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TMR2DAY Life Coaching

Transformative expat life coach helping people with transition and/or setting (and meeting) goals. My name is Trina (M.) Roth and my company is TMR2DAY LLC.

I am a fully certified transformative life coach and work with any type of client, but my specialty lies with expats who are dealing with transition and/or want help with goal-setting (and meeting those goals). I offer my services both online and in-person and am located in Bend, OR. I am originally from the U.S. but grew up in Ivory Coast when I was young, am married with 1 daughter (16 years old) and a husband of 28 years. My husband, daughter, and I have lived overseas since 2001 in 6 different countries, teaching in various international schools. I am an expat and a third culture kid. I have lived longer outside the U.S. than in.

02/16/2026

February 16, 2026 - Monday Musings

What do you call a fish without eyes?

Fsh.

Ha, ha, ha, ha! 🤣

We all know a bad (ahem, dad) joke or two, right?

And we often use them in social situations to ease the awkwardness.

Why?

Because, according to Ian Brodie and Moira Marsh, two professors of folklore, dad jokes “...represent a dad at his most annoying, but also at his best: warm, silly and loving.”

I’m not a dad, but I do have a few dad-esque jokes that I can remember and whip out in a pinch if I’m feeling awkward.

And they get a laugh (or a groan), usually from me because I think they’re hilarious, and the ice is broken, or the conversation picks up, and the moment is eased.

I often find myself in awkward situations (I’m a white chick living in Kigali, Rwanda) and so I often find myself in situations where I want to ease the tension and get a laugh.

But when I coach, I know I need to lean into the awkward and not go for the laugh, but wait in patient silence. To allow my clients to have that moment of quiet. To give them the space to think or formulate or just be.

So while laughter is the best medicine, “The quieter you become, the more you can hear." (Ram Dass).

02/09/2026

February 9, 2026 - Monday Musings

It’s my daughter’s 19th birthday this week.

19.

Do you remember turning/being 19?

The last year of being a teen.

That weird in-between feeling of being an adult but still not fully legal (drinking age in the U.S. is 21). Closer, but still not there.

And then there’s also the excitement and thrill at the beginning of teenhood, when you turn 13 and are FINALLY a teenager and no longer such a “kid.”

Why do we put so much emphasis on ages?

Why are the ages 13, 15, 16, 19, 21 (I can go on) such “milestones”?

It’s that idea of “making it” that I’m referring to and thinking of today.

And not just the teenage (and drinking age) ones. Those are just the most prevalent to me because it’s yet another “big” birthday for my daughter and it’s fresh on my mind right now.

It’s all the milestones (mostly age-wise) that we encounter in life. “When I’m such-and-such…” we say. “When I turn blah-dee-blah…” we add.

Why not just say, in the immortal words of Jon Bon Jovi,
“It's my life
It's now or never
I ain't gonna live forever
I just want to live while I'm alive.”

Live a little. Or a lot. But live how you want. On your own terms. Not waiting for the next milestone. Now.

P.S. This picture was taken years ago so that is not my current hairstyle but IS my current smile.

02/02/2026

February 2, 2026 - Monday Musings

I’m gonna KISS 💋 this Musing.

Keep It Super Simple.

I want to coach more.

You need a coach.

So take advantage of my offer of free coaching sessions and contact me.

Here are my deets…
WhatsApp: +23059160445
Email: tmr2daycoaching@gmail.com
Website: https://www.tmr2day.com/

That’s it. That’s me.

01/26/2026

January 26, 2026 - Monday Musings

Do you know what type of person you are?

Extrovert?

Introvert?

Ambivert?

Omnivert?

Other?

Do you even know the differences between these types?

Do you even care?

I’ve been doing a lot of soul-searching lately. I’ve been trying to figure out what I’m “meant” to do in life as I’m not teaching/being a librarian anymore; I’m not really coaching; I love making totes but don’t want it as a business because I’m pretty sure I’d not love it as much if I “had” to make tote bags; I have some opportunities to work at my husband’s school, but don’t want to do anything full time as I love having a flexible schedule, plus the money is cr**; I get pretty lonely just hanging out at home but don’t want to be tied to a “9-5”; and this, sadly, is just scratching the surface of all my convoluted thoughts.

Part of my soul-searching has been trying to figure out what kind of personality I am. Just so I have a better idea of what really makes me tick and what might interest me in pursuing.

In my research, I discovered two “new” (to me) traits: ambivert and omnivert.

According to Google AI, “An omnivert is a person who exhibits traits of both introversion and extroversion but swings between these extremes rather than maintaining a balance. (Whereas) an ambivert … stays mostly in the middle of the social spectrum.”

When I asked my husband which one he thinks I am, he said (and I quote): “More of an omnivert, but you are uniquely you.” Okay…

So I’m a swinger…(?)

Hmm….

But it makes so. much. sense. My ability to be the life of the party to ghosting halfway through the event so I can hide away at home all in the span of a few hours. Now I know why!

