02/19/2026
Most of us think we are our loudest trait.
"I'm just an angry person."
"I'm just bad at conflict."
"I'm just not emotionally wired like that."
But what if that isn't your identity?
What if it's just one slider turned up too high?
In this week's blog, I share an analogy I use often in therapy — your life as a soundboard.
Growth isn't uniform.
Maturity isn't perfection.
And you are not your loudest fader.
If you've ever felt frustrated by uneven growth in yourself (or someone you love), this one is for you.
If you’re like me, you often think, learn, or process in terms of analogies. One analogy that I’ve found myself discussing in session quite a lot lately is that of a soundboard.Have you ever seen a soundboard at a concert or even at church? It’s the big electronic board that has a bunch of lig...