PACT (Pre/Post Adoption Consulting and Training)

02/25/2026

Feb 26 newsletter

Email from Pavao Consulting & Coaching           A Gift to Yourself February/depths of winter can be playful, complicated, and everything in between. This season can also be a powerful time to reflect

02/23/2026

Released 55 yrs ago today.
Most continuously played album in my
apartments in San Francisco, and Cambridge.

Tapestry is the second studio album by American singer-songwriter Carole King, released in 1971 on Ode Records and produced by Lou Adler. The album was certi...

02/23/2026

Ugh

02/22/2026

There are adult adoptees who were never granted citizenship and are at -risk for deportation. This is an extremely scary situation for them, as there have been several high profile cases of adoptee deportations. There is bipartisan legislation submitted to Congress for the last several years that has not yet passed. While it is unclear how many adult adoptees are at risk due to a legal loophole, some groups estimate 15,000-45,000. Many adoptees are unaware of their legal situation until they apply for a passport or Real ID. They assumed, like most people, that all adoptions automatically trigger citizenship. Not the case.

The Child Citizenship Act of 2000 created a streamlined path to citizenship for children who were adopted internationally. It applied to children under age 18. Anyone older than age 18 at the time was ineligible, which created the gap. (Anyone born before February 1983) While this article focuses on Christianity and potential religious persecution, the adoptees at -risk are diverse in race, ethnicity, religion, and country of birth. None of them deserve to be living in fear due to this legal loophole.

02/20/2026

"Four Birthmothers - for mothers" is now live on Vimeo! This film has been deeply meaningful to work on - and these four women are incredibly articulate and courageous. Pass it on. Their stories are meant to be shared - and their voices heard.”
Jean Strauss
https://vimeo.com/119964199

02/19/2026

Anne is the deepest and lightest.
Do her course!

02/18/2026

02/13/2026

Kind thoughts and candy hearts

02/13/2026

It doesn’t matter if you are a priest, a prince, a president, or just a plain pe*****le-
when you lure and groom and violate anyone, but most especially young people
under -or even older if emotionally immature -than legal age of 18-21 …
or now that we know the adolescent
brain continues to form until about 26 yrs.

They have taken the emotional and psychological life of that person.
They have murdered a part of them.

The punishment for this must be
strong and visible to the public.
It must be a lesson to the other
Epsteins’, oligarchs, and moguls that believe they can plunder and possess anything they wish for.

Stripping them of their trappings in
priesthood, prince hood, or
President of a corporation or country is demanded.

They have taken lives and trust and
dignity away from children.
They must also be stripped of their potential and access to the things
they idolize.

Examples must be made in order to
begin to purge.

Incarceration in prison or asylums is indicated, and their billions must be
applied to services and recompense
to their victims and all victims

In my 55+ years as a family therapist working with children in foster care and adoption, I have heard horrific stories
from and about vulnerable children.
I have worked with them to put back the pieces, and to mend what we could
of their trust and self esteem.
I have processed the secondary trauma that comes from entering their space and seeing and understanding what they endured.
It is essential for all of them to tell
their story, and to be heard and appropriately responded to.
The Epstein victims also need to be
seen and heard and responded to.
-Not ignored like Bondi did in a public setting.

This is a pivotal time to address
the huge issues of trafficking
and luring and grooming.
A spotlight must be shone
and these high profile perpetrators
Must be held accountable.
They Must.

Dr Joyce Maguire Pavao
www.pavaoconsulting.com

02/12/2026

Next week will be a month
since my hip replacement surgery.
Then two weeks more until I can
drive and feel ‘free’.

Biggest thanks to my amazing,
entertaining daughter, Seacia.
Who made things fun and easy.
She was there when I needed, and stepped away as I mastered each goal.
She continues to be the chef and chauffeur until I can drive and manage snow and ice.
Love to Seash.
Love to the medical/surgical
crew, the OT (Yve was hilarious and helpful and PT Andrea is excellent).
Love to friends and family who
called and zoomed to check on
me and lighten the boredom with stories.
Love to visitors who withstood Oscar Wilde’s 7 minute initial greeting,
and then had a lovely visit.
Thanks for the flowers and cute
snail-mail cards.

I am doing great, building strength, plodding up and down many stairs, dressing, socks and boots without bending, bathing/hair washing (albeit an hour long event).
Slow, but steady wins the prize.

Most of all, the debilitating,
excruciating Pain is GONE.
I still have low back pain.
I still have left hip pain, but it is so very manageable and nothing like the
killer pain that took up so
much space in my head.

Doc says three months till I am pretty healed- appointment and X-ray in May. And 9-12 months for ‘new normal’.
Then discussion re left hip.

Again- thanks to everyone who didn’t abandon me when I was bent over,
with little to no mobility, and had
to narrow where I could park-
hence where I could go.
Only one friend berated me, and made
it ‘a choice’ of mine, causing a disruption.
Dear friends stood by me and their understanding was transformative.

I look forward to being more present,
and more able than I have been
in recent years.

Thank you from the bottom of my heart ♥️