01/05/2026
Ok, who else has read The Four Agreements?! It is on my list of books that has made a huge difference in my life. Rather than write a bajillion words in one post, I'll break this up into 4-5 posts. I've been off the Four Agreements wagon, and just stepped back on last week. It feels good!
The Four Agreements distills ancient Toltec wisdom into four simple principles:
1. Be impeccable with your word
2. Don’t take things personally
3. Don’t make assumptions
4. Always do your best.
Together, they offer a practical framework for reducing self-inflicted stress, improving relationships and living a life of personal freedom. 🙏🏾
When I read non-fiction books, I write out "Nzinga's Notes." Last week, I cracked open my notes from 2024, and I have revisited them almost daily since then! These are some of the sentences that stood out to me from the introduction of the book:
💡The belief system is like a Book of Law that rules our mind.
💡The inner Judge uses our Book of Law to judge everything we do and don’t do, everything we think and don’t think and everything we feel and don’t feel.
💡The Victim receives those judgments and carries the blame, the guilt and the shame.
💡True justice is paying only once for each mistake. True injustice is paying more than once for each mistake. Every time we remember, we judge ourselves again, we are guilty again, and we punish ourselves again, and again, and again.
💡 It is our agreements that rule our own life, and if we do not like the dream of our life, we need to change the agreements.
Tomorrow, I'll post sentences about the first agreement. ⭐
The Four Agreements™ was published in 1997 and has sold over 15 million copies in the United States alone. It has been on the New York Times Bestselling list for over a decade and is published in 5…
