Sidu Arroyo, LPC • Family Psychotherapist

Sidu Arroyo, LPC • Family Psychotherapist Intuitive, development-based parenting
Highly sensitive souls & their people
Family & couples insights
Homeschool mom • book lover

04/22/2026

Hot take: Only on rare circumstances should a therapist tell a client to leave their marriage/partnership.

First, this should go without saying, but I've seen an increase in therapist telling clients how to live their life and what they need to do in their relationship. When a therapist advises a client to leave their marriage/partnership we take away the client's autonomy (among other things).

As therapist, we must remember that when clients share the same stories, this gives us insight about their world, patterns, needs, defenses, and so forth.

A good therapist will also help educate a client on patterns, defenses, traits, and yes, recognizing abuse. As well as connect them to or suggest resources for safety.
But it is up to the client to decide what to do in their relationship, not the therapist.

Lastly, because I know you are wondering if Samantha is my client, and therefore I am breaking confidentiality, I can assure you that I have been watching and listening to Frozen 2 soundtrack and Samantha was the first name that came to mind. 🌬🙃

If you are in Hays County or Austin, TX and looking to start therapy visit the link in my bio to be connected to a relational depth-oriented therapist.

What questions, thoughts come to mind?

But I'm so tired.If you made it through the slides and you walk away thinking, "Great, another thing I have to do," bein...
04/17/2026

But I'm so tired.

If you made it through the slides and you walk away thinking, "Great, another thing I have to do," being a parent and actively helping your child grow into a well-rounded human being can be exhausting.

And I want to encourage you to remember your values. Hold onto those. They can help you (along with asking for help) do the hard, sometimes exhausting, thing, even when you'd rather take the easy route of shouting and telling your child 'just to clean the room'.

Because sitting with them and quietly removing what no longer gets used,

creating space so the room can breathe again,

does make it easier to succeed rather than easier to fail.

And that is hard work. Rewarding and hard.

Staying with them, not to control or critique but to come alongside, is hard work.

Remember that learning how to care for a space is just that, learned.

It’s not a character trait.
It’s not a measure of respect.
It’s a skill that grows with support, repetition, and time. 💛

How does this resonate with you? 🫠

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As I often share, I love the toddler years (and preschool years). They are my absolute favorite. So, I shared this on Th...
04/13/2026

As I often share, I love the toddler years (and preschool years). They are my absolute favorite. So, I shared this on Threads and the responses brought so much joy and laughter I had to share it here. 🥹😂

And now, I ask you...

What's your favorite thing about the toddler years?

Drop your response in the comments below and let's hold unto the good alongside the exhausting!

To the mom looking at this post and saying, I don't have any! I'm drained! That's okay. You don't have to love these years. We gotcha. 💛

Which one of these surprises you most? Which one do you feel confident in answering?Let me know below. 👇For more on atta...
04/10/2026

Which one of these surprises you most? Which one do you feel confident in answering?

Let me know below. 👇

For more on attachment and family relationships follow along.

This is the hidden work of becoming.To remain soft and to trust the silence.Because even here, something sacred is being...
04/03/2026

This is the hidden work of becoming.
To remain soft and to trust the silence.
Because even here, something sacred is being born.

A slightly different post, but I hope it finds whoever needs it. Especially my sensitive souls who carry a heavy burden of feeling they are 'too much'. 💛

04/01/2026

It is enough to teach your child that emotions are acceptable and welcome. It is enough to teach your child that when they experience strong emotions, they can go to someone. These teachings are not taught directly but rather experienced.

There is a heavy emphasis on teaching children, which can create pressure for you and your children. Most of the skills your young child needs will develop with maturity and in the context of a safe and nurturing relationship. There is nothing you can do to rush them.

For young children who are hitting, throwing, and biting, consider that they are doing the best they can to communicate their frustration.

No, hurting, biting, and throwing are not safe or helpful, so as a conscious parent leader, you stop the behavior. You let the frustration come out by sharing validating words.

"Your eyebrows are scrunched, and your hand in a fist. You feel mad." (While you show them the ASL sign for mad.

"You are tired of being in the car, and it's coming out in your throwing hands!"

