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Shiloh Counseling LLC

Dr. Clay Brigance is the founder, clinical director and lead counselor at Shiloh Counseling, LLC. Clay is also able to see couples.

Clay's passion in therapy is to join you on your life journey to finding wholeness again. Clay is a doctorate level counselor who is able to see pre-teens and teens age 10 and up, as well as adults. Clay is also uniquely qualified to do psychological evaluations for children age 6 to 17. With nearly 10 years of experience as a school psychologist in the public schools, Clay can provide an informative evaluation for your child to help you find answers as well as guide you through the IEP process in plan language. However, Clay's ultimate passion is counseling individuals and couples who are navigating infertility and reproductive loss. Clay has become a leading researcher and therapist for this special population, being a featured speaker for the Institute of Reproductive Grief Care, The Crossing Church, and The American Psychological Association for how to counsel couples navigating infertility.

02/27/2026

Day one of filming Couple Therapy for Reproductive Grief with the American Psychological Association is complete.

Yesterday, I had the opportunity to demonstrate three therapy sessions on camera — each one exploring a different facet of reproductive grief. Even in a filmed setting with actors, the emotional terrain felt real: longing, disappointment, shame, love, uncertainty.

What stood out most was how transformative it can be when couples slow down enough to truly hear one another. When grief is named. When validation replaces fixing. When partners remember they’re on the same side.

Reproductive grief is complex. It touches identity, intimacy, hope, and the imagined future. But watching couples move from isolation toward connection — even within a structured teaching format — was a powerful reminder of why this work matters.

Grateful for the opportunity to bring this work into a broader clinical space, and grateful for the couples who have shaped this approach long before a camera was ever present.

02/04/2026

Some of the most common things I hear from men struggling with infertility sound like this:

“I’m not man enough.”
“I should be stronger than this.”
“I don’t get to fall apart—my partner has it worse.”
“I don’t know how to talk about what I’m feeling.”

Underneath all of it is a quiet belief that worth, strength, or masculinity is something that can be failed.

Infertility has a way of turning pain inward—especially for men who were taught to measure themselves by fixing, providing, or holding it together.

But grief isn’t weakness.
And silence isn’t strength.

Your infertility doesn’t define your masculinity.

02/02/2026

This week, I'll be sharing more about the psychology of men during infertility.

Not from a distance.
Not just from textbooks or research articles.

I came to this work first as an infertility patient—trying to be strong, supportive, and steady, while carrying questions I didn’t yet have language for. Over time, that lived experience grew into clinical work, research, and eventually national conversations about how men actually experience infertility and reproductive loss.

Men often don’t disengage because they don’t care.
They disengage because they don’t know how to carry this openly.

My hope is to keep making space for that story—to talk honestly about shame, silence, strength, and connection, and to remind men (and their partners) that they’re not failing at this.

They’re navigating something profoundly human.

12/23/2025

The holidays can feel heavy when you're carrying grief. Whatever this season brings up for you, your feelings are valid - and you don't have to move through it alone.

Save or share this with someone who might need a little gentleness today.

And if you're needing support, we'd love to help.
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Disclaimer: This content is intended for educational and informational purposes only. Reading or engaging with this content does not constitute therapy, nor should it be considered professional advice or a substitute for therapy. Everyone's experiences are unqiue, so what's shared here may or may not resonate with you. For more details, please check out the Social Media Disclaimers post pinned to our IG feed.

12/02/2025

Here are four small ways to support your nervous system and stay connected to yourself, even during the holiday rush. Tiny, doable practices that bring you back to center - one breath, one boundary, one quiet pause at a time.

If you or your family could use extra support this season, Shiloh is here as your place of peace. Click the link in our bio to connect with our team today.
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Disclaimer: This content is intended for educational and informational purposes only. Reading or engaging with this content does not constitute therapy, nor should it be considered professional advice or a substitute for therapy. Everyone's experiences are unqiue, so what's shared here may or may not resonate with you. For more details, please check out the Social Media Disclaimers post pinned to our IG feed.

11/27/2025

Gratitude isn’t just a feeling - it’s a practice that you can engage with by looking for the bright spots around you. ✨

Today, we're grateful for our fantastic Shiloh team and their wonderful families, our beautiful community of providers, colleagues, and friends, and the clients that we're honored to walk alongside.

