04/10/2026
Welcome to my leopard print chair!
One thing I’ve been working on with clients lately is the idea of practice. Practice making one choice that feels hard in the moment: something like refusing a second dessert that you know you’ll like the taste of but will also set you back in terms of your weight loss goal.
If you’re always approaching your choices like it’s game time, then everything feels very high stakes. You’ll either win or you’ll lose. If, instead, you approach your decisions as if they’re practice, you tamp down that black/white, win/lose mentality and start to operate as if you’re honing a skill.
And that’s exactly what you’re doing. Changing your relationship with food doesn’t come after a thunder clap of realization. It’s a skill, like any other, that at first feels really effortful and clunky and eventually, if you practice enough, becomes second nature.
Next time you have a choice between a destructive and a constructive food moment, ask yourself what you would tell a/your child about this moment.
Would you tell them they better shove the entire cake down their throat now because it was their last chance this year to eat cake and tomorrow they’d need to be “perfect”?
Would you tell them they were stupid, fat, and lazy for even wanting the cake, and point out to them that their thin friend never even looked at the cake?
Try talking to yourself as if you’re the parent you need.
