MarRem Consulting

11/27/2025

𝐈 𝐚𝐥𝐦𝐨𝐬𝐭 𝐠𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐮𝐩 𝐨𝐧 𝐓𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐤𝐬𝐠𝐢𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐩𝐞𝐚𝐜𝐞 ... 𝐮𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐥 𝐈 𝐟𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝 𝐚 𝐬𝐢𝐦𝐩𝐥𝐞𝐫 𝐰𝐚𝐲 𝐭𝐨 𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐞𝐭 𝐦𝐲 𝐀𝐃𝐇𝐃 𝐛𝐫𝐚𝐢𝐧.

Everything felt loud — the expectations, the pressure, the constant “go-go-go.”
And I kept thinking: I should be doing more. I should be feeling more grateful.
But instead, I paused — just for a moment — and asked myself:
“𝑾𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒂𝒎 𝑰 𝒈𝒓𝒂𝒕𝒆𝒇𝒖𝒍 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒕𝒐𝒅𝒂𝒚?”

Not a list.
Not a journal prompt.
Just one honest moment.

And to my surprise, my nervous system softened.
Not because life was perfect — but because I let one good thing matter.

✨𝑻𝒉𝒊𝒔 𝒊𝒔 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒓𝒆𝒎𝒊𝒏𝒅𝒆𝒓:
You don’t need endless gratitude.
Just one moment of pause.

𝐇𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐭𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐝 𝐚 𝐠𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐭𝐮𝐝𝐞 𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐮𝐚𝐥 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐮𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐤𝐬 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐛𝐫𝐚𝐢𝐧?
𝐈’𝐝 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐫 — 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭’𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐠𝐨-𝐭𝐨 𝐰𝐚𝐲 𝐭𝐨 𝐩𝐚𝐮𝐬𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐟𝐢𝐧𝐝 𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐠𝐨𝐨𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠?

11/25/2025

𝐖𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟-𝐭𝐚𝐥𝐤 𝐢𝐬 𝐛𝐫𝐮𝐭𝐚𝐥 … 𝐃𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐬𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐮𝐩?

As we wrapped our final session of the 𝐹𝑖𝑛𝑑 𝑌𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝐴𝐷𝐻𝐷 𝐹𝑙𝑜𝑤 4-𝑀𝑜𝑛𝑡ℎ 𝑃𝑟𝑜𝑔𝑟𝑎𝑚 last night, I was deeply moved.

This group was different. Everyone in the group was grappling with intense, unrelenting negative self-talk. The kind that makes it hard to show up. The kind that convinces you you're too broken, too far gone, no one wants you.

I reached out to a colleague to get ideas to adapt it to EFT tapping. Everyone agreed we’d do this during one of our groups - and when we did things shifted:
"𝐸𝑣𝑒𝑛 𝑡h𝑜𝑢𝑔h 𝐼’𝑚 h𝑎𝑣𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑛𝑒𝑔𝑎𝑡𝑖𝑣𝑒 𝑠𝑒𝑙𝑓-𝑡𝑎𝑙𝑘 𝑜𝑟 𝑛𝑜𝑡 𝑓𝑒𝑒𝑙𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑚𝑜𝑡𝑖𝑣𝑎𝑡𝑒𝑑, 𝐼 𝑑𝑒𝑒𝑝𝑙𝑦 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑐𝑜𝑚𝑝𝑙𝑒𝑡𝑒𝑙𝑦 𝑙𝑜𝑣𝑒 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑎𝑐𝑐𝑒𝑝𝑡 𝑚𝑦𝑠𝑒𝑙𝑓 𝑗𝑢𝑠𝑡 𝑎𝑠 𝐼 𝑎𝑚.”

And then last night I heard …
"𝐓𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐤 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐦𝐞. 𝐈 𝐟𝐞𝐥𝐭 𝐢𝐧𝐯𝐢𝐬𝐢𝐛𝐥𝐞. 𝐁𝐲 𝐬𝐡𝐨𝐰𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐮𝐩, 𝐈 𝐦𝐚𝐝𝐞 𝐦𝐲𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐚𝐯𝐚𝐢𝐥𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞 𝐬𝐞𝐞𝐧. 𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐧𝐨 𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐚 𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐯𝐚𝐥𝐮𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐰𝐚𝐬 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐦𝐞.”

