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Transformative expat life coach helping people with transition and/or setting (and meeting) goals. My name is Trina (M.) Roth and my company is TMR2DAY LLC.

I am a fully certified transformative life coach and work with any type of client, but my specialty lies with expats who are dealing with transition and/or want help with goal-setting (and meeting those goals). I offer my services both online and in-person and am located in Bend, OR. I am originally from the U.S. but grew up in Ivory Coast when I was young, am married with 1 daughter (16 years old) and a husband of 28 years. My husband, daughter, and I have lived overseas since 2001 in 6 different countries, teaching in various international schools. I am an expat and a third culture kid. I have lived longer outside the U.S. than in.

01/19/2026

January 19, 2026 - Monday Musings

I hate goodbyes.

They seem so perfunctory and final.

And I’ve had to say that word a LOT in my life as an international immigrant.

People come and go in our lives quite often.

You’d think the more often we say it, the easier it gets.

That’s sometimes true.

But not always.

I wish there was another way to say those words without them seeming to be an end to something.

Because I just had a really tough goodbye.

I had to say goodbye to my daughter. She’s currently winging her way back to the U.S. for her second semester of university.

I flew with her on the first leg of her trip as she had a long overnight layover and was really worried about how and where she’d sleep as a solo traveler.

And then I continued on to visit some dear friends in Dubai (that’s a win/win situation for sure! Spend some extra time with the kid, ease her travel fears, and see some special friends).

But then I had to say goodbye - in front of strangers at the airport.

So I was stoic.

I was brave.

I was majestic.

I was a weeping mess - inside.

I know she will be fine.

I know I will be fine.

But it’s hard to be so far away. Even though I’m having all sorts of AIR (Adventures in Rwanda) time.

So as I say goodbye to my daughter, I’m sending her all my hopes that she rises up and continues to be the wonderful human being that she is.

And I hold on to the memories we made while she was here so they will sustain me until we are together again to make new ones.

Until next time…(is that a better phrase?). Until we meet again…(even better?).

01/12/2026

January 12, 2026 - Monday Musings

Do you know the story of the Little Engine that could?

His famous (infamous?) words are, “I think I can, I think I can…”

He says these words as he hauls himself and his large load (yes, your mind can go wherever on that one - mine certainly did…😉) over a mountain.

I sometimes feel like that little engine. My load feels so heavy at times (including my body as it continues to change and evolve as I level up) that I don’t know if I can make it through the day/night, let alone the moment I’m struggling through.

I especially feel that way in the second or third week of January.

The festivities are over.

The trimmings are put away.

The resolutions seem daunting (or maybe not even necessary).

And there are no more holidays for a while.

What’s a girl to do?

Find the joy.

That’s right. Find (and do) something that brings you joy.

That could be absolutely anything.

But do it for yourself, so that when the things you HAVE to do rear their “ugly” heads, you can say, “I know I can, I know I can…” (I prefer that phrase anyway).

Because if you do something that brings you joy, you can then remember the amazing feelings you felt and the have-tos seem less hard.

This is my challenge to you: if you want, please share what brings you joy. Maybe your idea will spark someone else to find their own joy.

I’ll go first: I love to kayak! That brings me joy ♥️.

01/05/2026

January 5, 2026 - Monday Musings

It’s 2026!

Ring in the new year!

Re-check the resolutions! (?)

So we’re almost a week into 2026…how are you doing at deciding, starting, making your goals, if any at all?

‘Cause there’s no rule that says you must make resolutions. But if that’s how you roll, are you keeping them SMART (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Timely)? And are you making sure to KISS them (Keep It Super Simple)?

Since I’m in the business of sharing ideas, and because I decided I wanted to make some personal improvements this year, here are my goals (I’m not going to call them resolutions because although I resolve to do them, I want to make them goals so that when I reach them, I can celebrate - that’s a very important part of having and achieving goals…celebrating them!).

2026 New Year’s Goals
Practice ukulele 2X per week for 20 mins. (Tuesday & Thursday)
Take swim lessons
Write a picture book about my 8 years living in la Côte d’Ivoire (hence the photo below)
And just for fun…try a new restaurant each month

Now, before you get your panties all in a twist, no, these are not at all specific. I have (and will) calendar times for writing, I have organized finding a swim instructor, and I am dedicated to making these goals.

