02/19/2026
Good-enough attachment-based parenting sometimes means letting your daughter fuss for 45 seconds while you put on mascara.
As an anxious, messy perfectionist, it’s easy for me to forget that I am good enough. That storyline has been on repeat for… basically my whole life.
At first, I caught myself believing secure parenting meant never hearing your baby cry. But 3.5-week-olds get fussy. That’s not failure - that’s development.
Good-enough parenting knows the difference between brief fussing and actual distress.
You can brush your teeth. You can wash your face. You can put on mascara.
Two minutes of tending to yourself does not threaten attachment. It supports it.