Kate A. Bares - Soul Integration Method

03/25/2026

03/11/2026

Have you ever hidden something so well you couldn't find it? Now imagine how you've done that with yourself.

Here's what I've learned in 30 years of doing this work: Most of us who've been through emotional trauma, betrayal, or a particular kind of crazy-making - don't actually lose ourselves. We HIDE ourselves.

And we hide so well for so long, that we forget we're the ones that tucked us away.

So we go looking. We do all the things and we work hard to heal, but something still feels off. We still feel stuck, still not quite ourselves, still wondering why we can't just get it together already.

Can I tell you what's actually happening?
There's a story running in the background - one you didn't consciously write and probably don't even know is there. It started long before the relationship that broke your heart, or the betrayal that knocked the ground out from under you. It started with a much younger version of you, who went through something painful and made a very understandable decision about what it meant - about HER - or HIM.

"I'm not enough. I'm too much. I'm the problem. If I were different, this wouldn't keep happening."

And that program's been running ever since - driving your choices, your relationships, the way you show up and the way you disappear - without you even knowing it's there.

Here's what nobody tells you: you can't heal your way out of a story you don't know you're telling.

But once you see it? Once you actually find it - everything changes.

That's exactly what we do in a Sacred Shift session. In one hour, we find the story, trace it all the way back to where it started, and for the first time you get to see it for what it actually is - not the truth about you. Just a belief. A made up story you've been unconsciously living inside of.

Inside is the way out. I really mean that.

If something I said got your attention, that matters. Comment "SHIFT" below to get my Sacred Shift birthday month gift! (thru March 31st only)

03/11/2026

Have you ever hidden something so well you couldn't find it? Now consider how you've done that with yourself.

Here's what I've learned in 30 years of doing this work: Most of us who've been through emotional trauma, betrayal, or a particular kind of crazy-making - don't actually lose ourselves. We HIDE ourselves.

And we hide so well for so long, that we forget we're the ones that tucked us away.

So we go looking. We do all the things and we work hard to heal, but something still feels off. We still feel stuck, still not quite ourselves, still wondering why we can't just get it together already.

Can I tell you what's actually happening?
There's a story running in the background - one you didn't consciously write and probably don't even know is there. It started long before the relationship that broke your heart, or the betrayal that knocked the ground out from under you. It started with a much younger version of you, who went through something painful and made a very understandable decision about what it meant - about HER - or HIM.

"I'm not enough. I'm too much. I'm the problem. If I were different, this wouldn't keep happening."

And that program's been running ever since - driving your choices, your relationships, the way you show up and the way you disappear - without you even knowing it's there.

Here's what nobody tells you: you can't heal your way out of a story you don't know you're telling.

But once you see it? Once you actually find it - everything changes.

That's exactly what we do in a Sacred Shift session. In one hour, we find the story, trace it all the way back to where it started, and for the first time you get to see it for what it actually is - not the truth about you. Just a belief. A made up story you've been unconsciously living inside of.

Inside is the way out. I really mean that.

If something I said got your attention, that matters. Comment "SHIFT" below to get my Sacred Shift birthday month gift! (thru March 31st only)

03/05/2026

I love this month and this time of year - always feels like renewal and rebirth to me - and it's my birthday month so there's that. 😉

This year I'm turning 65! What??

I've never been one who dreads birthdays and this one is no exception. It IS landing a little differently though...

Medicare kicked in this week. I'm now at "retirement age" (although not retiring, thank you very much). And I am apparently officially eligible for Silver Sneakers. I mean... Silver Sneakers? 😭

When did THAT happen? (and I'll totally take advantage of it, btw.)

Here's the thing though - where I thought I'd be at 65 and where I actually am are two completely different places. And that's a good thing.

Younger me had a whole script running about what this chapter was supposed to look like. What I'd have built, who I'd be, how it would all line up. And for a long time I was measuring myself against that script without even realizing it - negotiating my worth against a story I'd written decades ago.

Somewhere along the way I started letting go of what I'd expected - of myself, of others, of the world - and what came in wasn't emptiness. It was freedom. The kind that doesn't need everything to look a certain way to feel okay. Or to feel grounded and home in myself.