It got quiet … it was deep
He was showing up raw and vulnerable, so honest -
we were all deeply touched … and honored.

We don't heal in isolation. 𝑾𝒆 𝒉𝒆𝒂𝒍 𝒊𝒏 𝒄𝒐𝒎𝒎𝒖𝒏𝒊𝒕𝒚, 𝒊𝒏 𝒃𝒆𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒏𝒆𝒔𝒔𝒆𝒅, 𝒊𝒏 𝒂𝒍𝒍𝒐𝒘𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒐𝒖𝒓𝒔𝒆𝒍𝒗𝒆𝒔 𝒕𝒐 𝒃𝒆 𝒔𝒆𝒆𝒏 … even when it’s messy.

This Thanksgiving, I'm deeply grateful for this brave group. For their honesty. Their resilience. Their willingness to show up.

If you’re reading this and you’ve been feeling invisible — I hope you know:
𝑌𝑜𝑢’𝑟𝑒 𝑛𝑜𝑡 𝑎𝑙𝑜𝑛𝑒! 𝐴𝑛𝑑 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑑𝑒𝑠𝑒𝑟𝑣𝑒 𝑡𝑜 𝑏𝑒 𝑠𝑒𝑒𝑛 𝑡𝑜𝑜!

👉 Just curious: 𝑾𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒉𝒆𝒍𝒑𝒔 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒇𝒆𝒆𝒍 𝒔𝒆𝒆𝒏 - 𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒏 𝒘𝒉𝒆𝒏 𝒊𝒕’𝒔 𝒉𝒂𝒓𝒅 𝒕𝒐 𝒔𝒉𝒐𝒘 𝒖𝒑?

11/24/2025

Here’s the truth: your ADHD brain isn’t the problem. The pressure is.

Holidays come with noise, emotions, expectations, sensory overwhelm, and the unspoken rule that we’re supposed to “hold it all together.”

But your brain deserves spaciousness.
Your nervous system deserves gentleness.
You deserve ease.

These 4 simple steps can help you create a Thanksgiving that feels calmer, kinder, and more ADHD-friendly — starting today. 🍂

Tell me:
What’s one tiny shift your nervous system needs right now? ✨

11/12/2025

𝐒𝐡𝐞 𝐝𝐢𝐝𝐧’𝐭 𝐤𝐧𝐨𝐰 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 ‘𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐜𝐭𝐮𝐫𝐞’ 𝐦𝐞𝐚𝐧𝐭 ... 𝐮𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐥 𝐬𝐡𝐞 𝐫𝐞𝐛𝐮𝐢𝐥𝐭 𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐛𝐫𝐚𝐢𝐧.

I came back from vacation already behind.
The to-do list felt like quicksand.
Everything felt urgent. Nothing felt clear.

And then I had a session with Shari.

She used to dive into ideas with no plan — just pure reaction.
She didn’t know what people meant by “structure.”
When she had her business, it held her up. 𝐵𝑢𝑡 𝑜𝑛𝑐𝑒 𝑠ℎ𝑒 𝑟𝑒𝑡𝑖𝑟𝑒𝑑, 𝑖𝑡 𝑎𝑙𝑙 𝑐𝑜𝑙𝑙𝑎𝑝𝑠𝑒𝑑.
She was floating ... no roadmap, no anchor.

𝑩𝒖𝒕 𝒏𝒐𝒘?
She handles surprise situations calmly.
She breaks things down step-by-step.
She plans her week. Looks ahead. Adjusts when things shift.
𝑯𝒆𝒓 𝒑𝒂𝒓𝒕𝒏𝒆𝒓 𝒌𝒆𝒆𝒑𝒔 𝒂𝒔𝒌𝒊𝒏𝒈, “𝑾𝒉𝒐 𝒂𝒓𝒆 𝒚𝒐𝒖?”

Shari lit up and shared how connected she feels to herself now —
how she can actually see her week and navigate it in a way that makes sense for her brain.

𝐓𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐢𝐬 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐫𝐞𝐛𝐮𝐢𝐥𝐝𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐥𝐨𝐨𝐤𝐬 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞.
Not overnight. Not easy. But real.
Several months of showing up.
Mini tantrums. Small wins. New wiring.

𝑺𝒉𝒂𝒓𝒊 𝑴𝒂𝒅𝒆 𝒎𝒚 𝑫𝑨𝒀 !!
You’re not lazy. Or broken. Or too far gone.

