Katie Bartley Therapy

03/22/2022

Back from Spring Break and immediately to the grind. Which in our house means all the sports and work and travel for my husband. This is the time of year that is especially taxing for our family which means a deeper need for intentionality. Here are some great things to be aware of and intentional about in your relationships to make them stronger and more joyful. Perfect time for me to see and be reminded as well so wanted to share. ❤️

03/14/2022

Great read! ❤️

The cognitive scientist Laurie Santos says “we’re fighting cultural forces that are telling us, ‘You’re not happy enough.’”

03/03/2022

My 43 yr old self needs to be reminded about this just as much as my teenage clients and let’s face it, everyone. But goodness, why is it so easy to assume everyone is having a better and more beautiful experience than you? This is such a common issue in my office as of late and it makes me really sad. There is beauty, joy and love everywhere but sometimes we have to really stop and allow ourselves to see it and believe it for ourselves. ❤️

01/12/2022

Gottman Therapy has a great tenet: Turn Towards vs Away. This essentially comes down to acknowledging your partner/relationship vs dismissing them. One of the most common dismissive phrases is “get over it.” Virtually every individual or couple I work with can recount a time where someone important to them said this to them and how much it stung and made them feel small and invalidated. Instead of trying to silence someone’s feelings try turning towards them and say, “tell me more,” or “how are you feeling about that?” And when you tell yourself to “get over it,” try turning towards yourself and offer yourself grace to know that whatever the issue is has stayed with you for a reason and it is something to explore, not stifle. ❤️

01/05/2022

Happy New Year everyone! I don’t mean to start this year on a downer but the reality is many of you had tough 2021’s. I really loved the image this quote conjured for me and hope it is encouraging to you as well. Where are you planted this year? ❤️

12/15/2021

This is a topic I am passionate about. I meet with a lot of young women who have shared similar stories. Parents, the second you give your kids a phone is the second they have access to p**n. And before you tell me they can’t see it or won’t or whatever, the content is readily available on just about any device from a friend, older siblings, teammate and so on. Talk to your kids about p**n. It’s not if they will see it, it’s when so arm them with the knowledge to know what they are seeing and watching is incredibly destructive.

The "Bad Guy" singer said violent s*x videos warped her perspective on healthy relationships.

12/06/2021

I cannot recommend following Nedra Tawwab enough. She is an amazingly thoughtful therapist and full of wisdom. This one is just as much for me as for any of you out there. Especially going into another potentially stressful holiday period. But something I constantly strive to improve on. Where others need advocacy and assertiveness encouragement, there are many, like myself, (looking at you Enneagram 8’s) that need encouragement to be still and silent sometimes. Here’s to knowing and owning where you might fall and making an effort to grow. ❤️

11/25/2021

Happy Thanksgiving! While also sincerely acknowledging it is not happy for everyone. Hugs to those of you today too. ❤️

11/16/2021

Love me some reframing. Hustle vs Health. ❤️

11/08/2021

Most people wait far too long to initiate and try therapy. So many of us have gotten the message that we have to be in full blown crisis before we beg for help. But sometimes the best gift you can yourself is working on YOU just because it may help you now, in the next crisis or after you’ve survived one. ❤️

11/01/2021

Good stuff. ❤️

My new book Clarity & Connection is now available https://www.amazon.com/Clarity-Connection-Yung-Pueblo/dp/1524860484/

08/16/2021

As many of us have kids that head back to school this week or already have gone back, here’s a few things to keep in mind. Our kids are watching us allllll the time. And how we respond and discuss various issues are likely how they will respond and discuss as well. ❤️