As the next few months go by, I will share my progress with y’all.

What are your goals for 2026?

What do you hope to achieve this year?

It’s just a matter of being SMART and KISS(ing) them.

Please feel free to share…

01/03/2026

Hello, I’m Trina. I’m a retired teacher and school librarian who transitioned into life coaching three years ago. I work with people who are navigating life changes, women experiencing menopause, and individuals who feel ready for a meaningful shift in their lives. I’m new to Kigali and am currently seeking practice clients as I reestablish my coaching work after a year of personal transition.

I’m offering free coaching to people who would like support but are not in a position to pay for sessions. I’m looking for individuals willing to commit 3–5 hours over the next one to two months to work on a specific goal or challenge. Coaching sessions can be held in person or online, at a time that is convenient for you.

Please feel free to contact me directly at: tmr2daycoaching@gmail.com or via WhatsApp: +23059160445.

12/29/2025

December 29, 2025 - Monday Musings

New Year’s Resolutions…

…a crock of sh**?

Or do they really work?

It all depends.

“On what?” you ask.

On the person(s) making the resolution.

It used to be when I was working full-time and my school year started in August/September, I’d make my “new year” resolutions then. It made sense to me. New school year, new me.

Plus, I didn’t have the after-holiday doldrums I often get in January.

I felt fresh, I felt vibrant, I felt I could take on the world.

And often, I actually made (and kept!) most of my resolutions.

Now that I’m not working full-time, I’m back to making resolutions in January. My birthday is Jan. 1, so it makes sense to me now to do that again.

So with 3 days left in the 2025 year, I’m starting to think about what long-term changes I want to implement in my life.

And so on to my musing…will I actually meet/keep these resolutions?

I will!

Because I use SMART goals (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Timely).

Do you have some goals you’d like to set and worry you might not keep at them? Let’s be accountable to each other. Reach out and we can chat…tmr2daycoaching@gmail.com

12/22/2025

December 22, 2025 - Monday Musings

"Express your PEEPSONALITY!"

If you know, you know…

And I know.

My oldest friend (not in age but in how long we’ve been friends) is hosting her annual gingerbread party today and this year’s theme is: Peeps!

She is Peeps obsessed.

She has just about every kind of Peep ever made.

In fact, she has been saving Peeps for this very event for YEARS!

Because they are, truly, indestructible.

And if you know, you know…

These things could survive a nuclear blast, I am sure.

And I am missing it this year.

Because for the first time in 9 years, I am not “summering” in the States during December and January.

I am “wintering” in Rwanda (and if you read my previous Musings, you’ll know I’m handling that “really” well).

But the Peeps got me thinking about longevity and change…and those two seemingly opposite words do have a connection.

Sometimes, we do things because “we’ve always done it.”

Sometimes that’s a good thing, and sometimes…

…change is needed.

Take Peeps.

They used to be just marshmallow-flavored yellow and pink baby chicks.

And those were good (especially if you let them dry out a bit and get hard on the outside but chewy marshmallowy on the inside - shhh…that’s my secret).

But then Just Born Quality Confections (owners of Peeps) started introducing new shapes, new flavors, new colors.

And some of those were good.

And some weren’t (of course, this is totally my opinion and not based on research or scientific fact).

So, were the changes good or not? Did longevity win out in the case of Peeps or should they have stayed the same?

I believe change is good. And so I am (trying to) embracing my new change of not being able to attend my friend’s party (especially this year’s Peeps-themed one) and having a staycation with my little family of three.

Speaking of changes…are you ready to take on some new things in your life? Let’s talk change! tmr2daycoaching@gmail.com

12/15/2025

December 15, 2025 - Monday Musings

The kid is coming!

My daughter is arriving in just a few days to spend the next month with us!

She’s freakin’ out.

Not because she’s coming to Rwanda. She’s actually already been here.

And not because she has to fly. She’s grown up flying all over the world.

So why is she so nervous?

Because for the first time in her 18 years of life, she is flying SOLO.

And not just a little flight…

…a flight almost halfway around the world.