You just might need a way to build what your brain never got taught!

𝐄𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐟𝐞𝐥𝐭 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐦𝐢𝐬𝐬𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐜𝐥𝐚𝐬𝐬 𝐨𝐧 ‘𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞 𝐚 𝐟𝐮𝐧𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚𝐝𝐮𝐥𝐭’? Actually, me too.

11/04/2025

𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐲 𝐒𝐚𝐲 𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐬𝐞 𝐓𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐙𝐞𝐫𝐨 𝐓𝐚𝐥𝐞𝐧𝐭. 𝐁𝐮𝐭 𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐲 𝐓𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐒𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐄𝐥𝐬𝐞 …

There’s this list going around …

10 things that 𝑟𝑒𝑞𝑢𝑖𝑟𝑒 𝑧𝑒𝑟𝑜 𝑡𝑎𝑙𝑒𝑛𝑡 𝑏𝑢𝑡 𝑒𝑎𝑟𝑛 100% 𝑟𝑒𝑠𝑝𝑒𝑐𝑡.

𝐓𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐥𝐢𝐬𝐭 𝐛𝐫𝐨𝐤𝐞 𝐦𝐞 — 𝐮𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐥 𝐈 𝐬𝐚𝐰 𝐢𝐭 𝐝𝐢𝐟𝐟𝐞𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐥𝐲.

Show up on time. Be prepared. Work hard. Have energy.
You’ve seen it.

And for a long time, I hated that list.
Not because it isn’t true — but because I 𝑤𝑎𝑛𝑡𝑒𝑑 to do those things.
I just couldn’t always do them.

I was late — even when I set alarms.
I wasn’t fully prepared — even though I obsessed over getting it right.
I tried so hard. And still, I fell short.

The message I got (and told myself) was:
𝐈𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐜𝐚𝐧’𝐭 𝐝𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐞 “𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐲 𝐬𝐭𝐮𝐟𝐟,” 𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐜𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝 𝐚𝐧𝐲𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐩𝐞𝐜𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮?

I lived in that story for a long time.

Until one of my consultants, someone I respected deeply, helped me see what I couldn’t:
That 𝐈 𝐡𝐚𝐝 𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐠𝐭𝐡𝐬. That 𝐭𝐫𝐲𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐦𝐚𝐭𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐞𝐝. That 𝐈 𝐰𝐚𝐬𝐧’𝐭 𝐛𝐫𝐨𝐤𝐞𝐧 — 𝐣𝐮𝐬𝐭 𝐰𝐢𝐫𝐞𝐝 𝐝𝐢𝐟𝐟𝐞𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐥𝐲.

The shift?

Owning my strengths even while still figuring some things out.
Asking for help with social stuff.
Taking breaks during the hard moments instead of pushing through.
And eventually, finding a job where I didn’t have to contort myself to fit in — I could just be me.

Now? I help others walk that same path.

Because 𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐩𝐞𝐜𝐭 shouldn’t only belong to those who can check all 10 boxes.
It 𝐬𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝 𝐢𝐧𝐜𝐥𝐮𝐝𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐬𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐮𝐬 𝐰𝐡𝐨 𝐤𝐞𝐞𝐩 𝐬𝐡𝐨𝐰𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐮𝐩 — 𝐦𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐲, 𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐞, 𝐛𝐮𝐭 𝐧𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐠𝐢𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐮𝐩..

10/31/2025

This is really true about Executive Function. While might not be hard for many, this can be really hard for those of us who have ADHD or are Neurodivergent.

What do you think about this? Do you find it true??

Almost all of these things require executive functioning skills. 🧐

10/28/2025

𝐀𝐃𝐇𝐃 𝐛𝐫𝐚𝐢𝐧𝐬 𝐃𝐨𝐧’𝐭 𝐫𝐮𝐧 𝐨𝐧 𝐃𝐞𝐚𝐝𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐞𝐬. 𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐲 𝐫𝐮𝐧 𝐨𝐧 𝐃𝐨𝐩𝐚𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐞!

I had this 𝑔𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑡 𝑝𝑜𝑠𝑡 𝑖𝑑𝑒𝑎 … on 𝐅𝐫𝐢𝐝𝐚𝐲.
But I was sprinting from appointment to appointment. 𝑵𝒐 𝒕𝒊𝒎𝒆!
Then came Saturday - Time, Yes … Inspiration? Nada.
Classic ADHD move.