You implement a boundary and then allow the tears to follow. Tears are the simplest and most profound way a child can release frustration.

Outside of these moments:

Be proactive. Meet your child's needs for connection and offer them opportunities to play and rest. Show them how to communicate their anger.

"You can say, MAD (with ASL sign), mommy! When you are feeling mad, I will help you."

If your child throws things in the car, ask yourself what could be causing this behavior. Is your child tired? Bored? Sad? Don't pack the hard toys if you know they throw but pack other items to help them be less bored or listen to music.

What questions or thoughts come to mind? ⬇

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03/31/2026

Now try this.

Instead of letting the assumption become a conclusion…

“He doesn’t care about me, otherwise he would have….”

“She’s just acting out to get attention.”

"It's all my fault, I've ruined them. That's why they don't want to go to school."

• Try asking and get curious about the other person's experience.
•Share your intention clearly and name your needs without blame.
•See if you can pause before reacting, clarify before defending, and listen to understand the other.

Most of us listen to respond rather than to understand.

Relationships are messy, and you don’t have to lose yourself to meet someone else in their experience, but to make relationships work, you do have to learn how to see the other.

Many of us are trying to love well, but using different internal maps.

(This post assumes interpersonal relationships free from abuse.)

Some of us may have more work to do in learning to express ourselves. For others, the primary work is learning how our impact lands.

If you are looking for support with interpersonal relationships:

Follow me for more on relationships that matter to you.

If you have self-awareness and still feel stuck, visit the link in my bio to learn more about how we can connect, or connect with a psychodynamic therapist.

On social media, the parent-child attachment has taken a turn that is causing more harm than good. It centers around per...
03/27/2026

On social media, the parent-child attachment has taken a turn that is causing more harm than good. It centers around perfection and never missing a moment of connection.

Perhaps this is why many millennials now fantasize about life "when I was a kid in the 90s." 🕺

There's an ever-increasing focus on the child's attachment, but as Donald Winnicott famously said, “There is no such thing as a baby; if you show me a baby, you certainly show me also someone caring for the baby."

The parent is part of the attachment, and the parent's own attachment history shapes every point of connection between child and parent. (Shaped, not destined.)

Where do you find it easiest, and hardest, to stay connected?



"Why did I do that? I know better."Or, for some of us, we may ask, 'Why do I do what I do?'Curiosity is a great approach...
03/07/2026

"Why did I do that? I know better."

Or, for some of us, we may ask, 'Why do I do what I do?'

Curiosity is a great approach.

Until we get to know our fears, the majority of which live in our unconscious, we are likely operating to avoid the fears, and that often feels quite linear and exhausting.

But as we get to know the fears and stories we've learned to survive, new paths become possible. In this expansive space, there is freedom.

What fears or stories are you exploring?

03/05/2026

There is tremendous wisdom in knowing and living from a place of interdependence. I am not suggesting we stop learning, but in our modern-day world, parenting, and more specifically, motherhood, has fallen prey to consumerism.

There are endless parenting communities you can join, courses you can take, apps you can download, and books to read, all from "experts" who are selling us a how-to guide.

The perpetual outsourcing of how to be in a relationship with your child (or another) inhibits our ability to be in the very relationship we are trying to build.

Again, I am referring to the outsourcing of how to be in the relationship, which differs from learning about child development, patterns, our inner worlds, and how they may come into conflict with others.

In psychodynamic therapy, you can begin to explore questions like, what does my intuition say? What resistances show up when I access my intuition? What discomfort arises when I am invited to be in a relationship with my child (or loved one) that then leads me to outsource? What do I want in this situation?

So now, I'm curious how this video resonates with you?

To elaborate a bit more on the second slide:Through the parenting relationship, we are invited into the depths of our au...
03/05/2026

To elaborate a bit more on the second slide:

Through the parenting relationship, we are invited into the depths of our authentic selves.

These are the parts or selves we like, such as our kindness, compassion, craftiness, or empathy, but they can also be parts we find ugly or difficult, such as our selfishness, anger, or dependence.

Transformation is difficult but can be beautiful. 🦋

What misguided messages would you include?

What are your thoughts?How does this resonate with you? # #
12/18/2025

What are your thoughts?
How does this resonate with you?

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