Jennifer Valice, LCSW

12/27/2025

When someone doesn’t fight for the relationship, the pain often turns inward. You start asking, “Why wasn’t I worth fighting for?” And as your coach, I want to gently interrupt that question—not to dismiss it, but to aim it in the right direction. Because what you’re really asking is whether your worth was the problem. It wasn’t.

People don’t fail to fight because the love wasn’t real enough. They fail to fight when intimacy activates fear they don’t know how to face, when accountability feels threatening, or when growth requires them to show up in ways they’ve never practiced. Avoidance looks like indifference on the outside, but underneath it is often a deep resistance to emotional responsibility. That resistance has nothing to do with your value.

You were worth fighting for. The truth is simply that they weren’t equipped—or willing—to fight themselves. And a relationship where only one person is doing the emotional labor isn’t a partnership; it’s survival. Healing begins when you stop measuring your worth by someone else’s capacity and start honoring the fact that you were brave enough to want something real.

10/28/2025

😍 She does AMAZING work! 😍

10/08/2025

Where REST + REGULATION = REVOLUTION

10/08/2025

✨ MIDNIGHT SURPRISE ✨

For those of you who’ve been hovering over the checkout button for the Red Heart Retreat… this is for you.

When you secure your cabin, you’ll receive a complimentary Enneagram assessment + private 1:1 reading with me, a bonus valued at $797.

The Enneagram is not a personality test, it’s a n integrative framework for understanding your patterns & defenses that were shaped by your story.

It’s been a crucial part of my healing journey. It helped me find language for my emotions, create safety in my body, and even save my marriage.

This bonus is available only during the final countdown. There is room for 3 more women.

If you’ve been on the fence, this is your final nudge.

🔥 Registration closes Wednesday at 11:59 PM or when cabins are full.

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🖤 The Red Heart Retreat | Oct 24–26 | Heritage Harbor, IL

09/28/2025

06/30/2025

It’s time to prioritize yourself! It’s not selfish, it’s self-care! 💝 And You are worth it!

04/10/2025

YOU’RE NOT BROKEN!

Mental health has been ignored, condemned and overcomplicated. The reality is that like physical health, we all have mental health, and we all need to protect it.

Unfortunately, too many people are diagnosed with mental illness without ever being given practical tools to regulate their nervous system. Many therapists don’t even know how to regulate their own.

When I was a successful therapist with a six-figure practice and a client waiting list, I still spent years dysregulated and chasing approval.

No matter how loyal I was...
No matter how many people I helped...
No matter how much money I made...
No matter how much success I had...
I was still anxious. I was still depressed.

Imposter syndrome, had me chasing validation like a thief in the night.

Even after building a beautiful marriage and family, it wasn’t enough.
I just couldn’t feel genuinely happy for any length of time.

With a diagnoses of PTSD, anxiety, and depression — I believed I was broken, and thought I just needed to work harder.

When I got weary from all the hustling, I numbed out, self destructing with food, alcohol, and anger.

When I eventually burned out, and found myself in an incredibly dark season, I was forced to look in the mirror and finally take a long hard look at examine my destructive behaviors, internal thoughts, and beliefs.

A lot of artists and entrepreneurs experience these dark seasons, and sadly, many don’t make it out. As scary as that season was for me, I am one of the lucky ones who lived to tell about it. I’ve now spent the last five years coaching artists, entrepreneurs and executives on how to take control of their mental wellness journey.

This masterclass is the roadmap I needed when I was overscheduled, people-pleasing, and miserable.

It’s full of the tools that helped me find myself — and reclaim my inner peace and enthusiasm for life.

If you want to remember who you are, and reclaim your mental wellness, join me in kicking off Mental Health Awareness Month, on May 1st at 7 p.m. CT (on Zoom).

Welcome Back Warrior, see you soon.

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04/04/2025

To the Mom Who Left a Toxic Relationship for Her Child and Herself.
I know you didn’t leave easily. You didn’t wake up one day and decide to shatter the life you built.

You stayed far longer than you should have, hoping things would get better. Not for yourself—but for your child.
For the family you wanted so badly to hold together.

You gave chances.
You made excuses.
You kept the peace, even when it cost you your own.

You tolerated manipulation dressed as love. You endured words that left bruises you couldn’t show. You minimized the chaos, thinking if you just tried harder, things might finally settle.

But one day, you looked at your child and realized this isn’t the love I want them to grow up learning. This isn’t the home I want them to believe is normal. This isn’t the life I want to keep surviving.

So you left.

Maybe with shaking hands. Maybe with guilt. Maybe with nothing but a bag and a broken heart. But you left.

And that took more strength than anyone will ever understand. You chose generational healing over generational patterns.

You chose silence over screaming.
Peace over pretending. Freedom over fear.

And yes, it’s hard. There are nights you question everything. There are moments where the loneliness is louder than the old chaos ever was. But You didn’t fail. You saved someone.

You saved your child from thinking love feels like walking on eggshells. You saved yourself from a lifetime of shrinking just to keep someone else comfortable.

You are not a broken family. You are a brave one. A free one. A healing one.

So even when doubt creeps in, and you miss the “what could’ve been” remember:
You did the hardest, bravest thing a mother can do. You chose to break the cycle,
so your child never has to survive what you did. And is the beginning of something beautiful.

✍️credit to the rightful author
🎨credit to the artist via Pinterest

12/31/2024

Whether you're feeling overwhelmed, missing loved ones, or navigating complicated emotions, know that you're not alone this holiday season. It's okay to feel what you feel, and it's okay to prioritize your mental health during this time.

The 988 Lifeline is available, 24/7. Text or call 988 for emotional support. We're here for you. 💜

11/11/2024

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