By 𝑺𝒖𝒏𝒅𝒂𝒚 𝒏𝒊𝒈𝒉𝒕 𝑰'𝒎 𝑫𝒀𝑰𝑵𝑮!! Monday morning I'm googling “why can’t I write the thing I wanted to write three days ago?”
𝑆𝑝𝑜𝑖𝑙𝑒𝑟 𝐴𝑙𝑒𝑟𝑡: 𝑨𝑫𝑯𝑫 𝒃𝒓𝒂𝒊𝒏𝒔 𝒓𝒖𝒏 𝒐𝒏 𝒊𝒏𝒕𝒆𝒓𝒆𝒔𝒕, 𝒏𝒐𝒕 𝒊𝒎𝒑𝒐𝒓𝒕𝒂𝒏𝒄𝒆.

What helped?
I called a friend and we laughed. About nothing and everything.
That little spark? It brought the idea back.

This is also how I help my clients - to 𝐟𝐢𝐧𝐝 𝐟𝐮𝐧, 𝐦𝐞𝐚𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐟𝐮𝐥 𝐰𝐚𝐲𝐬 𝑡𝑜 𝑠𝑡𝑎𝑟𝑡 (even when their brain says: nope).
Tricks and hacks are fine, but 𝒄𝒐𝒏𝒏𝒆𝒄𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏 often 𝒈𝒆𝒕𝒔 𝒖𝒔 𝒖𝒏𝒔𝒕𝒖𝒄𝒌 faster than 𝑎𝑛𝑦 𝑡𝑜-𝑑𝑜 𝑙𝑖𝑠𝑡.

𝑆𝑜 𝐼’𝑚 𝑐𝑢𝑟𝑖𝑜𝑢𝑠 …
𝑾𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒅𝒐 𝒀𝑶𝑼 𝒅𝒐 𝒕𝒐 𝒇𝒊𝒏𝒅 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒔𝒑𝒂𝒓𝒌 𝒂𝒈𝒂𝒊𝒏?

10/24/2025

𝐇𝐞 𝐟𝐞𝐥𝐭 𝐡𝐨𝐩𝐞𝐥𝐞𝐬𝐬 - 𝐮𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐥 𝐰𝐞 𝐭𝐮𝐫𝐧𝐞𝐝 𝐢𝐭 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐨 𝐚 𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐠𝐲.

He thought he was just going to have to go through life in a constant state of chaos.
Always overwhelmed. Always a step behind.
A day late, a dollar short.

He told me he hated how often he forgot to follow up with clients; how disappointing that must feel to them. And how technology and planning tools that should be simple just weren’t.
He felt like a failure. Sometimes even “stupid.”

It wasn’t that he didn’t want help. He just didn’t even know how to ask for the kind of help he needed.
And the help he had tried? Training videos, tips, systems ... they just made him feel more overwhelmed.
None of it helped him create real, lasting change.

But during our session, we looked at one quarterly task that had always triggered him.
We walked through it together ... step by step.
Named the parts, simplified the categories, built a custom strategy. And added a gentle reminder to his calendar to prep for it before the overwhelm set in.

In that moment, his whole face shifted.
From stress and dread … to awe and excitement.
For the first time, he believed:
🧠 “There’s nothing wrong with me. My brain just works differently ... and that’s okay.”
🛠 “I can build systems that fit how I think.”
🌱 “This doesn’t have to be hard forever.”

Now?
He’s getting back to clients on time.
He’s feeling proud and hopeful.
He sees a path forward that works ... one step, one small win at a time.

That’s what happens when we stop trying to force ourselves into systems that weren’t built for us and start creating brain-friendly strategies that actually fit.

If you’ve ever felt behind, overwhelmed, or just … broken, please know this:
You’re not.
You’re not broken.
You just haven’t had the kind of help that meets your brain where it is.

And when you do, everything changes! I Promise!!
Isn't it time you get the help and support that works for you?

10/21/2025

𝐈’𝐦 𝐬𝐦𝐢𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠. 𝐁𝐮𝐭 𝐦𝐲 𝐍𝐞𝐫𝐯𝐨𝐮𝐬 𝐒𝐲𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐦? 𝐒𝐜𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐠!!

