Shakti Heart and Soul Therapy & Coaching

Shakti Heart and Soul Therapy & Coaching I am a trauma-informed, s*x-positive, poly, and kink-friendly-affirmative psychotherapist, s*x therapist, and dating and relationship coach.

I am an advocate and a part of the LGBTQIA2S+ community in Austin, Texas. Shaina Singh, LCSW is a Licensed Psychotherapist and a Dating and Life Coach in Austin, TX. She has worked in the behavioral health field for over 8 years. In that time, she has provided counseling to couples, families, worked with victims of domestic violence, r**e, trauma, helped people enduring grief, counseled on healthy relationships, and dating dilemmas. Shaina's areas of specialty include::
Dating Coaching
Improving Dating Skills
Coming Out
LGBTQ issues- s*xuality & gender
Relationship Challenges
Transgender letter assessment and Transition support/counseling
Polyamory and Kink friendly
Grief
Life Coaching
Couples Counseling

12/30/2025

One question that changes the whole fight:
“Are we solving a problem… or protecting a wound?”
Because sometimes the argument is loud, but the hurt is louder.

12/29/2025

Therapy is inherently political—because power, culture, and oppression don’t stop at the therapy door.
If we ignore systems, we end up calling survival “dysfunction.”

12/28/2025

When they say “Log kya kahenge?” (“what will people say?”) they mean “Your choices reflect on our social survival.

When they say “That’s not our culture” they mean “That’s not how we’ve done it and it scares us.

Our parent’s pain deserves compassion — and our healing still deserves choice.

12/27/2025

Let’s normalize having a recovery day after family time.

Not because you don’t love them- because your nervous system worked overtime. Rest is part of the plan. ❤️
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12/22/2025

Desire Myth That’s Low-Key Ruining Your Love Life:
“High desire = too much. Low desire = broken.”

I see this one create so much shame.

Some people have a naturally higher drive. Some have a naturally lower one. For many of us, desire gets tangled up with:

• Stress and burnout
• Trauma and nervous system responses
• Hormones, meds, and health
• Parenting, caregiving, and mental load

None of that makes you “too much” or “not enough.”

The real issue is:

• Silence about desire mismatches
• Pressure to be “normal” instead of curious
• Blaming yourself instead of understanding your context

Desire isn’t a moral scorecard. It’s information about how your body, mind, and relationship are doing.

You’re not broken for how your desire shows up.
You deserve partners who can talk about it with you without shame. 🧡

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12/19/2025

South Asian / Asian kids are often raised on:
“Family comes first. Don’t disappoint us.”

When love and safety feel tied to obedience, your body learns: saying no = losing love.

So as an adult, choosing your career, partner, or boundaries can feel like betraying your family.

If “no” doesn’t feel like an option…
is it really a choice, or is it survival?

You’re not ungrateful for wanting a say in your own life.
You can honor your family AND honor yourself.

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12/17/2025

POV: your client set a boundary and didn’t apologize.

Tiny moment. Massive rewiring. 🫶🏽

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12/15/2025

Desire Myth I’m Not Letting My Clients Believe Anymore no. 1:
“Men always want s3x. Women always want connection first.”

As a s3x & relationship therapist, what I actually see is this:

✨ Some people (of any gender) need emotional connection before physical intimacy.
✨ Some people (of any gender) feel emotional connection through physical intimacy.

Neither pathway is wrong. The harm comes when we treat them like gender roles:

➤ Men who don’t “always want it” feel broken or ashamed.
➤ Women and femmes with high desire get labeled “too much.”
➤ Q***r / trans / nonbinary folks get erased from the story entirely.

Desire isn’t a gender script. It’s a nervous system and attachment story.

Better questions to ask each other:
🧡 What helps you feel close?
🧡 What helps me feel close?
🧡 How can we honor both our pathways without making either person wrong?

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12/12/2025

Straight dating PSA: stop treating men like wallets—and women like they owe a debt. Money shapes power, and power shapes dynamics.

My therapist take: Split the first date or invite = plan + pay, then alternate. Talk about it early. And always: paying ≠ consent.

What’s your script at the table?

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12/10/2025

Being brown in America means watching some of “our own” become PR for systems that hrm us.
That’s not representation.
That’s role-playing for ⚪️ supre**cy.

As a therapist, I see how this lands in the body: anxiety, rage, shame, that sinking feeling of, “Is this what they think we all are?”

If you’re cringing at Ksh P., Nkk H., Dnsh & Co., you’re not overreacting. Your nervous system is recognizing betrayal and g@slighting.
We get to want more than visibility.
We get to want solidarity, courage, and actual liberation. ✊🏽🧠💛

Signed,
An Indian therapist who refuses to be “representation” if it means abandoning her people.

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12/09/2025

Being Indian in America means occasionally opening your phone and getting jump-scared by which desis are “representing” us on TV.

Spoiler: not all brown faces in power are a win. Some are just unpaid interns for white supremacy with better eyebrows.

Signed,
An Indian therapist who loves her aunties, her ancestors, and absolutely does not claim these people. ✋🏽

Representation without solidarity isn’t liberation.

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Austin, TX
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Tuesday 9am - 8pm
Wednesday 8am - 3pm
Thursday 9am - 8pm

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