And knowing my personality trait will make it easier in the future to know how I will interact, react, and respond to various social situations, including coaching…and how to possibly counteract those responses if/as the need arises.

Why? So that instead of reacting to a situation, I can be present and aware and prepared. Because as G.I. Joe said, “Knowing is half the battle.”

I can now go out and KNOW how I will interact in various situations. And when the urge hits me to swing to the opposite extreme, I can be ready and remain in the moment.

And that’s how I stay present and coach my a** off. https://www.tmr2day.com/

01/19/2026

January 19, 2026 - Monday Musings

I hate goodbyes.

They seem so perfunctory and final.

And I’ve had to say that word a LOT in my life as an international immigrant.

People come and go in our lives quite often.

You’d think the more often we say it, the easier it gets.

That’s sometimes true.

But not always.

I wish there was another way to say those words without them seeming to be an end to something.

Because I just had a really tough goodbye.

I had to say goodbye to my daughter. She’s currently winging her way back to the U.S. for her second semester of university.

I flew with her on the first leg of her trip as she had a long overnight layover and was really worried about how and where she’d sleep as a solo traveler.

And then I continued on to visit some dear friends in Dubai (that’s a win/win situation for sure! Spend some extra time with the kid, ease her travel fears, and see some special friends).

But then I had to say goodbye - in front of strangers at the airport.

So I was stoic.

I was brave.

I was majestic.

I was a weeping mess - inside.

I know she will be fine.

I know I will be fine.

But it’s hard to be so far away. Even though I’m having all sorts of AIR (Adventures in Rwanda) time.

So as I say goodbye to my daughter, I’m sending her all my hopes that she rises up and continues to be the wonderful human being that she is.

And I hold on to the memories we made while she was here so they will sustain me until we are together again to make new ones.

Until next time…(is that a better phrase?). Until we meet again…(even better?).

01/12/2026

January 12, 2026 - Monday Musings

Do you know the story of the Little Engine that could?

His famous (infamous?) words are, “I think I can, I think I can…”

He says these words as he hauls himself and his large load (yes, your mind can go wherever on that one - mine certainly did…😉) over a mountain.

I sometimes feel like that little engine. My load feels so heavy at times (including my body as it continues to change and evolve as I level up) that I don’t know if I can make it through the day/night, let alone the moment I’m struggling through.

I especially feel that way in the second or third week of January.

The festivities are over.

The trimmings are put away.

The resolutions seem daunting (or maybe not even necessary).

And there are no more holidays for a while.

What’s a girl to do?

Find the joy.

That’s right. Find (and do) something that brings you joy.

That could be absolutely anything.

But do it for yourself, so that when the things you HAVE to do rear their “ugly” heads, you can say, “I know I can, I know I can…” (I prefer that phrase anyway).

Because if you do something that brings you joy, you can then remember the amazing feelings you felt and the have-tos seem less hard.

This is my challenge to you: if you want, please share what brings you joy. Maybe your idea will spark someone else to find their own joy.

I’ll go first: I love to kayak! That brings me joy ♥️.

01/05/2026

January 5, 2026 - Monday Musings

It’s 2026!

Ring in the new year!

Re-check the resolutions! (?)

So we’re almost a week into 2026…how are you doing at deciding, starting, making your goals, if any at all?

‘Cause there’s no rule that says you must make resolutions. But if that’s how you roll, are you keeping them SMART (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Timely)? And are you making sure to KISS them (Keep It Super Simple)?

Since I’m in the business of sharing ideas, and because I decided I wanted to make some personal improvements this year, here are my goals (I’m not going to call them resolutions because although I resolve to do them, I want to make them goals so that when I reach them, I can celebrate - that’s a very important part of having and achieving goals…celebrating them!).

2026 New Year’s Goals
Practice ukulele 2X per week for 20 mins. (Tuesday & Thursday)
Take swim lessons
Write a picture book about my 8 years living in la Côte d’Ivoire (hence the photo below)
And just for fun…try a new restaurant each month

Now, before you get your panties all in a twist, no, these are not at all specific. I have (and will) calendar times for writing, I have organized finding a swim instructor, and I am dedicated to making these goals.

As the next few months go by, I will share my progress with y’all.

What are your goals for 2026?

What do you hope to achieve this year?

It’s just a matter of being SMART and KISS(ing) them.

Please feel free to share…

01/03/2026

Hello, I’m Trina. I’m a retired teacher and school librarian who transitioned into life coaching three years ago. I work with people who are navigating life changes, women experiencing menopause, and individuals who feel ready for a meaningful shift in their lives. I’m new to Kigali and am currently seeking practice clients as I reestablish my coaching work after a year of personal transition.

I’m offering free coaching to people who would like support but are not in a position to pay for sessions. I’m looking for individuals willing to commit 3–5 hours over the next one to two months to work on a specific goal or challenge. Coaching sessions can be held in person or online, at a time that is convenient for you.

Please feel free to contact me directly at: tmr2daycoaching@gmail.com or via WhatsApp: +23059160445.

