Beyond Affairs

11/26/2025

Post D-Day it can feel difficult to find something to be thankful for. I remember many holidays that felt heavy. My heart was shattered, and I felt like I was lying to everyone around me.
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I’ve linked my Blog that explores each of these tips a little further. https://www.beyondaffairs.com/read/how-do-you-make-it-through-the-pressure-of-the-holidays-after-an-affair

11/25/2025

I cannot even begin to count the times my husband and I lost all hope for our marriage throughout this journey. One thing that was incredibly impactful for me was having people in my life rooting for my marriage. I have come to call them the Hope Holders of our journey. A Hope Holder could be your counselor, your affair recovery coach, this community, close friends, etc. These are the people who will lift you up when you are too weak to stand. The ones who know your heart’s true desire, and encourage you to keep fighting for it. These people are incredibly special. They can make a huge difference in recovery. We were never meant to walk this journey alone! 
~Tiffanie
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11/25/2025

At times it feels there is nothing left to fight for. This is when your support system can step in and help carry you to the next stage in healing. Your heart may be tired, but there is still hope.
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11/24/2025

11/19/2025

When D-Day hits, we feel like we have no one. We feel alone. Lost. Broken. Hope seems lost. Devastation has settled in for the long haul. This is what isolation tells us…there is no one else. You are alone. There is no hope. It’ll never be the same. The beauty in finding your community is that they speak truth into that lie. I am forever grateful for the community I found with Beyond Affairs, and the times it carried me through my darkest days! You are not alone. There is hope. You were never made to walk this road in isolation.
~Tiffanie
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11/06/2025

10/31/2025

I’m so excited to be celebrating our 44th wedding anniversary today. I think I might be the luckiest woman alive because Brian makes me feel cherished every single day. One of the most valuable qualities he has is is willingness to continually grow, learn and change as needed. Another quality would be his faith in God, and how he doesn’t just take that for granted, but he reads his Bible, keeps company with godly men, and practices what he learns. Brian has earned my respect, and I trust him 100%. I wish everyone could have what we have, and I believe most can. People just need to stop leaving it to chance as if there is a magical soulmate out there in the universe somewhere. Instead get educated on how to be married, how to love, and be intentional. If we can do it so can you. Marriage is less about finding the right person, and more about being the right person. To my husband, Brian today … thank you for making me happy!❤️

10/28/2025

I am not smarter, more talented or luckier than anyone else. I didn’t grow up with the right contacts or the right anything else (well okay I lived in some of the best countries in the world – that was my lucky break), but I have learned some principles of success. Since 1981 I have been actively working on improving my life. And since 1989, I have been studying success principles. I’m telling you the stuff they write in those books works. There are many great success books out there. The bottom line is you can live the life you want to live. You can live your life by design.
With that being said, here are 8 Keys to success:
1. Dream. You cannot reach a destination you don’t have.
2. Believe. Once you have dreamed the life you want, you have to believe in it.
3. Other people - a team. – In order to be successful you need other people to help you.
4. Ask. “You have not because you ask not, ask and you shall receive that your joy may be full.” – John 16:24 (there’s a lot of good stuff in the Bible – no wonder it’s the worlds all time bestseller!)
5. Understand that failure is part of success. Even in relationships. Don’t be afraid to fail. Look at my story. It’s part of the journey.
6. Give. Giving is part of success. Give 10% of your finances to charities you believe in, but don’t stop there. Give of your time and your talents also.
7. Don’t judge others. You have not walked in their shoes. You don’t know the whole story.
8. Educate yourself. Knowledge is power. What you don’t know does hurt you!
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You can live out your God-given destiny. Don’t give up. Stay strong!
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10/27/2025

10/21/2025

Oh, how I allowed fear to have an influence on every step and action in my recovery journey. From the obsessive thoughts that follow an unexpected event, to the unspoken communication my spouse should’ve shared immediately. Fear came in like a thief in the night. Fear came to seek, kill, and destroy all the progress that I was making.
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Living your life in a state of fear is detrimental to your healing. It’s not easy to step outside of our own fears, but with the right help, it is possible. Surround yourself with people who will lift you up, and speak TRUTH into your fears. Schedule the coaching call, shoot a message to someone in this community that is a bit further along in the journey, book the retreat!!
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If you’re a betrayed woman, register for Take Your Life Back. No more excuses. It’s Time to reclaim what was stolen. Don’t put it off any longer. Now is the time. My best support system came from after the Take Your Life Back Retreat. TYLB sisters are absolutely vital in healing. They spoke life, truth, and logic into some of my darkest fears. They held space for my grief when I needed to cry. They lifted me up when I was ready to crumble. And they celebrate with me now that I have overcome the darkest days of my life! They are priceless friends, and I cherish the relationship I have with them now.
💖 Tiffanie
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