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03/30/2026

Without self-awareness, you’re a victim to what your body tells you to do, without knowing that it’s happening.

This is why avoidants irrationally push people away and why anxious individuals cling to unhealthy people for safety.

When you’re dysregulated, the best thing you can do is self-regulate before reacting to the situation.

That means pausing an argument if tensions are too high, or taking some space to clear your mind.

It might sound stupid or simple, but think back to the last time that you were overly distressed… did you say or do anything irrational? What calmed you down eventually?

Once you get better at recognizing your current state, you can take some of your control back and stop doing things that you later regret…

And this is an absolute gamechanger for relationships and conflict resolution.

03/28/2026

Avoidants will conjure up any excuse, rational or irrational, to justify leaving…

BUT Anxious individuals will do the same for not choosing healthy partners.

It’s in our wiring… not in our conscious thinking.

Fears will overcome feelings every time, and it’s out of your control, until you decide to make a change and break the pattern.

03/27/2026

If your ex just started taking antidepressants, that’s not a viable reason to try to date them again…

For me, it’s a sign that they’re just now starting to make changes… which is actually a good reason to stay away until they’ve been doing that work for a while.

Meaning, they’re still the same person, with the same emotional capacity, as when they left.

Additionally, antidepressants aren’t just happy pills. They can have varying effects on libido, fertility, and relationship success in general.

Being on the outside of the situation, it doesn’t make much sense to me to just accept a DA back into my life on the basis that they started medicating themselves.

03/26/2026

Believing in yourself starts with having confidence in the work that you’ve done.

It’s knowing that you’ve taken accountability for your stuff and healed through it all to the best of your ability.

Triggers and insecurities and fears will always arise if you’re a human being…

It’s having the knowledge and the awareness of how to deal with them, rather than react to them, or project them onto others.

03/25/2026

Your ex’s view of you, the narrative they wrote, the lies they told themselves… none of it matters.

Part of letting go, and closing this chapter of your life, is accepting that.

YOU know how you showed up, and how much effort you put into the relationship.

Instead of trying to dismantle their flawed thinking, remember who you are and what you gave.

Show yourself compassion for that so you never allow the next person to take it for granted.

03/24/2026

The ending of this video is sarcasm*… I think? 😬

Sometimes, I do want to just throw all of this information out the window…

Then I remember how much my last relationship sucked and remember that I don’t want to be like Will.

Once you become self-aware, it’s pretty wild looking from the outside, in… and noticing your own compulsions in real time.

I’m still very much attracted to toxic people (I don’t think that’s ever really changes)… but I just choose to not invest my time in them.

Unfortunately, dating healthy people doesn’t have a rollercoaster of emotions or the spark that you see in the movies…

Because the spark is based off of unpredictable behaviors and inconsistency… it’s your nervous system warning you of danger.

If you catch yourself consistently feeling that way, it’s not attraction. It’s a sign that you’re dating someone who is failing to give you healthy reassurance.

03/23/2026

If we’re hyper-vigilant when dating people, it’s usually because we’re fearful instead of curious, and we’re wanting to have control, which isn’t the most advisable way to approach things.

You can make an educated guess around patterns and behaviors, but can’t really KNOW a person’s attachment style unless they share their internal thoughts with you.

With knowing that, the most accurate way to understand a person is to give it time, and allow their actions to show you who they are.

If they pull away early on or aren’t interested in you, then be grateful that you just saved a lot of wasted time on the wrong person.

Know what to look for but also don’t overthink it, if that makes sense.

03/20/2026

If you have an insecure attachment style, then you’re your own worst enemy… like that catchy song from 20yrs ago (scary thought).

Overly simplified, it’s all about tweaking your perception of every interaction, every day.

Your CURRENT perception is a result of the culmination of all of your life experiences.

In order to switch lenses, you have to revisit those painful memories, and reframe them, and tell your younger self whatever it is that they needed to hear in those moments.

Once you do that, you literally feel clearer… it’s hard to explain.

It’s like you’re no longer burdened from that invisible pain that has lingered for years.

As I say in the video, it’s scary and also so worth it.

Look into somatic healing modalities to get started.

03/19/2026

Breakups are already difficult for (most) people…

Abusive dynamics can rattle your foundation and cause so much more damage than any other experience.

You can avoid that by prioritizing the right things in dating, knowing the signs to watch out for, and being grounded/secure in who you are.

It’s about respecting yourself enough to walk away when your needs aren’t being met or when manipulation is at play.

It’s about not overextending yourself or waiting around for people to change.

And it’s about choosing, and looking out for, yourself first.

If you were taught any different in childhood, then revisiting those memories is a great starting point to unlearn those tendencies.

03/17/2026

Attachment Theory can have us easily overlook other mental/personality disorders.

I 10/10 would not recommend dating someone with BPD or NPD…

If it’s too late for that, it’s so important to separate yourself from their behaviors and actions.

It doesn’t matter how you showed up or what you could have done differently…

Maintaining a healthy, stable relationship with them is impossible and you’ll lose yourself in trying.

And that’s sad but you have to accept it and choose yourself.

03/16/2026

You might NOT be ready to start dating again, and that’s okay.

I personally shift back-and-forth occasionally and take a break if I need to…

The important thing is knowing the difference while being patient with yourself.

Rushing into relationships out of loneliness or fear usually has us overlook red flags and unhealthy tendencies.

It’s much better to take your time and recalibrate yourself when needed.

03/15/2026

Even after doing the work, breakups still suck… because I’m a human being and having someone you’ve cared for exit your life is never easy.

The difference between remaining stuck for years and grieving/moving forward is how you frame your narrative.

If you’re living in blame/shame/regret, it’s going to take a while… if you have prior wounds around those things, it will take even longer…

Because we relive what we haven’t fully processed… our bodies don’t allow our brains to forget, as a survival mechanism.

Once you heal through it all and build a sturdy foundation of self-worth, moving forward becomes a bit easier.

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