12/29/2025

December 29, 2025 - Monday Musings

New Year’s Resolutions…

…a crock of sh**?

Or do they really work?

It all depends.

“On what?” you ask.

On the person(s) making the resolution.

It used to be when I was working full-time and my school year started in August/September, I’d make my “new year” resolutions then. It made sense to me. New school year, new me.

Plus, I didn’t have the after-holiday doldrums I often get in January.

I felt fresh, I felt vibrant, I felt I could take on the world.

And often, I actually made (and kept!) most of my resolutions.

Now that I’m not working full-time, I’m back to making resolutions in January. My birthday is Jan. 1, so it makes sense to me now to do that again.

So with 3 days left in the 2025 year, I’m starting to think about what long-term changes I want to implement in my life.

And so on to my musing…will I actually meet/keep these resolutions?

I will!

Because I use SMART goals (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Timely).

Do you have some goals you’d like to set and worry you might not keep at them? Let’s be accountable to each other. Reach out and we can chat…tmr2daycoaching@gmail.com

12/22/2025

December 22, 2025 - Monday Musings

"Express your PEEPSONALITY!"

If you know, you know…

And I know.

My oldest friend (not in age but in how long we’ve been friends) is hosting her annual gingerbread party today and this year’s theme is: Peeps!

She is Peeps obsessed.

She has just about every kind of Peep ever made.

In fact, she has been saving Peeps for this very event for YEARS!

Because they are, truly, indestructible.

And if you know, you know…

These things could survive a nuclear blast, I am sure.

And I am missing it this year.

Because for the first time in 9 years, I am not “summering” in the States during December and January.

I am “wintering” in Rwanda (and if you read my previous Musings, you’ll know I’m handling that “really” well).

But the Peeps got me thinking about longevity and change…and those two seemingly opposite words do have a connection.

Sometimes, we do things because “we’ve always done it.”

Sometimes that’s a good thing, and sometimes…

…change is needed.

Take Peeps.

They used to be just marshmallow-flavored yellow and pink baby chicks.

And those were good (especially if you let them dry out a bit and get hard on the outside but chewy marshmallowy on the inside - shhh…that’s my secret).

But then Just Born Quality Confections (owners of Peeps) started introducing new shapes, new flavors, new colors.

And some of those were good.

And some weren’t (of course, this is totally my opinion and not based on research or scientific fact).

So, were the changes good or not? Did longevity win out in the case of Peeps or should they have stayed the same?

I believe change is good. And so I am (trying to) embracing my new change of not being able to attend my friend’s party (especially this year’s Peeps-themed one) and having a staycation with my little family of three.

Speaking of changes…are you ready to take on some new things in your life? Let’s talk change! tmr2daycoaching@gmail.com

12/15/2025

December 15, 2025 - Monday Musings

The kid is coming!

My daughter is arriving in just a few days to spend the next month with us!

She’s freakin’ out.

Not because she’s coming to Rwanda. She’s actually already been here.

And not because she has to fly. She’s grown up flying all over the world.

So why is she so nervous?

Because for the first time in her 18 years of life, she is flying SOLO.

And not just a little flight…

…a flight almost halfway around the world.

All. By. Herself!

Talk about throwing the kid to the wolves.

But here’s what I believe will happen (and this pessimist is really working to focus on the positives here…):

She will do just fine.

We’ve raised her to be independent, thoughtful, brave, and confident (among other things). And when things get tough, I trust she will prevail.

And I believe this trait is something we all have. When the chips are down, or when push comes to shove, or whatever cliché you prefer, we all have an inner strength that comes to our aid.

But sometimes it’s hard to reach down and find that resilience.

Sometimes we need someone to ask the right questions to get that feeling back.

I can ask those questions of you.

I can help you find your Sage.

I helped my daughter find hers. Let me help you find yours. tmr2day.com / tmr2daycoaching@gmail.com

12/08/2025

December 8, 2025 - Monday Musings

My parents have been married for over 56 years…

…as of two days ago. But the best part?

They still truly love and adore each other.

Sure, they’ve had their random arguments and found each other annoying (at times). But they were “in it to win it” as the phrase goes.

And boy did they win it. They are wholly committed to each other and their relationship.

Yet at the same time, even though they make time and space for the other person, they also ensure they get quality “me” time. And I believe that’s one reason they have such a strong relationship. They know the value of recharging their personal batteries.

That’s my musing for today - do you take time, like my parents do, to focus on yourself?

Do you ensure that your batteries are recharged before you focus on other commitments or people?

Or do you tell yourself you’re being selfish and that you shouldn’t “need” to be focusing on yourself?

With the craziness of the holiday season swooping down on us, allow yourself time each and every day to do something just for you. It could be as simple as a 5-minute breathing exercise or buying yourself a coffee as a treat.

But whatever you do, take heed from my parent’s relationship and make sure you focus on you. If you need, send me a message and I’ll take the time to focus on you and listen to your needs. tmr2daycoaching@gmail.com

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