Lanala LMSW

12/20/2025

Spend a few calm moments a day connecting with the way you want to receive this Season of Lights within your heart. ⭐️

Take a minute to feel the inspiring words we use to describe this time of year.

Joy. Love. Light. Peace. Humility. Kindness. Generosity. 💚

Breathe in a little peace.

Let in a little light.

Allow your heart to open in generosity.

This is who we are. 💚

* May our prayers rise together for all of those who need a little extra light today. ✨

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12/20/2025

12/20/2025

The moment you stop being easy to use,
something else happens.

They don’t pause and ask what changed.
They don’t wonder if they crossed a line.
They don’t examine their behaviour.

They create a new story about you.

Suddenly, you’re selfish.
Cold.
Difficult.
Unstable.
“Not the same anymore.”

Not because you harmed anyone —
but because you stopped absorbing harm quietly.

This is the part of healing that feels the most disorienting.

You didn’t raise your voice.
You didn’t attack.
You didn’t demand revenge.

You just stopped cooperating with a dynamic
that required your silence, your guilt, or your self-doubt.

And instead of accountability,
they chose revision.

They recast themselves as reasonable.
They recast you as the problem.
Because if you’re “overreacting,”
they never have to face what they did.

This is how systems protect themselves.

They don’t ask why you’re hurting.
They ask why you’re no longer tolerable.

They don’t grieve the harm.
They grieve the loss of access.

And here’s the truth that changes everything:

If setting boundaries turns you into the villain,
you were never seen as a person —
you were seen as a role.

The peacemaker.
The emotional container.
The one who made things easier.

When you step out of that role,
the system destabilises —
and systems in distress look for someone to blame.

That someone is usually the one who stopped complying.

Let this land fully:

You are not being punished for who you are becoming.
You are being resisted because your clarity threatens a narrative
that kept others comfortable.

You don’t need to correct the story.
You don’t need to defend your growth.
You don’t need to prove you’re still “good.”

People who require you to betray yourself
in order to stay connected
were never offering love —
they were offering conditional peace.

And you didn’t lose it.

You outgrew it.

12/19/2025

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12/18/2025

Kindness Starts With You

Return what you borrow

Respect different opinions

Give compliments sincerely

Don’t gossip

Wait your turn

Keep your voice calm

Respect boundaries

Thank people for their time

Be kind when no one is watching

12/18/2025

Live your life grounded from the inside out. Let nothing in the outside world stop you from living the life of your dreams.

Be courageous, determined and ready to live life fully. 💛👍

12/18/2025

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12/18/2025

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12/17/2025

Sending love to…
those who don’t feel excited about the holidays.
Those who are tired of being strong.
Those going through big challenges this year.
Those taking things one day at a time.
Those who feel stuck but haven’t stopped trying.
Those spending the holidays alone.

This season can feel heavy in ways that are hard to explain.
Not everyone feels joyful.
Not everyone feels grateful.
And not everyone has the energy to pretend they’re okay.

If you’re moving slowly, that’s still movement.
If you’re resting, that’s still progress.
If you’re just getting through the day, that is more than enough.

You don’t need to have it all figured out.
You don’t need to feel festive to be worthy of love.
And you don’t need to be strong every moment to be brave.

Let this be a reminder that you are not alone in how you feel.
That many hearts are navigating this season softly, carefully, honestly.
And that simply being here, still trying, still hoping
is already something to be proud of.

Sending love to you,
especially if this spoke to your heart. 🤍🥰

12/17/2025

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