Jennifer Heggem, Psychotherapist

04/18/2026

04/18/2026

Narcissists use double binds, by pushing you into no-win situations, where you're damned if you do and damned if you don't...

Full article here...
https://narcissisms.com/how-narcissists-use-double-binds-against-you/

04/12/2026

Naming a limit directly and calmly before it becomes an ultimatum or an explosion is one of the most mature communication skills in a relationship.

A limit communicated from a place of honesty rather than anger gives the other person a real opportunity to respond. That is what makes it a conversation rather than a demand.

Save this for the next time you need it.

04/12/2026

04/05/2026

03/24/2026

You deserve someone who’s genuinely excited to talk to you.

Someone who doesn’t make it feel like a chore or something they have to get around to. They want to hear about your day, the random thoughts in your head, the things that matter to you. They make time for you because they want to, not because you had to ask.

A lot of people end up settling for less than that. Half effort, mixed signals, people who are unsure, inconsistent, or just not all in. And it’s easy to make excuses for it, to hope it’ll turn into something more. But real connection doesn’t leave you confused or constantly questioning where you stand.

The right person isn’t going to be perfect, but they’ll be clear. You won’t have to guess how they feel or chase their attention. It’ll feel mutual and most importantly real.

And honestly, it’s better to be alone than to feel alone next to someone. That kind of loneliness hits different. At least when you’re by yourself, you still have your peace.

You don’t have to lower your standards or accept less just to have someone. The kind of love you want isn’t too much. It’s just not meant to come from the wrong people.

~ Cody Bret