All. By. Herself!

Talk about throwing the kid to the wolves.

But here’s what I believe will happen (and this pessimist is really working to focus on the positives here…):

She will do just fine.

We’ve raised her to be independent, thoughtful, brave, and confident (among other things). And when things get tough, I trust she will prevail.

And I believe this trait is something we all have. When the chips are down, or when push comes to shove, or whatever cliché you prefer, we all have an inner strength that comes to our aid.

But sometimes it’s hard to reach down and find that resilience.

Sometimes we need someone to ask the right questions to get that feeling back.

I can ask those questions of you.

I can help you find your Sage.

I helped my daughter find hers. Let me help you find yours. tmr2day.com / tmr2daycoaching@gmail.com

12/08/2025

December 8, 2025 - Monday Musings

My parents have been married for over 56 years…

…as of two days ago. But the best part?

They still truly love and adore each other.

Sure, they’ve had their random arguments and found each other annoying (at times). But they were “in it to win it” as the phrase goes.

And boy did they win it. They are wholly committed to each other and their relationship.

Yet at the same time, even though they make time and space for the other person, they also ensure they get quality “me” time. And I believe that’s one reason they have such a strong relationship. They know the value of recharging their personal batteries.

That’s my musing for today - do you take time, like my parents do, to focus on yourself?

Do you ensure that your batteries are recharged before you focus on other commitments or people?

Or do you tell yourself you’re being selfish and that you shouldn’t “need” to be focusing on yourself?

With the craziness of the holiday season swooping down on us, allow yourself time each and every day to do something just for you. It could be as simple as a 5-minute breathing exercise or buying yourself a coffee as a treat.

But whatever you do, take heed from my parent’s relationship and make sure you focus on you. If you need, send me a message and I’ll take the time to focus on you and listen to your needs. tmr2daycoaching@gmail.com

12/01/2025

December 1, 2025 - Monday Musings

🎶“It’s beginning to look a lot like Christmas…” 🎶NOT!

I am really struggling with my emotions right now as my heart wants to be back in Oregon with the snow and cold weather and a real fir tree and a fireplace burning in my living room.

Instead, I’m here in Rwanda (in the heart of Africa) and I’ve got thunderstorms and humidity and a fake fir tree and a fan blowing in my living room.

Ironically, I’ve celebrated this festive season without snow and such ilk for many years. It was just the last 8 that we were actually back in the U.S. during the winter holidays (because it was our Mauritian summer break).

So why am I having such a difficult time “accepting” that it’s Christmas soon?

Because I am human and I am a creature of habit and I am watching all those da** movies that have snow and coats and fireplaces to signify "Christmas."

But what is Christmas (or the holidays) really?

For my little family of 3.5 (gotta include the dog, right?), it’s a chance for us to all be together without school or work or other such time constraints.

It’s a time to make (and eat) tasty treats (and ignore the scale).

It’s when we can relax and just enjoy being together (and watch those silly holiday movies).

And presents? Just the icing on the cake.

This year, with our daughter coming to us from university in the States, things will be a bit different. We’re putting more emphasis on being together than on physical gifts.

Because truly, isn’t that what the holidays are all about? A time to be together with the people you love? And who (whom?) do I love more in this world than my husband and daughter (yes, and probably even my dog)?

So I will allow myself to wallow a bit in missing cold weather and warm fireplaces and then focus on what’s truly important; the fact I get to be with my favorite people in the world for an entire month.

That, truly, is a gift!

11/24/2025

November 24, 2025 - Monday Musings

Two months in!

I have been in Rwanda for just over 2 months.

And this is what I’ve gleaned about living in Kigali.

For a nominal fee, I can have groceries, food (from a restaurant), plants, household appliances, and more delivered within an hour to my house.

I can pay anyone for anything with my phone.

When it rains, flying insects “escape” into my house and litter the floor with their dying bodies and dessicated wings.

Avocados grow on the tree outside my gate. The tree currently has buds on!

When I take the dog for a walk, people completely ignore me and focus on him. But when I walk sans dog, I am the one being stared at.