This 𝑐𝑙𝑜𝑤𝑛 𝑛𝑒𝑎𝑟𝑙𝑦 𝑠𝑒𝑛𝑡 𝑚𝑒 𝑖𝑛𝑡𝑜 𝑠𝑒𝑛𝑠𝑜𝑟𝑦 𝑜𝑣𝑒𝑟𝑙𝑜𝑎𝑑. 😳
(Yes, that’s me smiling … but my nervous system? Not so smiling.)

𝐇𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐨𝐰𝐞𝐞𝐧 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐛𝐞 𝐟𝐮𝐧 ... 𝐮𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐥 𝐢𝐭’𝐬 𝐧𝐨𝐭.

You’re surrounded by flashing lights, shrieking skeletons, and bloody faces …
Your body tightens.
Your brain goes foggy.
And suddenly, it’s all too much.

𝑫𝒊𝒅 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒌𝒏𝒐𝒘 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 44% 𝒐𝒇 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒃𝒓𝒂𝒊𝒏’𝒔 𝒆𝒏𝒆𝒓𝒈𝒚 𝒈𝒐𝒆𝒔 𝒕𝒐 𝒑𝒓𝒐𝒄𝒆𝒔𝒔𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒗𝒊𝒔𝒖𝒂𝒍 𝒊𝒏𝒑𝒖𝒕?
That means bright, crowded, stimulating places can wipe you out fast - especially if you’re wired a little differently (like I am).

𝐒𝐞𝐧𝐬𝐨𝐫𝐲 𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐥𝐨𝐚𝐝 𝐢𝐬 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐥! And you’re not “too sensitive” for feeling it. What you need are strategies to REGULATE!
You’re just human. And 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑏𝑟𝑎𝑖𝑛 𝑖𝑠 𝑑𝑜𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑖𝑡𝑠 𝑏𝑒𝑠𝑡 𝑡𝑜 𝑘𝑒𝑒𝑝 𝑢𝑝.

👉 𝑆𝑜 𝑡𝑒𝑙𝑙 𝑚𝑒 …
What do you do when the world feels like too much?
𝐃𝐫𝐨𝐩 𝐚 𝐭𝐢𝐩 𝐛𝐞𝐥𝐨𝐰 ... 𝐨𝐫 just say “ 𝐬𝐚𝐦𝐞” if this hit home.

10/15/2025

𝑨𝑫𝑯𝑫 𝒐𝒇𝒕𝒆𝒏 𝒎𝒆𝒂𝒏𝒔 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒚 𝑺𝒆𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝑾𝒊𝒏 … 𝑩𝒖𝒕 𝑴𝒊𝒔𝒔 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝑾𝒂𝒓!

I had just finished a presentation.
𝐈𝐭 𝐰𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐰𝐞𝐥𝐥. 𝐈𝐭 𝐮𝐬𝐮𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐝𝐨𝐞𝐬.
That’s part of the maddening magic of ADHD.

𝑩𝒖𝒕 𝒍𝒆𝒂𝒅𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒖𝒑 𝒕𝒐 𝒊𝒕 … 𝑰 𝒘𝒂𝒔 𝒘𝒓𝒆𝒄𝒌𝒆𝒅.

The 𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠, the 𝐬𝐞𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐝-𝐠𝐮𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐠, the 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟-𝐣𝐮𝐝𝐠𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭:
“Why did I even say yes to this?”
“I’m not ready.”
“It’s not perfect — not even close.”

𝑇ℎ𝑎𝑡 𝑖𝑛𝑛𝑒𝑟 𝑠𝑤𝑖𝑟𝑙? Exhausting.

Afterwards, I 𝐝𝐢𝐝𝐧’𝐭 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐜𝐞𝐥𝐞𝐛𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐞.
𝑰 𝒏𝒆𝒆𝒅𝒆𝒅 𝒕𝒐 𝒆𝒔𝒄𝒂𝒑𝒆 …
get to 𝐨𝐩𝐞𝐧 𝐬𝐩𝐚𝐜𝐞,
𝐛𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐡𝐞,
𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐛𝐚𝐜𝐤 𝐭𝐨 𝐦𝐲𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟.