The kind that comes from living in the flow.

So here I am. 65, Medicare card in hand, Silver Sneakers and all - freer than I have ever been. And it's the best thing I've ever done for myself.

What about you - is there a story you've been negotiating with that might not read the way it used to?

~kab

03/04/2026

Hellooooo March!

I love this month and this time of year - always feels like renewal and rebirth to me - and it's my birthday month so there's that. 😉

This year I'm turning 65! What??

I've never been one who dreads birthdays and this one is no exception. It IS landing a little differently though...

Medicare kicked in this week. I'm now at "retirement age" (although not retiring, thank you very much). And I am apparently officially eligible for Silver Sneakers. I mean... Silver Sneakers?

When did THAT happen? (and I'll totally take advantage of it, btw.)

Here's the thing though - where I thought I'd be at 65 and where I actually am are two completely different places. And that's a good thing.

Younger me had a whole script running about what this chapter was supposed to look like. What I'd have built, who I'd be, how it would all line up. And for a long time I was measuring myself against that script without even realizing it - negotiating my worth against a story I'd written decades ago.

Somewhere along the way I started letting go of what I'd expected - of myself, of others, of the world - and what came in wasn't emptiness. It was freedom. The kind that doesn't need everything to look a certain way to feel okay. Or to feel grounded and home in myself.

The kind that comes from living in the flow.

So here I am. 65, Medicare card in hand, Silver Sneakers and all - freer than I have ever been. And it's the best thing I've ever done for myself.

What about you - is there a story you've been negotiating with that might not read the way it used to?

Just something to sit with over coffee. ☕

With love (and birthday cake),
~kab

03/01/2026

03/01/2026

Welcome March!

02/16/2026

This has been on my head a lot lately, especially in this trust recession we're living in right now.

There are people who think if you're feeling stuck and something's not shifting, you must be doing it wrong. That you should try harder, think differently, or just push yourself to move through it.

I had a coach ask me once, when I was resisting the direction they were steering me, "Do you think maybe you're standing in your own way?"

I sat with the question and realized they were right - there was a part of me standing in my way...
..with her hand up, saying "No, Love - that way's not true for you."

She's the one I needed to listen to - the part of me that knew me best.

That was a pivotal moment in coming back to myself - the discernment of my own inner-voice. That part of me wasn't blocking, she was guiding.

That's why this work is so important to me.

Because when you learn to abandon yourself to survive emotional pain and trauma - when you don't know who or what to trust anymore - it's not about moving on or pushing through or becoming someone new. It's about reconnecting and relearning how to trust you - and coming all the way home to yourself.

And that might take a minute.

Take your time. Some of the best work happens in that space in-between.
https://thecenterforwellbeing.com/self-trust/

~kab ❤️

02/16/2026

You’ve healed what happened, but not what it left behind.

02/02/2026

I’ve been sitting with something and it finally clicked this weekend - mid coffee, of all places. ☕️

I’ve been stuck.

Not in a “my life is falling apart” way. But in that way where you know something’s off, but you can’t quite put your finger on it.

I kept trying to figure it out and shape it into something that made sense, but the harder I tried, the flatter it felt.

Here’s what finally landed:

I wasn’t stuck because I couldn't figure it out. I was stuck because I couldn’t hear myself anymore.

I've been doing a lot of behind the scenes work in my business this past month, and I realized I'd been adjusting my voice. I was diluting and watering down my messaging to fit into something this work doesn't even belong in.

That was the "off" feeling in my body - I was out of alignment with what was authentic for me.

Once it clicked in, I felt my whole nervous system exhale.

I had my own sacred shift moment. 😊

I know I’m not the only one who ends up here sometimes. Capable people get stuck too. People who are self-aware lose access to their own voice - their own knowing.

It can feel like you’re broken or doing it wrong, but you’re not. You’re just being human.

And maybe trying to fit yourself into something that's not true for you doesn't work anymore. And maybe you're at the point where listening and trusting yourself is more aligned for you than how the rest of the world perceives or receives you.

Just maybe. 😉

~kab

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