Lanex Brink LISW

02/11/2024

Hello Viewer,
It has been a long time since I have posted anything to this page. I have gone through many changes in my life since 2020. Maybe you can say the same for yourself at this time.

Being a grandmother and the mother of 3 adult children gives me ample opportunity to grow in understanding the difference between Love and Control. Fear desires and craves control. Love wishes for everyone to heal and have peaceful freedom.

I want to update you on my current practice. I am joining an excellent practice - Partners for Behavioral Health and Wellness on 24800 Highpoint Rd, Beachwood, Ohio.

I will still continue to work with Individuals, couples using Imago Therapy, and am making plans for Imago classes and Workshops.

You can choose to do longer sessions, or intensives, to gain deeper healing and connection in a more cohesive and comprehensive manner.

You can use insurance and /or self-pay. I can also do remote sessions. Most individual sessions are only one hour. I continue to see couples for NO less than an hour and a half.

If interested contact me at 216-591-1673. I will be happy to direct you on your next steps.

I look forward to hearing from you and wish you peace.

Lanex Brink

01/10/2020

Hello visitor, It's been a while since I wrote on my page. But since I've been away one thing sticks out in my mind that I see all the time but in disguise : FEAR ! It comes in dressed as anger, resentment, coldness, judgement, sadness, victim, aggressor and mostly self righteousness. All fear does is keep us from connecting when we don't even know that's what we desire. Connection to our partner, kids, parents, friends , nature , the earth. We are designed for connection. This isn't just spiritual voodoo talk. This is the science of the brain , our true selves. We must be connected to ourselves as well as others. It's a balancing act . I am here to help anyone seeking balance to discover what that means for each of you .You are meant to be loving. All else is a lie. I welcome the adventure of walking along with you back to yourself.

10/12/2019

I have been a therapist for well over 40 years and trained as an Imago Relationship Therapist for 26 years. In all this time I am still moved by the power of deep listening when I am in the presence of one partner offering their most vulnerable self to the other. When two people enter into a sacred space of open and honest connection based on safety and trust created by compassion I become more quiet internally in the presence of such love. I can do my best to create an atmosphere of safety for my clients but it is up to them to accept the invitation to adventure into openness and honesty ,the ingredients for intimacy.

It can be hard to change old habits of defensive communication. We have practiced them for good reason since childhood. We needed to figure out how to live in a world we were born into created by bigger people than us .We've practiced these defensive communication skills for so long we hold onto them like an old "blanky" or our favorite stuffed animal or toy. Fear keeps us holding tight onto them. However, our secret desire , even unto ourselves, is to let go for a deeper love and connection. It is our natural state of being.

I welcome the opportunity to assist you and maybe a partner on this intrepid journey. Welcome !!

"The driving energy behind peace is compassionate love. In an age when self-actualization is about self-love, what better way to become actualized than in a relationship. Everyone of us is in a relationship whether it be with family members, friends, the e

08/21/2019

One of the biggest components in developing a deep intimate relationship is empathy. But it needs practice on a regular basis. I quote Bruce Perry , M.D.,Ph.D. in the book Born for Love : "Empathy requires experience. ...the development of empathy requires a lifelong process of relational interaction. " There is much more to the science of empathy he relates in his book. In my work as an Imago Therapist I teach a communication skill to practice empathy with your partner and or loved ones. It is called the Dialogue Process.
If you're curious please contact me and all information is on my web site

"The driving energy behind peace is compassionate love. In an age when self-actualization is about self-love, what better way to become actualized than in a relationship. Everyone of us is in a relationship whether it be with family members, friends, the e

06/23/2019

I hear couples say almost every time I meet them that they need better communication skills. This is code for , "I want my partner to hear me better." But there is another side to this. Are you asking to be heard in a way that is like an invitation sent on loving waves of energy ? Or are you demanding,angry, pulled away and have become passive aggressive. Usually your partner will perceive you as judging them and that shuts down communication immediately. There is much written and taught about how to listen with compassion and empathy which is sorely needed in today's world. But observe yourself as to how you speak or look when you send a message to your partner ... or anyone for that matter. Is your face open and relaxed or tight and looking angry or some negative feeling. Honor your feeling but ask yourself are looking like an invitation to connect or ready to be "right". A mirror is a good place to practice an open expression. I remember when I did this I ended up laughing at myself . I had more difficulty relaxing into a welcoming face than I thought I could do.

It is possible to share you true feelings and be open to honest connection at the same time . Try it. It could be revealing and fun.

05/02/2019

It's been a while since I've posted. I have been moving from a 4 bedroom house to a 2 bedroom one. This triggered some thoughts about myself. There are memories of course and some things I miss like wanting to see the flowers I have planted over the years coming up this Spring. There is furniture I released from my care and deciding what to keep that is "essential" , what ever that means.

What I have come to is examine what I brought with me to my new environment inside myself. What is essential for me and what to leave behind and what to keep.?? Then I remembered that I already have what I need. I just need to remember it . I can throw away the debris of a wounded childhood and some negative experiences that I chose to let dominate my life. Love ! It is a present act of release and surrender to what you truly have control over and what you don't. Not too much.

Love is the courage to be non judgemental and see what else lies within . Our true nature is to be in the moment and loving . Be with what is . Fear will take you from your center : from knowing your true self . You are a loving energy. I challenge you to start the search and FEEL the love that is you.

02/26/2019

Life is nothing but a dream,
and if we are artists ,
then we can create our Life with Love,
and our dream becomes a
masterpiece of Art.

Don Miguel Ruiz , " The Mastery of Love "

I welcome the opportunity to assist you in
creating your masterpiece.

Lanex

01/09/2019

Do you and your partner have disagreements about the same things over and over again ? They may even seem like small , no brainer issues from your point of view. You can't figure out why this is such a big issue for your partner. You and your partner each think you are right and resent the other being angry or resentful towards you or vise versa. I see this all the time in my practice. As an Imago Relationship Therapist this all makes sense to me. Most often there is an underlying and not understood defense that each of you is triggering in the other.

I invite you into the adventure of understanding you and your partner or just you in a safe and nonjudgmental atmosphere towards growth and connection. Visit my website for more details and contact information. www.lanexbrink.com

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12/20/2018

I was watching Michelle Obama's interview on Jimmy Fallon last night. She talked candidly about taking Barack to marriage counseling to fix him because she said,"I'm perfect". I chuckled because this is why I got my Imago training for relationships to fix my husband so I will be happy. What an awakening I had coming.
Marriage is work and I chose this relationship and I have a responsibility to it as well as my husband did. Imago gave us a safe and more loving way to hold the sacred space between us and grow, and grow and grow.

If you are curious about Imago give a call or send an email . All contact information is on my website www.lanexbrink.com

12/11/2018

Do you want to be free of the lies you were taught as a child that keep you in self judgement and criticism ? then I may be the right therapist for you. No parent intentionally decides to give you stories about yourself that negatively affect your decisions as an adult . They had childhoods too. Most often they are doing they're best with their own beliefs from childhood. Now, you can decide what you want to believe and without blaming anyone else. Make an appointment for self discovery either with a partner or with yourself. I would love to join you in that adventure.

A gift for and of yourself. Merry Holidays.