People think I’m doing great. That I’ve got it all together.
But what they 𝑑𝑜𝑛’𝑡 𝑠𝑒𝑒 is the 𝒄𝒉𝒂𝒐𝒔 𝒂𝒕 𝒉𝒐𝒎𝒆, the piles, the scattered energy.
What they 𝑑𝑜𝑛’𝑡 ℎ𝑒𝑎𝑟 are the 𝒘𝒉𝒊𝒔𝒑𝒆𝒓𝒔 𝒐𝒇 𝒔𝒆𝒍𝒇-𝒅𝒐𝒖𝒃𝒕 still hanging in the air long after the applause.

I’ve lived this. And I see it in my clients too.
So many 𝐛𝐞𝐚𝐮𝐭𝐢𝐟𝐮𝐥, 𝐛𝐫𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐡𝐮𝐦𝐚𝐧𝐬 who 𝐥𝐨𝐨𝐤 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐲’𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐫𝐢𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠 …
but are 𝒒𝒖𝒊𝒆𝒕𝒍𝒚 𝒂𝒔𝒌𝒊𝒏𝒈, “𝑾𝒉𝒂𝒕’𝒔 𝒘𝒓𝒐𝒏𝒈 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒎𝒆?”
Especially 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐛𝐫𝐚𝐢𝐧𝐬 𝐝𝐨𝐧’𝐭 𝐟𝐨𝐥𝐥𝐨𝐰 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐫𝐮𝐥𝐞.

Pretending everything’s okay?
That kind of masking … 𝒊𝒕 𝒉𝒂𝒔 𝒂 𝒄𝒐𝒔.
It’s kept me from asking for help.
From letting people see me.

And that’s why I care so deeply now.
Because someone has to say it:
𝒀𝒐𝒖 𝒂𝒓𝒆 𝒏𝒐𝒕 𝒃𝒓𝒐𝒌𝒆𝒏!
𝒀𝒐𝒖 𝒂𝒓𝒆 𝒏𝒐𝒕 𝒂𝒍𝒐𝒏𝒆!
We humans are NOT meant to do this alone!

𝐴 𝑐𝑙𝑖𝑒𝑛𝑡 𝑜𝑛𝑐𝑒 𝑡𝑜𝑙𝑑 𝑚𝑒: “𝑌𝑜𝑢 𝑠𝑝𝑒𝑎𝑘 𝑚𝑦 𝑙𝑎𝑛𝑔𝑢𝑎𝑔𝑒. 𝐼’𝑣𝑒 𝑛𝑒𝑣𝑒𝑟 ℎ𝑒𝑎𝑟𝑑 𝑎𝑛𝑦𝑜𝑛𝑒 𝑝𝑢𝑡 𝑖𝑡 𝑖𝑛𝑡𝑜 𝑤𝑜𝑟𝑑𝑠 𝑙𝑖𝑘𝑒 𝑡ℎ𝑎𝑡 .”
That’s what I’m here for.

𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐝𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐰𝐢𝐬𝐡 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐭𝐨𝐨𝐝 𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐛𝐞𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐝-𝐭𝐡𝐞-𝐬𝐜𝐞𝐧𝐞𝐬?

10/13/2025

𝐈𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐀𝐃𝐇𝐃 𝐂𝐨𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐓𝐢𝐦𝐞, 𝐌𝐨𝐧𝐞𝐲, 𝐨𝐫 𝐑𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩𝐬?

If you 𝑓𝑒𝑙𝑡 𝑎 𝑔𝑢𝑡 𝑝𝑢𝑛𝑐ℎ reading that, 𝑦𝑜𝑢'𝑟𝑒 𝑛𝑜𝑡 𝑎𝑙𝑜𝑛𝑒.
AND It Doesn’t have to Stay this Way.

On 𝐎𝐜𝐭𝐨𝐛𝐞𝐫 𝟏𝟖𝐭𝐡, I’m leading a 90-minute virtual workshop
👉 𝐅𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐅𝐫𝐚𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐜 𝐭𝐨 𝐅𝐫𝐞𝐞𝐝𝐨𝐦 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐀𝐃𝐇𝐃

You’ll walk away with 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐥, 𝐩𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐜𝐚𝐥 𝐭𝐨𝐨𝐥𝐬 to manage ADHD overwhelm - and finally feel more 𝐅𝐨𝐜𝐮𝐬𝐞𝐝, 𝐆𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐝, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐈𝐧 𝐂𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐥.