Although there is milk galore available here (I can walk 5 minutes to a milk bar and order a glass of milk to drink at whatever temperature I desire), cheese and other dairy products are not readily available. [I think I’m having a cheese crisis. I miss sharp Cheddar cheese SO much! And it’s only been 2 months…]

Chocolate/candy bars are CRAZY expensive. I guess that’s a good thing for my waistline…

I have a personal driver at my beck and call to take me places; not only will they take me where I need to go, they will wait for me and then drive me elsewhere or back home (depending on my needs/wants for the day).

There are “technically” 4 seasons here (not that I’ve experienced them all yet). But unlike the northern hemisphere seasons, they are: long dry season (June-Sept.), short rainy season (Oct.-Nov.), short dry season (Dec.-Feb.), and long rainy season (March-May).

I know there are many more things I will attribute to life in Kigali, but those are the ones that feature predominantly right now.

So as I start to adapt to my new life here, I want to continue to find ways to get out and find clients. Guess I need to call my driver and find some places to hang out or some events to attend. Wish me luck.

11/17/2025

November 17, 2025 - Monday Musings

Got some AIR time last weekend!

I took the dog in to be groomed at a place called the Dog Haus. It has a 4.7 star rating on Google reviews (33 reviews) so I figured it had potential.

The groomer (named Alphonse) was lovely and listened carefully as I explained what I wanted done (face cleaned up and the Fu Manchu mustache gone, body trimmed, tail left alone).

It was going to be 3 hours, so we took advantage of having a driver and went to the Kimironko Market to pick up a skirt I had tailored as well as some more fabric for my Totes by Trina.

My seamstress wasn’t there so we waited. And waited. And waited.

And in the meantime, has a whole series of AIRs…

“I really like your earrings. I have more like that you can buy.”

“Your purse is so pretty. Come see my stall and buy another like it.”

“I like your dress. I can make you one just like it.”

And on and on…to the point I actually needed to get some air and stepped out of the entrance…

…only to be asked, “Aren’t you hot in the sun? I can sell you a fan.”

Anyway, long story short, after exercising much patience, grinning a LOT, making small talk with every vendor that saw us, we got my skirt, bought some fabric, and headed out.

That’s when I got the call to pick up my dog. And what a sight he was.

His head was shorn! Like I asked and then some. But his body was fluffy and huge! Because it had been just trimmed (like I’d asked). He looked so funny. Like the headhunter in the original Beetlejuice movie. It was NOT a good look. And I was really frustrated at first…

…until I realized Alphonse listened very carefully to my instructions and followed them to a T. It was my fault for not being specific and clear on what I truly wanted. So now I’m left with two things…

A dog who looks freakin’ ridiculous.

And a lesson to be mindful of how I phrase my words because what I think is clear may not translate (literally and figuratively) the way I think they should.

That’s a great lesson for life, too. So let’s keep that in mind as we communicate with others. Being mindful of how and what we say is SO important. I’ll certainly be working on that.

11/10/2025

November 10, 2025 - Monday Musings

Umuganda.

In Kinyarwanda, it means “coming together for a common purpose.”

On a bigger scale, it entails the community joining each other to clean up their streets and neighborhoods on the last Saturday of every month.

So why write about it in my Musings?

Because I took part in one last month sponsored by the Parent Association at my husband’s school. Whole families joined in to clean the debris on a village road to make it easier for traffic (foot, pedal, and vehicle) to get in and out.

It was happy chaos.

And I thought it was such a great thing.

But I did some research into the origin (and the reasons) behind this event and there is some darker history.

During the Genocide, Hutus were encouraged to perform Umuganda on their enemies the Tutsis.

And currently, if someone isn’t participating in Umuganda, they can be fined (which can be a real issue when people earn very little money as it is).

So what seems to be a happy community event of gathering together to work on bettering the environment actually came from quite a nefarious beginning.

Is it forced labor as some people say?

Or is it truly a coming together of communities?

Whichever the case, it is keeping Rwanda clean of litter, untidy streets, and overgrown plants alongside the roads. And maybe it’s creating a sense of community and respect for the country?

For me, it’s another AIR (Adventures in Rwanda) moment. And even with its dark past, I can appreciate the cleanliness of the streets in and around Kigali.

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