Intuitive Healing Therapy

03/06/2026

03/03/2026

It's not our place to try and talk someone out of their feelings. There's no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ way to feel. Meet them where they are, not where you imagine they should be, and just support them as they work through what they are feeling. If you're professing to be there for someone, it needs to actually be about them.

Just my two cents as I work through some hurtful drama. What are your thoughts?

🩵 Leila

02/28/2026

Scaffolding is one of my favorite parenting tools. I really think we can scaffold almost anything!

Impulse control, friendship skills, decreasing verbal aggression and cussing...really, almost anything!

In The Club we have a masterclass all about scaffolding but also masterclasses about lying, verbal aggression, and way way way more.

But even better than the video education, we have a very active forum so you can talk with me and other members about how to take the information you learn and actually put it into practice in your unique family.

Come join us- before March 3rd!

The link to join is in my bio and the URL is on the images!

02/28/2026

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CPTSD is not a "mental illness." CPTSD an injury to our nervous & endocrine systems. CPTSD increases our vulnerability to physical pain & illness. CPTSD makes our relationships complicated in ways we do not choose or want. No one "chooses" CPTSD. CPTSD is NOT due to "victim mindset." Survivors do not identify as having CPTSD because it is "trendy."

And: CPTSD is NOT the ultimate destiny of ANYONE reading this.

02/25/2026

I know many of you have seen this before AND many of you haven’t! I’m in the thick of putting final edits on the book I wrote for us and younger versions of us who wished they had it sooner. So, I’m low bandwidth right now, and need *some* space from creating new posts.

So, if you see this AGAIN, maybe it’s with a new perspective, a new angle, a newly cracked open heart. If you haven’t seen it yet, welcome my extraordinary friend.

People aren’t “suddenly developing neurodivergence.” We’re finally seeing it. Naming it. Measuring it.

Diagnosis isn’t invention.
It’s recognition.

If this post activated your nervous system at all, I made a set of science-backed calm tools you can use in under 2 minutes. Comment CALM and I’ll send them.

This community means SO much to me. Surthriving with you, Love You, XO, Dr. Jen

02/24/2026

Emotions Need Connection, Not Correction

A child sits on the floor crying after being told it’s time to leave the playground.

The first instinct might be to correct the behavior, reminding them of the rules or rushing them along.

But beneath the tears is disappointment, not defiance.

Instead of correcting, the caregiver sits beside them and says, “You really wanted more time to play.”

The child’s sobs soften as they feel seen and understood.

A hand on the back and a calm presence help their nervous system settle.

Only after the child feels connected can they hear what comes next.

“Let’s take one last deep breath together, then we’ll go,” the caregiver offers.

The transition becomes smoother because the emotion was met with empathy first.

Connection creates safety, and safety allows cooperation to follow.

When emotions are honored instead of corrected, children learn they are not alone in their feelings.

02/24/2026

When the Nervous System Is Overloaded

An overloaded nervous system happens when stress, demands, and emotions pile up without enough time to reset.

It can look like irritability, overwhelm, emotional outbursts, shutdown, or constant exhaustion.

Thoughts may feel loud, racing, or stuck in worry and urgency.

The body often carries this load through tight shoulders, headaches, shallow breathing, or a racing heart.

For children and adults alike, this state makes it harder to listen, problem-solve, or regulate emotions.

Regulation begins with slowing down and noticing the signals your body is sending.

Simple practices like deep breathing, warmth, hydration, and gentle movement help bring the nervous system back to safety.

Creating predictable routines and reducing sensory input can ease overload.

Connection also plays a powerful role—being seen, heard, and supported calms the body.

Rest is not optional when the nervous system is overwhelmed; it is essential.

When we learn to regulate, we teach ourselves and our children that balance can be restored.

02/24/2026

Who likes to journal? 🙋‍♀️

Try these ideas for prompts below! ⬇️

02/05/2026

Parenting is hard. But seriously it’s easier to be a bad parent than a good parent.

This isn’t because children are difficult, it’s because everything is vying for our sense of identity and security.

If we haven’t become a self regulated adult and centered our sense of self on Christ, it’s easy to look to phones, money, s*x, status and everything else to make us feel complete.

Then when our kids act like kids, we let their behavior dictate our emotional wellbeing and stability.

Kids are kids. They are underdeveloped, neurologically underformed, cognitively hijacked, little people.

Maybe it’s time for us to get our expectations and their developmental stages on the same page and stop living lives that don’t fit children and their needs into them.