We hope that you have the best Thanksgiving available to you today!
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Disclaimer: This content is intended for educational and informational purposes only. Reading or engaging with this content does not constitute therapy, nor should it be considered professional advice or a substitute for therapy. Everyone's experiences are unqiue, so what's shared here may or may not resonate with you. For more details, please check out the Social Media Disclaimers post pinned to our IG feed.

11/21/2025

Kids grow confidence in the everyday moments - the tiny choices, brave tries, and small victories that often slip by unnoticed. When we slow down enough to name those moments, we help them see themselves as capable, resilient, and deeply valued. 💛

If you’re supporting a child who needs a little extra encouragement or emotional support, you don’t have to navigate it alone.

Save this post as a reminder, or share it with someone who could use a little inspiration today. And if your family could benefit from child or play therapy, reach out to Shiloh to get connected.
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Disclaimer: This content is intended for educational and informational purposes only. Reading or engaging with this content does not constitute therapy, nor should it be considered professional advice or a substitute for therapy. Everyone's experiences are unqiue, so what's shared here may or may not resonate with you. For more details, please check out the Social Media Disclaimers post pinned to our IG feed.

11/19/2025

A 30-second self-check-in can change the tone of your whole day.
What do you need more of, less of, and how can you be kind to yourself right now?

Pause today and try it - you might be surprised what surfaces.
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Disclaimer: This content is intended for educational and informational purposes only. Reading or engaging with this content does not constitute therapy, nor should it be considered professional advice or a substitute for therapy. Everyone's experiences are unqiue, so what's shared here may or may not resonate with you. For more details, please check out the Social Media Disclaimers post pinned to our IG feed.

11/14/2025

Sometimes “I don’t know” is a heart trying to stay safe. Not avoidance, just armor.
When words take time, move into patience and grace.

Save this for a day when your teen needs gentleness.
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Disclaimer: This content is intended for educational and informational purposes only. Reading or engaging with this content does not constitute therapy, nor should it be considered professional advice or a substitute for therapy. Everyone's experiences are unqiue, so what's shared here may or may not resonate with you. For more details, please check out the Social Media Disclaimers post pinned to our IG feed.

11/12/2025

Sometimes “I’m fine” is really “I’m tired,” “I’m overwhelmed,” or “I don’t know how to say I’m struggling.”

Many of us learn to cope by staying quiet - to be strong, to not burden others, to keep moving.

But strength isn’t silence.
And you don’t have to carry everything alone.

Everyone deserves emotional safety.
Everyone deserves support.
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Disclaimer: This content is intended for educational and informational purposes only. Reading or engaging with this content does not constitute therapy, nor should it be considered professional advice or a substitute for therapy. Everyone's experiences are unique, so what's shared here may or may not resonate with you. For more details, please check out the Social Media Disclaimers post pinned to our IG feed.

11/07/2025

Every relationship experiences moments of disconnection. What defines strong relationships isn’t how perfectly they communicate - it’s how intentionally they repair.

Apologies, accountability, and empathy rebuild trust one moment at a time.

If you and your partner are struggling to reconnect, our couples therapists can help.
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Disclaimer: This content is intended for educational and informational purposes only. Reading or engaging with this content does not constitute therapy, nor should it be considered professional advice or a substitute for therapy. Everyone's experiences are unqiue, so what's shared here may or may not resonate with you. For more details, please check out the Social Media Disclaimers post pinned to our IG feed.

11/04/2025

✨ Meet Ginny, one of our amazing therapists at Shiloh Counseling. ✨

This is just one part of our new video - we’d love for you to see the whole story.

👉 Watch the full video on our YouTube channel (link in bio!)
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Disclaimer: This content is intended for educational and informational purposes only. Reading or engaging with this content does not constitute therapy, nor should it be considered professional advice or a substitute for therapy. Everyone's experiences are unqiue, so what's shared here may or may not resonate with you. For more details, please check out the Social Media Disclaimers post pinned to our IG feed.

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15480 Clayton Road Suite 103
Ballwin, MO
63011

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+13142469126

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http://www.shilohcounselingllc.com/

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