Dealing to Healing

08/03/2025

The Shoes That Hurt: A Lesson In Boundaries

Have you ever bought something based on a label or the brand name? We’ve all done it bought something just because of the brand name. That shiny label promises quality, but sometimes we get just an expensive lie.

This happens with people, too. In my recent experience, I got hung up on a person with a high degree and an impressive title. I quickly became enthralled with them based on their social status.

While I was enthralled with their status and label, I also felt uncomfortable with them pushing my boundaries. It was kind of like a designer pair of shoes that hurt your feet. You keep thinking that these shoes are better than this, but the excruciating foot pain is a reminder that it’s only the label, and the shoes are not the quality that the label advertises.

They kept pushing my boundaries and I kept thinking this feels uncomfortable, but surely this is not their intention.

Sadly I learned that when I held my boundaries, they ended the relationship. I was initially taken aback but then I remembered my instinct knew better than I. My instinct told me they were pushing my boundaries and they were not as good as their social status or the label that I bought into.

This experience was a kind reminder from God to show me that I had grown. I had recognized a mask, the discomfort of when one pushes my boundaries, and I cannot buy into labels, social status, titles, financial status, or what seems to be.

I’m thankful for the people who come into my life, their masks so perfectly and delicately worn that I don’t see them at first. But I’m even more thankful for my growth-for the small voice within that now whispers, ‘This is not what it seems to be.’ It’s a reminder that titles and labels are not always what they seem.

What’s a ‘label’ you’ve had to walk away from?”

08/03/2025

Have you ever bought something based on a label or the brand name? We’ve all done it bought something just because of the brand name. That shiny label promises quality, but sometimes we get just an expensive lie. This happens with people, too. In my recent experience, I got hung up on a person with a high degree and an impressive title....

Have you ever bought something based on a label or the brand name? We’ve all done it bought something just because of the brand name. That shiny label promises quality, but sometimes we get just an…

07/25/2025

07/20/2025

I wrote this in 2023 but never published it. Last year I was sitting in my vehicle waiting to meet my realtor when a small Eastern Bluebird flew onto my rear view mirror. He was so bright that he looked animated. He just sat looking at me. After being mesmerized for several minutes I reached for my phone to take a picture but he flew off....

I wrote this in 2023 but never published it. Last year I was sitting in my vehicle waiting to meet my realtor when a small Eastern Bluebird flew onto my rear view mirror. He was so bright that he l…

07/13/2025

Have you ever fallen out of love? I think we all know what it's like to fall in love. We fall in love with people, activities, things like wine, art, vehicles, furniture, soft, fuzzy blankets, and robes, but then one day we wake up and think, "I am not in love you anymore." And just like that, you stop drinking your favorite wine, you take down the art, you trade your vehicle, you sell your furniture, and your favorite fuzzy blanket and robe that gave you comfort for so many years suddenly end up in the Goodwill pile....

Have you ever fallen out of love? I think we all know what it’s like to fall in love. We fall in love with people, activities, things like wine, art, vehicles, furniture, soft, fuzzy blankets…

06/01/2025

Do you know the definition of integrity? The first definition of Merriam Webster’s dictionary says “firm adherence to a code of especially moral or artistic values”’. My definition is the true individual when they think nobody is looking.

I have as a background picture on one of my social media accounts the words “You’d be surprised who’s watching your journey. Don’t quit!” Isn’t there someone always watching? Remember Tess in Oceans Eleven said You of all people should know, Terry, in your hotel, there’s always someone watching.

I believe there is always someone watching or at the very least paying attention. Typically people watchers do not make an announcement. They sit quietly observing, scrutinizing and critiquing people’s moves. Much like our mothers knew everything we did behind their backs like they had eyeballs in the back of their head. We think they don’t know but they know.

And whatever people do when they think nobody is paying attention, that’s the truest form of that person. That’s about as raw as we will ever see them because they think nobody is watching.

Let’s jump to Maya Angelou’s famous quote, “When someone tells you who they are, believe them.” I know we don’t want to believe but believe them. Believe that you are witnessing the truest form of someone, believe the narrative they paint to give themselves a label. Believe that they think you don’t know. They often believe their own lies, therefore they think you do too.

Believe me when I say someone is always watching. What is it you are doing when you think nobody’s paying attention? What is it that we are doing when we think nobody is looking? Understanding our true selves, even when we think no one is watching is part of the healing journey and self acceptance.

06/01/2025

Do you know the definition of integrity? The first definition of Merriam Webster's dictionary says “firm adherence to a code of especially moral or artistic values”’. My definition is the true individual when they think nobody is looking. I have as a background picture on one of my social media accounts the words “You’d be surprised who’s watching your journey. Don’t quit!” Isn’t there someone always watching?...

Do you know the definition of integrity? The first definition of Merriam Webster’s dictionary says  “firm adherence to a code of especially moral or artistic values”’. My defin…

02/09/2025

It’s February 💝 How’s your helping you manifest?

Eckhart Tolle emphasizes that "Manifestation can only be truly effective when it arises out of the Being state of consciousness."

When manifestation is primarily driven by the ego (personality) its effectiveness is compromised. While some success may be achieved, the outcomes will not ultimately provide fulfillment. True fulfillment can only be attained when we connect with our essence identity, the "Deep I."

Are you manifesting from your ego personality traits?

One may ask, what is manifestation, or how does one manifest something?

To manifest something, consider the following steps:

Clearly define your desires: Articulate what you want and why you want it. As stated in Psalms 37:4, "Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart."

Visualize: Use your mind's eye to envision the ideal version of possessing what you desire. Proverbs 29:18 highlights, "Where there is no vision, the people perish."

Create positive affirmations: Repeat phrases that express your desire and confidence in yourself. Affirmations are abundant; find yours or begin with Psalms 23.

Take action: Initiate movement toward your objective. Faith and prayer are ineffective without action, as emphasized in James 2:14-26.

Celebrate your progress: Acknowledge and rejoice in each step you take.
1 Thessalonians 5:18 instructs, "Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus."

01/11/2025

It’s Always Something

I’d like to start by expressing my deepest gratitude to God for the complete healing since the incident in 2023. I also want to thank myself for honoring my faith and for the strength I found within myself throughout this journey. Finally, I want to extend my heartfelt thanks to my incredible community of supporters who carried me through every step of the way.

You’ve likely heard the saying, “It’s always something.” And I agree, it truly is. There’s always something happening with our homes, jobs, relationships, health, finances, and the list goes on. We often find ourselves waking up and going to bed with a constant stream of challenges.

I’ve certainly had my fair share of “somethings” throughout my life. However, as 2025 approached, I began to shift my focus. I started thinking deeply about the goals I wanted to achieve and dreaming big about the future I envisioned. To help me stay on track, I ordered a custom planner and uploaded my vision board to the cover. Inside, I meticulously outlined every single goal, complete with detailed plans and strategies for achieving them.

But just as I ordered my planner, another “something” unexpectedly appeared. And as soon as that subsided, another one followed close behind.

We all understand this – “it’s always something.” These unexpected obstacles can easily derail us from our goals, dreams, and the pursuit of our best lives. Each time a “something” arises, it demands our attention, distracting us from the path we’ve set out on.

While we’re busy handling these constant “somethings,” life continues to move forward. We inadvertently abandon ourselves each time we allow ourselves to be consumed by these distractions instead of staying focused on our intended course.

I am determined to remain mindful of this and maintain my focus. I’m actively speaking affirmations and declaring my intention to stay the course. I will not allow these “somethings” to distract me, because I know there will always be something. I hope you will join me with the commitment in 2025.