09/24/2025
IT'S STILL DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
So many people have been conditioned to believe that abuse is only “real” if it leaves physical scars. But that is a dangerous lie. Abuse doesn’t have to come in the form of punches, kicks, or bruises to destroy a person’s life. They don’t have to hit you, choke you, or slam your head into a wall in order for it to be domestic violence. The truth is, abuse has many faces, and most of them don’t leave visible marks.
It’s in the way they degrade you with cruel words until you start doubting your own worth. It’s in the way they humiliate you in front of others to break down your confidence. It’s in the way they scream, yell, and twist your emotions until you’re left walking on eggshells, terrified of their next explosion. It’s in the constant blame-shifting, where somehow every problem is made to feel like it’s your fault. It’s in the endless lies, betrayals, and cheating that chip away at your sense of security and stability.
It’s in the financial abuse—when they control the money, restrict your access to basic needs, or purposely keep you dependent so you feel trapped. It’s in the manipulation, the silent treatment, the calculated withholding of affection and support. It’s in the control—deciding who you can see, what you can wear, where you can go, and what dreams you are “allowed” to chase.
This is abuse. This is violence. It doesn’t have to involve fists for it to leave deep wounds. Emotional scars run just as deep as physical ones, and often take longer to heal because they attack the very core of who you are. They break your spirit, silence your voice, and convince you that you’re powerless.
Never let anyone minimize your pain by saying “at least they didn’t hit you.” That’s not comfort—that’s ignorance. Domestic violence is not limited to bruises and broken bones. It’s every act of control, every word meant to wound, every manipulation designed to trap you. And whether the world recognizes it or not, it IS still domestic violence.
