for my child is real. My sadness is real. Both can be truth at the same time.” Let that settle in your body instead of fighting it. Take the war out of your chest.

If this hit home for you, share it with another Parent who’s been holding their breath. And follow for more conversations that don’t make you feel crazy for being human.-Auntie Ny

11/10/2025

I sat with a couple in counseling who believed they were thorough about learning each other before marriage. Each had a checklist.
Each checked every box.
They thought that meant love would be easy. They thought it meant they’d agree on parenting, get along with each other’s families, and listen when a boundary was set.

They were wrong. They married the list, not the person.

A checklist can’t teach you how to be emotionally safe with someone. It can’t show you how they act when they’re wrong.

Before you marry someone, find out what they do when they’re wrong. Not what would you do, but what have you done.
This answer will tell you more than any checklist ever could. -Auntie Ny

11/03/2025

Which one sits with you the most? List three ways you show care when you feel safe.
Then, list three ways you act when you feel triggered. Your next step in growth is closing the gap between the two.

11/01/2025

When you feel left out or hurt because someone hasn’t reached out, pause before you react.

Use these three grounding questions:
1. What story am I telling myself right now?
2. What else could be true?
3. What do I actually need in this moment? Connection? Reassurance? Rest?

Your pause gives you room to settle before resentment takes root. It keeps you from building a whole narrative, full of assumptions, off of an unanswered call. -Auntie Ny

10/28/2025

Jealousy doesn’t always speak loud, but you can feel it before it’s named. It’s a quiet tension that tells you somebody’s spirit ain’t clapping for you like their mouth is.
When you sense that shift in a room, you don’t owe it fear or reaction.
You owe yourself grounding.
You owe your peace protection. You owe your spirit stillness. Drop “Truth” in the comments if you relate.- Auntie Ny

10/26/2025

Your thoughts are loud because no one taught you how to quiet them. I take insurance in NC. Book your session and learn how. Send a message.