If you're anything like me (or my clients), you need to get this on your calendar now … or it might slip away.
𝑪𝒍𝒊𝒄𝒌 𝒐𝒏 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒍𝒊𝒏𝒌 in comments ⬇️ and 𝑺𝒊𝒈𝒏 𝑼𝒑 𝑵𝑶𝑾!!!

✨ 𝐉𝐮𝐬𝐭 𝐚 𝐟𝐞𝐰 𝐬𝐩𝐨𝐭𝐬 𝐥𝐞𝐟𝐭.

Simple! Powerful! Doable!
𝑳𝒆𝒕’𝒔 𝒈𝒆𝒕 𝒀𝒐𝒖 𝑺𝒐𝒎𝒆 𝑭𝒓𝒆𝒆𝒅𝒐𝒎 𝑩𝒂𝒄𝒌!

10/09/2025

𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐲 𝐰𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐬𝐜𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐝 𝐈 𝐰𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝𝐧’𝐭 𝐦𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐈𝐭 … 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐬𝐨 𝐰𝐚𝐬 𝐈

Years ago 𝐈 𝐝𝐢𝐝𝐧’𝐭 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞 𝐚 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐚𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐭 𝐢𝐧 𝐩𝐫𝐢𝐯𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝐩𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐜𝐞.
My dream was to work in a preschool program; but that job disappeared and I had to pivot.

Starting a practice was overwhelming. I had 𝐧𝐨 𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐚 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐫𝐭 or how to do it. Those close to me 𝐰𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐬𝐜𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐝 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐦𝐞, 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐠𝐨𝐨𝐝 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐨𝐧!!

I 𝐟𝐨𝐥𝐥𝐨𝐰𝐞𝐝 𝐦𝐲 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐭 and began 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐧𝐞𝐮𝐫𝐨𝐝𝐢𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐠𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐤𝐢𝐝𝐬 and their parents. While I 𝐝𝐢𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬 𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲 𝐝𝐢𝐟𝐟𝐞𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐥𝐲 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐧 𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐬, whatever I was doing 𝐢𝐭 𝐖𝐎𝐑𝐊𝐄𝐃!!

The 𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐬 𝐰𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐞𝐱𝐡𝐚𝐮𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐝 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐭𝐛𝐫𝐨𝐤𝐞𝐧, not knowing how to help their children.
And 𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐭𝐥𝐞 𝐛𝐲 𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐭𝐥𝐞, 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬 𝐠𝐨𝐭 𝐛𝐞𝐭𝐭𝐞𝐫: fewer meltdowns, more calm, more smiles.

𝐓𝐡𝐚𝐭’𝐬 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐤𝐞𝐩𝐭 𝐦𝐞 𝐠𝐨𝐢𝐧𝐠 ... 𝐡𝐞𝐥𝐩𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐟𝐚𝐦𝐢𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐬 𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐲’𝐫𝐞 𝐰𝐢𝐫𝐞𝐝 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐟𝐢𝐧𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐟𝐢𝐧𝐝 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐟.

Some shared things no one says out loud like, "𝐈 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐥𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐭𝐨𝐩 𝐬𝐨 𝐈 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐠𝐞𝐭 𝐨𝐟𝐟."

𝐓𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐦𝐚𝐝𝐞 𝐬𝐞𝐧𝐬𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐦𝐞. They weren’t bad. Just 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐝𝐞𝐬𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐚𝐥𝐨𝐧𝐞.
Until they 𝐠𝐨𝐭 𝐬𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐔𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐝𝐢𝐧𝐠. A 𝐍𝐞𝐰 𝐖𝐚𝐲 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐇𝐄𝐋𝐏𝐄𝐃!

One parent told me,
“I can finally 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐦𝐲 𝐜𝐡𝐢𝐥𝐝 𝐚𝐠𝐚𝐢𝐧. And I 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐈 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞.”

𝐓𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐤 𝐢𝐬 𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐧𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 - with our kids, our partners, ourselves.
𝐍𝐨𝐭 𝐟𝐢𝐱𝐢𝐧𝐠.
𝐔𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐝𝐢𝐧𝐠.

𝐖𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐢𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐭𝐫𝐲𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐨 ‘𝐟𝐢𝐱’ 𝐢𝐭 𝐢𝐧𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐚𝐝 𝐨𝐟 𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐝?