Serenity Physical Therapy

08/25/2023

08/25/2023

The best friends you will ever have... (-a passage from my book, ‘Hearticulations’)

08/25/2023

Keanu Reeves was abandoned by his father at 3 years old and grew up with 3 different stepfathers. He is dyslexic. His dream of becoming a hockey player was shattered by a serious accident. His daughter died at birth. His wife died in a car accident. His best friend, River Phoenix, died of an overdose. His sister has leukemia.
And with everything that has happened, Keanu Reeves never misses an opportunity to help people in need. When he was filming the movie "The Lake House," he overheard the conversation of two costume assistants; One cried because he would lose his house if he did not pay $20,000 and on the same day Keanu deposited the necessary amount in the woman's bank account; He also donated stratospheric sums to hospitals.
In 2010, on his birthday, Keanu walked into a bakery and bought a brioche with a single candle, ate it in front of the bakery, and offered coffee to people who stopped to talk to him.
After winning astronomical sums for the Matrix trilogy, the actor donated more than $50 million to the staff who handled the costumes and special effects - the true heroes of the trilogy, as he called them.
He also gave a Harley-Davidson to each of the stunt doubles. A total expense of several million dollars. And for many successful films, he has even given up 90% of his salary to allow the production to hire other stars.
In 1997 some paparazzi found him walking one morning in the company of a homeless man in Los Angeles, listening to him and sharing his life for a few hours.
Most stars when they make a charitable gesture they declare it to all the media. He has never claimed to be doing charity, he simply does it as a matter of moral principles and not to look better in the eyes of others.
This man could buy everything, and instead every day he gets up and chooses one thing that cannot be bought: To be a good person.
Keanu Reeves’ father is of Native Hawaiian descent
southern Mexico.]

06/29/2023

Boundaries are physical, emotional and energetic limits ​ that give us a sense of autonomy, protection, individuality and safety.
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When our system's boundaries are disrupted, the nervous system feels constantly threatened by the lack of autonomy, protection, individuality and safety, which perpetuates survival and leads to dysregulation.
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Boundaries can be disrupted in 2 ways:
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- loose or not existing (enmeshment with others' field)
- rigid or overbounded: strong defenses or walls, primarily to protect a wound, a discomfort or avoid acknowledging a painful truth
- a mix of both
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So why do we feel disconnected from our embodied boundaries?
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1. Because they are unfamiliar to our nervous system. Growing up, boundaries were not modeled, taught, allowed or nurtured and so, the nervous system never had the chance to "register" boundaries as safe.
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Signs that the nervous system is unsafe with boundaries:
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- a lot of rationalization of boundaries
- boundaries will trigger freeze or disconnect in the body
- the body will react defensively
- fear, guilt or shame will overpower
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2. Because boundary disruption (rigid, loose) protects a wound or serves the nervous system to perpetuate its most dominant state - like freeze.
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The most dominant state is perceived as familiar, hence as safe from the survival perspective. ​ Having loose and rigid boundaries serve to perpetuate freeze or protect an emotional wound associated with freeze.
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Without new resources coming through the system, the nervous system will protect in ways that are familiar. We always have to see from the perspective of the nervous system if we're looking for sustainable change.
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Embodied Healing book is a trauma-safe guide to support your nervous system in growing capacity for life, healing and relationships. Link in bio to get your copy.
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Love,
Ally.